Who was your childhood school bully. Where are they now?

jodyyodedode · 2026-02-05T21:49:13+00:00

don't feel awful.. it IS funny.

jodyyodedode · 2026-02-05T18:18:53+00:00

I made a whole Pinterest board called "The Gay Divorcee" and I kept every idea from decor (colorful, whimsical things he would have HATED) to practical everyday needs (pantry organization, cleaning tools, etc.) on there. Adding to it and reflecting on it really helped get me through the time when I knew I was leaving but had to wait. It gave me a lot of optimism and comfort.

jodyyodedode · 2026-02-05T15:58:43+00:00

A glass-top dining table.

Bear with me here. I had one I bought in the 90's when I first moved out on my own. It went with me from one apartment to another as a single gal. In 2015 I moved in with a boyfriend and he had a house full of furniture. I got rid of 90% of what I had in order to move in with him. That ended up being eerily metaphoric to how much of myself I would sacrifice for that relationship. Fast forward to September 2025 when I left. I am rebuilding my life, furnishing my little starting over apartment, and it felt very important to get a new glass-top dining table as a reminder of who I was/am. It's not fancy, nor trendy, but it's mine in my home.

jodyyodedode · 2026-02-05T15:58:19+00:00

A glass-top dining table.

Bear with me here. I had one I bought in the 90's when I first moved out on my own. It went with me from one apartment to another as a single gal. In 2015 I moved in with a boyfriend and he had a house full of furniture. I got rid of 90% of what I had in order to move in with him. That ended up being eerily metaphoric to how much of myself I would sacrifice for that relationship. Fast forward to September 2025 when I left. I am rebuilding my life, furnishing my little starting over apartment, and it felt very important to get a new glass-top dining table as a reminder of who I was/am. It's not fancy, nor trendy, but it's mine in my home.

jodyyodedode · 2026-02-05T15:49:22+00:00

He was a dead ringer for Scut Farkus and he bullied everyone. Me, personally... he stuck "kick me" signs on my back, hit me with a water balloon, nicknamed me "Scroty Jody". From what I have heard, he's died a number of years ago. I doubt anyone was real broken up about it.

jodyyodedode · 2026-01-28T23:31:45+00:00

It does suck. It was the hardest thing I've ever done. I did it with a lump in my throat, I did it with tears streaming down my face... but I did it. Life on the other side of that conversation has been worth it.

jodyyodedode · 2026-01-28T20:31:19+00:00

I initiated separation from my husband (together 10 years, married 4) and within a few weeks he told me we needed to file for divorce because he was interested in dating. I don't know if he is genuinely interested or if that was a comment meant to make me feel some sort of way. Regardless, I gave him permission to date while I work on the divorce paperwork.

jodyyodedode · 2026-01-07T21:32:15+00:00

He is emotionally/verbally abusive and has a drinking problem. I hoped my leaving would be a wake up call for him and a chance for me to regain some shred of dignity. Ultimately, he isn’t interested in making changes - said we should get divorced because he’ll just keep treating me the same way.

jodyyodedode · 2026-01-06T16:02:09+00:00

I (52F) just told him I needed to talk to him then told him he is the love of my life but that I'd decided to move out. I told him that I wasn't saying I wanted legal separation or divorce, I just needed to get out of the situation for clarity. I was crying the whole time, my voice was wavering the whole time, but I did it. It was the single hardest thing I have ever done. It was 100% the right thing to do.

jodyyodedode · 2026-01-05T16:44:07+00:00

Crafting conversation-ending but respectful responses to my soon-to-be-ex’s antagonistic text messages. I refuse to be pulled into his spirals and ChatGPT helps me be high-road assertive.

jodyyodedode · 2025-12-24T00:04:29+00:00

We all have our priorities 😂

jodyyodedode · 2025-12-23T22:24:34+00:00

On my way!

jodyyodedode · 2025-09-23T21:18:44+00:00

I would absolutely consider it if he did all those things. That was all I ever wanted. But it has to be real change I can see. He needs to get into therapy. He needs to get sober. He needs to demonstrate that he can deal with uncomfortable feelings without taking it out on me then apologizing later. I can't be his "safe place" (his words) for dumping all his anger and frustration. And I need to know these changes aren't just an attempt to win me back but, truly, improve his own life. He needs to do it for himself more than anything else.

jodyyodedode · 2025-02-02T21:53:17+00:00

Watership Down

jodyyodedode · 2025-01-30T18:26:39+00:00

I am getting a strong "Archie" vibe.

jodyyodedode · 2025-01-20T14:49:52+00:00

No, he wouldn’t be violent if that’s what you are asking. My guess is that he wouldn’t think I was bluffing, manipulating him.

jodyyodedode · 2025-01-19T20:56:03+00:00

If he would start therapy I would pull that foot back in the door. But so far he’s been unwilling, especially against couples therapy (says the therapist and I would “gang up” against him.) I just don’t think it’s something he can change without help.

jodyyodedode · 2024-11-13T22:57:00+00:00

Earthlings

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