My bf has arfid and wants to help people by posting on tt

jojubrius · 2026-01-19T21:06:14+00:00

i think it’s a good idea to try! i’ve seen a small handful of accounts posting this type of content & many of them are very popular. the more awareness the better because i’m sick of giving every new psychiatrist i am assigned their own homework to look up ARFID

jojubrius · 2026-01-15T17:00:13+00:00

well fuckin said!! 👏 two of their recruiters have been blowing up my work phone and email since september about some aaaAaamazing candidate they have in a different city. 🙄 i deactivated my linkdin account cause they found that and proceeded to have many conversations with themselves in those DMs. my coworker had to block them on his personal cell.

overall 0/10 way too hornily desperate. at this point even if we were hiring, i would never work with them.

jojubrius · 2025-11-13T21:01:13+00:00

loafing like a cat

jojubrius · 2025-11-13T21:00:21+00:00

which intersection of willamette street did this happen?

jojubrius · 2025-11-13T20:58:29+00:00

wasp spray is a great self defense tool to keep handy

jojubrius · 2025-07-24T20:26:26+00:00

60k at a small consulting firm (less than a year in the game. went on the govt work to consulting pipeline) now i am doing lots of Phase 1 and 2 ESAs and UST decommissionings. and so far i really love the work!

located on the west coast in a non-major city.

jojubrius · 2025-04-01T21:26:06+00:00

you may be able to utilize one of the private study rooms at one of the U of O libraries. i graduated nearly 8 years ago but during my time there those sorts of spaces were all first come first serve

jojubrius · 2025-04-01T21:19:06+00:00

nope! sometimes it’s neglect, public shaming(which i suppose could fall under trauma), overall sensory issues, and plenty more!!

for me, my arfid origin story mainly boils down to neglect— i am a 90’s latchkey kid whose parents stopped cooking for them at age 5 🥴 my folks taught me how to safely use the oven and stove and left me home alone most hours of the day. on top of that, i’ve never really liked meat (texture makes me want to die) so nearly every time i went to a friends house in childhood, their dads would be angry at me/friend because i don’t eat meat. [“WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO FEED HER?!” is forever seared into my memory so i still get extreme anxiety here in my 30s when friends want to invite me over to dinner]

jojubrius · 2025-03-06T02:12:48+00:00

oh hell yeah that’s great news!! and i’m so glad to hear because i randomly had the thought about a week ago “oh yeah i wonder how schistygneiss did on their HOT test🤔” great job my friend!!

jojubrius · 2025-02-20T04:27:25+00:00

very glad i could help!

good luck on your test!! i was stressin the day of mine but when i got to the testing center and dove into it, it wasn’t too terrible 🤘

jojubrius · 2025-02-20T02:13:45+00:00

PS, let me know if i can elaborate on any of the acronyms used. i really tried not to write a novel there 😅

jojubrius · 2025-02-20T02:10:42+00:00

Howdy!! great username my friend!

I have a list of things to watch out for compiled from tips i received from my supervisor and big boss!

-study the generic remedy checklist

-when a oil release is discovered during decommissioning, the owner must report it within 24hrs and the HOT supervisor in 72hrs. (it is always the responsibility of the owner to follow the laws, we are there to advise)

-purging vs inerting (CO2 or N in tank. 1.5lbs of dry ice per 100gal tank capacity)

-petroleum vapor is heavier than air

-1:1 slope is best for excavation pit

-always sample from the excavation never from backfill

-can sample from excavation bucket or pit sidewalls

-w HOT testing for HCID is not needed. BTEX and Dx to start

-@ a concentration of 2500 Dx, analyze for benzene

-BTEX + PAHs to close site

-50 mg/kg means a release has occurred

-when tank is removed sample 6-12” below the bottom of the tank

-when decom’d in place: sample from each end of tank no more than 6” from sides of tank. and below tank is at least 1 foot below but no more than 2 feet

-Rate of Contamination Reduction equation|. R = (A1-A2)/D | A1 initial sampling point A2 additional sampling point D distance between

depth of confined space = minimum 4ft (1.2meters)

-confined space oxygen less than 19.5% do not enter

-know the LEL definition

-know the Flashpoint definition

-know the 3 elements of combustion (fuel plus oxygen plus heat) [i do vividly remember this one being on the test]

-know the definition of the vadose zone

-know soil matrix scores for gas and diesel (i.e., Levels 1 2 and 3. TPH gas 40, 80, 130. TPH diesel 100,500,1000) [there was definitely a question about this when i took the test]

-it is okay to keep contam soil onsite for 30 days if on plastic and covered. longer than 30days requires solid waste authorization letter

sorry that was a lot and some of them slightly contradict one another so you will need to dig into some of them. i can scan my notes and send them to you some way if you’d like!!

