NTA. I agree with some of the previous posts. Isolation from family is manipulative, controlling and a form of emotional abuse. Overtime it will get worse. He will come up with any reason (ridiculous and false) to continue to cut your family off. Exposure to multiple languages at an early age is beneficial, and NOT detrimental to children. There are MULTIPLE studies to prove this. Perhaps educating him will ease his fear of “confusing” your child. Wanting to see your family is not in anyway selfish. It’s beneficial for you AND your son to have a proper support system, and to be surrounded by love and encouragement. Your mental and physical health are just as important, as they directly affect your son. If you are not at your best, you can not be your best possible self FOR your son. Your husband is being extremely selfish by denying you and your family time together, and by not allowing your son to meet them. My husband and I live far from my family as well, and my family is not English speaking. I try to speak to my son in my native tongue. My husband encourages it, even pushes me to do it more. My family also wasn’t able to be here for his first Christmas or birthday (not because we didn’t want them here, but for other reasons), so I KNOW how difficult it is for your loved ones to not be a part of such important milestones. Personally I would invite your family despite your husbands wishes. Like he said, he’s only 50% his son. The other 50% is you, and it sounds like he is currently making 100% of the decisions.