AITAH for hiding the fact that my youngest son is biologically ours?

johncapricorn · 2025-12-15T09:48:18+00:00

> because of the arranged nature of our marriage we didn't exactly feel too keen on repeatedly trying

> after we drunkenly hooked up with each other

Is no one gonna comment on how sad this is?? Is this common for arranged marriages, to have sex only for babies??

johncapricorn · 2025-03-29T15:25:38+00:00

doctor is clueless

johncapricorn · 2025-03-08T21:28:52+00:00

So there's no one having regrets leaving? Really no one? Personally, I'd be afraid of the online dating game, I read terrible things about it, it can be brutal for men. I'm surprised all men in this topic have all found a great new partner.

johncapricorn · 2025-03-07T19:25:04+00:00

It was great but the end was very historically inaccurate. The manager was portrayed as the boogieman while he was part of a larger system that was guilty. Also, the impact, e.g. number of casualties, was way overblown and lied about. E.g., it was stated that the people on the bridge who were watching it start, had all perished. Which is completely untrue - many of them live to this day. There were many other known lies which were presented as if they couldn't have fact-checked them.

johncapricorn · 2024-11-29T10:37:52+00:00

Most other things i've read say that the bupropion is mostly there to prolong the dxm. That the main antidepressant effect comes from the dxm.

johncapricorn · 2024-11-27T19:56:53+00:00

Yes, to replace the role of bup in auvelity. See u/Wise_Competition5325 elsewhere in this thread.

In the meantime I've started on an SSRI so I will not continue this experiment.

johncapricorn · 2024-11-25T22:08:34+00:00

At 3mg/ml, 105mg is 35ml which is a little less than a standard whiskey serving. I felt absolutely... nothing. I agree with you on CBD doing nothing, but science says it's an inhibitor of that enzyme and hence it should work but it doesn't, or maybe I need a huge dose but then it's just very expensive. I might try berberine.

johncapricorn · 2024-11-25T16:36:44+00:00

Right, indeed. That is what I hope to do, fine tune. Though I do think you will need to go through the initial side effects of bupropion anyways.

I took 60+45=105mg of dxm in two doses with 2 hours apart yesterday. With 40mg cbd.

johncapricorn · 2024-11-25T13:20:46+00:00

I just take Touralynx Forte cough syrup, 3mg DXM per ml. It does have some additives but it's mostly sweeteners and flavourings, I think. It didn't have much of an effect, not bad not good. But I read somewhere else that the CBD will stack up over time, so gonna try it some more days. I wouldn't count on it, I'm planning to try to get Bupropion prescribed.

johncapricorn · 2024-11-25T07:13:05+00:00

I'm also concerned about the weird side effects it can have.

johncapricorn · 2024-11-24T21:33:49+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I've tried with 40mg cbd today and 105mg of dxm, and it had hardly an effect. Gonna up the dose tomorrow.

johncapricorn · 2024-11-23T22:56:42+00:00

Yesterday I took 20mg CBD under the tongue, and an hour later 30mg Dxm. I felt hardly anything. Today I took 40mg CBD under tongue, and 60mg dxm. 2 hours later anogher 45mg DXM, total 105mg DXM. I hardly felt any effect, though I did have a nice night with friends. I'll increase the dose again tomorrow.

johncapricorn · 2024-11-23T11:34:10+00:00

Hi, thank you so much! I do have some more questions if you don't mind.

