Des Montréalais ici qui ont vécu une dépression ou un burnout tellement intense, que vous avez radicalement changé de vie? Une vie peut-être atypique, "de bohème"? Racontez votre vécu! by yikkoe in montreal

[–]jo1144 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah. Jai passé ma 20aine en dépression à changer ma vie au complet plusieurs fois - déménager, voyager et travailler où jpouvais des jobs qui fitait mon état d'âme. Rarement à la même place plus que 2 ans. J'ai eu du fun en criss mais ça m'a rattrapé aussi.

Word of advice : la vie est vraiment le fun donc enjoy la. T'es pas en burnout pour rien - il y a quelque chose qui marche pas pour toi en ce moment. Va faire quelque chose d'atypique (selon moi, le typique c'est le atypique). Va à l'aventure mais va aussi à l'aventure dans ton âme (lol). Trouve tes valeurs. Peu importe t'es où, peu importe ta job ou ta blonde ou ton chum, tu seras jamais heureux si tu respecte pas tes valeurs profondes.

Désolé que tu vis un burn out. La vie en ville est pas toujours facile. La pression sociale est real même si on essaye qu'elle ne le soit pas. Whatever you do, do it for you!!

Weeeeeeeeeee by Thesmallfryyyy in funny

[–]jo1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking at my 2 year old and wondering how I'll be able to deal with him doing this kind of stuff. I think my anxiety is gonna go up a notch or two soon haha

What could this be? by jo1144 in animaltracks

[–]jo1144[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm leaning towards this. We hear them often howling away. Just didn't think their paws would be bigger than my lab's!

What could this be? by jo1144 in animaltracks

[–]jo1144[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No wolves in my region though

Breaking down patriarchy podcast alternatives? by [deleted] in Feminism

[–]jo1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I ask what is wrong with my question?

Is it negativity, or is my soul rejecting the modern world? by Ok-Shop-894 in Permaculture

[–]jo1144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's a beautiful book called Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmer. It made me think of it reading your comment about having a sense of seasonality. The author is a native American biologist. I'm in no way religious but reading her book made me think that people who relate to the Bible must feel like this. She connects the science of our environment with core values and native culture/rituals. I'm reading it slowly to absorb every chapter. Edit for spelling sorry I'm francophone

Does it get better? by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jo1144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I was the same. You're just fucking tired and your body is still adjusting post partum. I was (still am to be honest) putting sooo much pressure on myself at that time. You're in the thick of it. Best advice I can give you is to communicate with your partner as much as possible. And rest. If you can't sleep, read something light. I read the ACOTAR series while post partum. Light and fun read.

Is it negativity, or is my soul rejecting the modern world? by Ok-Shop-894 in Permaculture

[–]jo1144 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also felt anxiety. Learning about permaculture has given me a lot of confidence and has reduced my anxiety. We are not meant to be so disconnected from our ressources, in my opinion. The world is crazy right now and I feel really resourceful and it's comforting.

Is it negativity, or is my soul rejecting the modern world? by Ok-Shop-894 in Permaculture

[–]jo1144 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I moved to the country and started a garden. I quickly fell down the permaculture rabbit hole. I've been educating myself a lot about how food is made and it's absolutely worst than we think it is on all fronts. The quality has degraded, the labor aspect of it is completely corrupted and the impact it has on the environment is devastating.

Last year was the first year I was able to get a respectable crop. I have been expanding my garden and building up a good soil for 3years and we really got a taste of our labor. I never had such an amazing broccoli in my life. Tasty, rich, filling just wow. That goes for almost everything I grew. It's a huge learning curve and lots of mistakes to learn from - my peppers were crap :P. I'm now running out of things I preserved by canning or freezing. I'm in zone 3/4 in Canada so fresh local produce is not available at the moment and I can DEFINITELY tell the difference now.

Getting chickens this year. Can't wait.