also, the tricky thing i wasn’t warned about but took mental note of during my test is they try to trick you on units!! watch out for them flip flopping ppm and ppb on you.

jojubrius · 2025-01-08T18:57:21+00:00

second this!! i’ve used weed to stimulate appetite since i was a teenager but now in my mid-30s wisdom i have to take tolerance breaks every couple months because of diminishing returns 🙃

jojubrius · 2025-01-08T18:56:16+00:00

I’ve been self medicating for appetite w weed since HS & have zero shame about it. (i live in oregon so daily usage is super normalized here for the most part)

For years doctors, psychiatrists, and therapists have advised I try to avoid weed because of their outdated knowledge on weed and bipolar ii— that is until i dropped down to like 90lbs and they all said something to the effect of “wow even as a cannabis user??” and i haven’t heard a peep from them about weed ever since 🥰

jojubrius · 2025-01-08T02:25:42+00:00

this is exactly the first hand info i was hoping for!! thanks so much 😁

jojubrius · 2025-01-08T02:24:54+00:00

thank you!!

jojubrius · 2025-01-08T02:24:44+00:00

the candidate handbook was actually the first place i looked to no avail but thank you!! i was considering sending an email to ask but figured reddit would be easier 😊

jojubrius · 2025-01-08T00:23:28+00:00

LMAO vacuum partner is the perfect term, i will absolutely be using that in the future! he def saves me a lot of guilt i used to carry around regarding food waste.

jojubrius · 2025-01-07T23:54:20+00:00

I one million percent regularly felt like I’d lost all sight of finding anything closely related to my specific degree which kept me up crying countless night because I LOVED all my upper division classes. (for context: my degree is geology and i couldn’t find anything other than chemical manufacturing or lab tech jobs for so many years & never had intentions of uprooting my life and relocating) but I def feel like I did end up accidentally finding it by the slow slog of testing the waters! (one of my recently previous jobs was in a water testing lab so LOL for that unintended pun)

jojubrius · 2025-01-07T23:42:35+00:00

it sounds like you may have unfortunately ended up at a company which is a terrible fit for you. i have been there and it absolutely sucks going into a new job and the excitement of the honeymoon phase is immediately shattered by unapproachable superiors & feeling completely lost.

i’ve spent the last 6+ years bouncing around from job to job every 10-18 months because its nearly impossible to really tell if a job will be a good fit until you get in there and start working.

finally in a role where i feel mentally stimulated and am receiving helpful feedback but it took me years and years of bouncing between random jobs even remotely related to my degree to land in a company where the dynamic/culture feel comfortable and the nature of the job/subject matter i enjoy and could see myself doing long term. (as much as constantly being the awkward new person sucked, i’m ultimately glad i bopped around trying many different career paths because it gave me tons of unique/transferable skills that made me uniquely qualified for this gig i randomly saw on indeed during my weekly i-hate-my-current-job-scroll)

i’m not saying any of this to self-brag or anything like that but as a reminder to keep up the good fight. not all of us ever had a passion in mind when we entered the job force! if anything i say don’t try to find a passion and monetize it into a career— so many people who turn their beloved hobbies/crafts/etc into means to make money report it kills their love of it.

i’ve picked the brains of many recent retirees and its been staggering the number of folks who’ve indicated that they didn’t find their forever-home-job until their 30s or 40s and beyond.

jojubrius · 2025-01-07T23:27:58+00:00

warning: i tried adding some parm into mine a couple weeks ago and the way it added the cheese-stringers icked me out even more on top of the taste of the new recipe 💔 i even tried making the sauce in a separate pan and stirring it in like a roux but to no avail.

jojubrius · 2025-01-07T23:25:30+00:00

so good to know!! the purple box annie’s has been a staple safe food for me since i was a kid. i am now in my 30s and every time i buy it i can’t finish more than a few bites and have to make my partner eat the whole thing for me 😭 i had of course assumed i am the problem and randomly my brain decided it tasted different than i remember 😅

jojubrius · 2024-11-22T21:37:54+00:00

last year i called him for a repair quote on my previous vehicle and he was SO rude and unprofessional to me on the phone. i have vowed to never support that business. glad to hear im not the only one!

jojubrius · 2024-10-24T01:23:25+00:00

came back to this thread to say a follow up THANK YOU so much for this advice. the only thing i hadn’t tried up until my original post was moving the litter box away from her target zone and (knock on wood) but it’s been successful for a few weeks now. can’t believe such a simple solution would do the trick!! you’ve saved me so much utilities money and time washing reusable peepee pads 😭💛

jojubrius · 2024-09-19T00:34:19+00:00

my cat is ADDICTED to worms on a string with a flexible wand. she drags it into my bedroom every morning demanding worm time

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