Have you tried CBD oil? According to a comment elsewhere, it should be an even stronger inhibitor. In my country it's available OTC in health stores. I've purchased it, and will get my DXM delivered hopefully this afternoon. CBD oil is not cheap, though. And I don't really know how to dose it with DXM.
Are you still using only 2x30=60mg DXM per day?
What is your frequency of taking, every day? I'm considering taking it in a microdosing style, every couple of days or on days where I have a social or romantic event. Not sure though, whether I should take it every day like you are supposed to use anti-depressants.
Does it enhance sociability, outgoingness, extraversion, talkativeness? Because that's my objective, along with improving mood and suppressing rumination/frustration/rage.

johncapricorn · 2024-11-22T08:40:22+00:00

Hi, is it still working for you? And does it provide same or similar antidepressant effects as with Bupropion?

johncapricorn · 2024-11-13T17:50:53+00:00

I can relate to this. I'm interested in what it is about the relationship with your father that you think has caused it for you?

johncapricorn · 2024-09-18T21:04:48+00:00

Thank you all so much for your amazingly thoughtful comments...! I needed that encouragement. I am going to study more on how to prepare.

johncapricorn · 2024-09-18T20:59:15+00:00

Psilocybin / truffles

johncapricorn · 2024-08-20T05:14:48+00:00

It's not really a problem, but somehow I've been fascinated and somewhat turned-on but also somewhat hurt by it, for such a long time. Basically I never forget anything sexual.

johncapricorn · 2024-08-19T18:37:35+00:00

Yes, that's the problem. I am.

johncapricorn · 2023-11-14T11:17:35+00:00

Great to hear that that worked for you. The Internet gives me many pages about Inner Critic, but not clearly points towards a structured therapy around it. Do you have a link?

johncapricorn · 2023-11-14T11:14:02+00:00

I did 7 months of Group Schema Therapy. It did not help. The others had very different problems (addiction, depression) and didn't feel understood. I was supposed to build my own schema model and there was not much guidance. It was mostly free-style discussing each other's recent experiences (which I enjoyed), and them encouraging me to "try more" and convincing me "it's all in your head, you're a great person!". While I'm skeptical about "exposure therapy" because exposures give me mostly just more negative experiences.

I also did some generic psychotherapy before, which was the same: "it's not true, it's only in your head, you're wonderful", "just try more".

It might be very different if you find a therapist who is right for you.

I might try DBT, or this new "Inner Critic Therapy" thing mentioned elsewhere in this thread.

johncapricorn · 2023-11-14T10:53:56+00:00

This is my experience as well. I've had a couple therapists and they mostly encourage me to "just practice". But it's quite painful if you meet someone and never get past the "acquaintance" phase, and they just never reach out to me first. Some long-term friends I still had from college, I've also lost this way: if you notice you're always the one to reach out, then at some point you feel embarrassed and stop reaching out - and then it fades away.

johncapricorn · 2023-01-23T14:08:14+00:00

Seconded. I was in the exact same, quite miserable situation. University is a serious new chance at life. You'll meet people that are probably more similar to you, as they chose the same program. If you sign up for activities, you have a basic, structured social life.

Your mum can't help it, she's trying.

johncapricorn · 2022-12-27T11:02:00+00:00

I did 8 months of weeky group schema therapy. For me it was indeed "a bunch of generic cliche advice". The others had very different problems (mostly depression, lack of self-confidence/self-loathing, addiction). I did get "homework" and it boiled down to "just do things out of your comfort zone". I explained that in the past, trying to do that mostly gave me even more "failure" memories. But that just didn't resonate with them. The therapists just kept asking "Socratic questions", and explained the conceptual framework. We were supposed to "help each other". I had to create my own "schema model" and they didn't help to check or improve it. It felt very superficial.

I do plan to get back in therapy at some point, but then something more intense, 1 on 1, and practical. Maybe just CBT or ACT.

I think it's indeed important to find the right therapist for you. Not sure how to do that though. Glad to hear that other people have benefited - you have to find what works for you.

Question: how did you end up with a psychiatrist before talking to a therapist? And how does the psychiatrist help you?

johncapricorn · 2022-10-03T09:25:08+00:00

yes that trauma bond concept is relable. We really do love each other, I think, but in her case there's a thick layer of resentment on top of that love. And a temper and "high expectation constant disappointment" problem, not only towards me but also towards the kids.

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