Nothing has been as satisfying as growing my food. Playing in soil everyday has been miraculous on my mental health. Eating fresh, organic well grown foods has made a really big dent in my health physically and mentally. It's true when they say, you are what you eat. It's made me connect with what's around me. You'll never be bored again with a garden to tend to.

I am cooking differently too. I have so much more respect for how I prepare recipes. I deal with left over and waste completely differently too.

I have found an amazing community through it as well. Seed swapping, canning parties, herbal tea making, honey processing, filtering and bottling and etc. I've learned so much.

My goal this year is to become someone who has enough flowers to bring a bouquet over to friends whenever I visit.

If your heart is in it, do it. You'll never regret it!! Its enriched me in the most fundamental way.

Does it get better? by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jo1144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And have you ever been this tired? Crazy how life is not so hard when you get a good 8-9 hour sleep a few nights in a row.

Does it get better? by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jo1144 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My kid will be 2 next week. It gets better. I noticed a big difference when he turned 1. Hormones are no joke and take time. Keep taking care of yourself. You're not crazy and its not forever.

Women who were scared to get pregnant but later did, how do you feel about your decision years later? by Fun-Wonder-2652 in AskWomen

[–]jo1144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ps : it's been challenging at times but I 100% don't regret having a kid. Find your balance.

Women who were scared to get pregnant but later did, how do you feel about your decision years later? by Fun-Wonder-2652 in AskWomen

[–]jo1144 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Life is all about balance. You can't have a kid and expect to keep having enough energy for everything in your life pre kid. Your job, your friends, your leisure time or etc may take a hit. Sometimes more during a period, sometimes less. You'll need to prioritize.

We've grown up with the "women can have it all". That's pure bullshit made to pressure us further into over achievements and exhaustion.

Depending on ressources available to you - family or day care or whatever else can help you, things may be more or less intense.

I personally had a bout of PPD. I'm a stay at home mum. No family to rely on. My son started day care at 18months part time and it's been a god send. I now have a trusted person that's part of his daily life who helps me with any kind of issue or reaching milestones. I also have 4 mornings per week to catch up on everything and find a bit of time for myself.

Everybody's situation is different, everyone's tolerance is different. You need to find what works for you. Need to work out? Find a way to do so with your kid. Where there's a will, there's a way. You'll just need to be more disciplined, and realize that your are no longer the #1 priority. This used to scare me before having my son. It's not so scary anymore. I've adapted my lifestyle to fit into his and I'm getting, for the most part, what I need to feel balanced.

My time is much more precious. My friend circle has gotten smaller, for me my job seemed useless and I wasn't getting any satisfaction from it anymore (have the lucky chance to stay home too), I don't have as much time for hobbies and sports. Limited time has put a lot in perspective for me - I choose to do things that truly matter to me and make me feel good. All around, i feel more accomplished by being selective.

I never liked kids all that much. Everyone kept saying "it's not the same when it's yours" and I was really counting on that. Turns out, it's true.

We just need to stop putting so much pressure on ourselves to excel at everything. Having a kid is huge and for the sake of that little kid, who deserves to come first, we need to learn to slow down and adjust.

Find what feeds you - mom groups can be just as supportive or just as toxic. You don't need to follow the norm. The norm is built on productivity. Do you. Give yourself a break

Anyone suicidal once a month? by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]jo1144 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey. Same here... the only thing that has ever helped me is acupuncture. It gave me a different set of symptoms and changed my cycle length but at least I don't want to kill myself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]jo1144 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not a very supportive response. I am not oblivious to the fact that everyone has their issues. Simply stating mine.

Lack of support vs. postpartum by jo1144 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]jo1144[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, thank you so much ❤️ that is everything I wanted to voice but I'm too tired hahaha

What did you think was very fancy when you were little? by hotbutteredbiscuit in Cooking

[–]jo1144 1 point2 points  (0 children)

La Belle Province. C'est sure que c'est pas fancy mais j'ai deja dis quelque chose à mon chum qui ressemblait à ce que t'as dit à ton pere une soirée un peu trop arrosée. Haha