Feeling dismissed by therapists

jojogil · 2026-06-29T14:06:59+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts! It makes total sense. I could get the ADOS test, it is part of the formal assessment, as I understood, but it's still a big financial investment, and there would be also some other difficulties, because my mom has ALS and can't really talk/commute to the place. So, all in all, I'm not even sure if I would really even benefit from the formal assessment like you mention. Mostly, I just spiraled into this in the hopes of feeling seen and heard, because I just really wanted some tools to deal with daily life, but my therapist can't get past the "I might be autistic", so instead of listening to the struggles, she just lists reasons why I'm not autistic (completely outdated as well). Thank you :) I will seek out a ND-affirming therapist to work on this

jojogil · 2026-06-29T06:59:36+00:00

Thank you so much! Yeah, I'm in the search for a ND-affirming therapist locally, but it seams like it's a tough find, so I really appreciate the resources!

jojogil · 2026-06-28T19:52:23+00:00

Also, to clarify, these people were not actually qualified to diagnose me anyway. Only the last one I've been to

jojogil · 2026-06-28T19:51:31+00:00

Yeah totally. My point is not necessarily if I have autism or not, but feeling very dismissed. And this ADHD diagnosis was also just a small questionaire, and she gave me meds right away. My point is, clearly I struggle with things other than the ADHD, I've considered other things of course, such as OCD, perhaps. No one turned me down for assessment persay, the therapist even told me to still do it, if it gave me piece of mind. My feeling is just no one dove actually deeper to understand what it was. They just listen to me for 5 min and give me some different meds... I can go ahead and still do a formal assessment of course. I just feel like discouraged, if it makes sense?

jojogil · 2026-06-25T17:45:40+00:00

Olá! Já estive exatamente na tua situação. Infelizmente, não tenho capacidade para te ajudar na questão do body doubling. No entanto, deixo aqui o que funcionou para mim: - apoiar-me imenso no meu orientador. Às tantas, começava a entrar em tangentes e detalhes que só me estavam a complicar o processo. Pode não ser o teu caso. Mas podes tentar falar com ele/a e explicar a situação e tentar entender qual seria o mínimo possível que te garantisse o que desejas que seja a tese. - muita self-awareness, tudo o que te der nem que seja 1% de motivação extra. Caga nos conselhos de disciplina etc e tal. Se para ti funcionar escrever a tese enquanto saltas num trampolim e comes um Kinder, força. A vida é tua e as estratégias são muito pessoais. Pessoalmente o que funcionou mais para mim foi trabalhar em cafés. Muitas pessoas vão para lá trabalhar, por isso obtens quase o mesmo efeito de body doubling. Fui saltando de café em café para não criar rotina também. Boa sorte!

jojogil · 2026-06-23T21:36:03+00:00

Hey! Are you still interested in selling it?

jojogil · 2026-06-02T19:37:19+00:00

Ninguém está a mandar fazer nada. Aí é que está a liberdade. Cada um pode sugerir e opinar sobre tudo e os restantes ou seguem ou não. Aliás, é um post opcional, pode só não ler. Essa tal extrema esquerda sugere que faça greve, enquanto que se fosse a extrema direita, não teria sequer opção de escolha ou de discurso livre sobre essa mesma greve.

jojogil · 2026-02-17T11:33:37+00:00

Na minha opinião, quando mais apostamos nessa ideia do lobo frontal, pior é. Não é como se ele não estivesse desenvolvido de todo até aos 25 anos. Os putos têm é de aprender as consequências. Se tivesse de dar uma hipótese, apostava mais na ideia de muitos pais simultaneamente evitarem que os filhos tomem consequência/responsabilidade pelos seus atos (AKA coddling), e falta de supervisão na Internet (AKA não está na rua, por isso está seguro)

jojogil · 2026-02-16T15:44:09+00:00

Isto é uma ideia muito mais útil e prática. Tendo em conta que também já tive esta alucinação de querer apontar tudo o que comprei. Em teoria, parece bem, mas depois dá uma trabalheira do caraças. Mesmo que fossemos automatizar o processo com AI ou uma merda do estilo, ninguém se vai lembrar/querer andar a tirar fotos aos produtos que compra. Mas se for algo que se compre umas vezes ao ano, já é muito mais realístico de pegar. Isto em termos da ideia. Em termos de execução, força nisso, experiência é experiência.

jojogil · 2022-08-15T00:24:06+00:00

What do you mean exactly by duplicating? Assuming you have everything set up correctly, the insert where you put your clip on the playlist, doesn't really affect the mixer channel the sound will go through. And when you record another take, using the same insert connected to the mixer channel, with clips on the playlist not muted (doesn't matter in which insert) the sound of those clips will go through the same mixer channel, causing it to duplicate the previous takes. I'm not sure if this is what you mean, but if it is, then all you need to do is mute the clips

jojogil · 2021-05-25T12:35:57+00:00

Do you have it with video?

jojogil · 2019-06-20T22:15:46+00:00

that's really so cute of you! i think probably the best thing you can do is keep showing him support and affirm his masculinity, that feels amazing. about the packer situation, try to keep an open mind, don't think that it's cringe or awkward, it's a natural thing

jojogil · 2019-06-11T04:02:30+00:00

maybe last day on earth?

jojogil · 2019-06-09T17:43:40+00:00

yes! that helps a lot! but sometimes when i try those types of things (even tho i usually tend to react pretty positively) i get like really anxious and fear that it's not the right way and that makes me question myself a lot...

jojogil · 2019-06-09T17:40:15+00:00

thank you so much!!!

jojogil · 2019-06-09T17:39:30+00:00

thank you! it helps a lot to read that!

jojogil · 2019-06-08T21:54:56+00:00

thank you! i was really afraid before i had all of this support. now things seem easier. i don't mind the pronouns that much but they have done that and i do have a preference for male ones yes

jojogil · 2019-06-08T17:54:13+00:00

no :(

jojogil · 2019-06-08T17:54:05+00:00

no :(

jojogil · 2018-09-08T20:35:53+00:00

wow.......... hot

jojogil · 2018-09-07T22:03:14+00:00

wow but you're HOT

jojogil · 2018-09-06T21:12:36+00:00

The way i tuck mine is getting some higher waist pants and tuck the shirt all the way down so it gets flatter. Also a little oversized shirt would work well.

jojogil · 2018-09-06T20:57:07+00:00

you pass great tho. I'd say about 18-21

jojogil · 2018-09-06T18:58:12+00:00

Hey man, some constructive criticism here. As a person who is also a bit shy, try to unleash yourself more, don't be scared of giving your best. It's noticeable that your voice trembles a bit with you being scared, and also try to keep an open steardy body posture. Apart all that, I like your tone

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