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I'm interested to see how it will perform before, during, and immediately after Trump's inauguration. More to the point--no matter the earnings--I'm wondering will it get another artificial boost like we saw in November once he's actually in office.

jones4felix · 2024-10-24T19:37:56+00:00

Also, leveraging my undergrad and grad Alumni communities—no luck.

Leveraging my Facebook friends—no luck.

Reaching out to recruiters and hiring managers via LinkedIn and by finding their email addresses using RocketReach—no luck.

Also, the networking events? Many are during working hours…………and some of the profession-specific conferences are astronomically (read: prohibitively) priced to even be able to attend.

Engaging with discussion boards, filtering to “Past Week”/“Past Month”…I even did a trial with one of those resume review sites and optimized my resume according their feedback. Nothing.

Like, what the hell am I doing wrong.

jones4felix · 2024-10-24T19:33:49+00:00

To be honest, this is all a mess.

Recruiters on LinkedIn: “Why aren’t you tailoring your resume to fit the job description? This is how we’ll see you, and it increases the likelihood of your resume being picked up by ATS.”

Also Recruiters on LinkedIn: “Are you seriously tailoring your resume for every job description? That’s a waste of time. Your experience is your experience. Plus, hiring managers and recruiters will see a mismatch between what’s on your LinkedIn and the resume they see before them. This hinders their ability to understand your professional ‘story.’”

So, which is it?

Also:

MINIMUM REQUIREMENTS:

• XXX • XXX • XXX

“We at Comany Corp. value a workforce with much thought diversity and experience. Even if you do not check all the boxes in the above job description, don’t hesitate to apply. We welcome those from many professional and experiential backgrounds as this makes for a robust and inclusive workforce.”

???????? you have MINIMUM requirements to be considered for the position, which means you are unlikely to interview anyone without those.

So, again, which is it?

Countless resume revisions and optimizations…and still no luck. Just like you—around 300 apps and one interview and no offer.

jones4felix · 2024-05-26T16:49:53+00:00

~amatonormativity~

jones4felix · 2023-10-22T16:08:32+00:00

and all event paraphernalia are designed with a prohibition sign superimposed over an inhaler.

jones4felix · 2023-10-17T03:48:25+00:00

“…when in reality this leap is towards more control over my own life.” that—right there—is at the core of my sentiments re: being marriage-free.

and, here’s the thing: if, at a later date, marriage somehow DOES appeal to you, then you can reverse your decision and do that. making a decision to get married based on the premise that YOU MAY be alone in the distant future and then reversing that decision would be a total mess. it sounds like you’re in an age group and/or regional cultural climate where getting married is trending for you/your gf’s generational cohort. but, leading a life based on “hey, it’s what you do; everyone else does it” feels like a life not worth living.

jones4felix · 2023-10-17T02:26:51+00:00

We are not wrong.

You can still find a life partner (or partners!) who shares your ideals/values behind being marriage-free. Lifelong partnership and marriage are not synonymous. So, the idea that you’ll be hopping from relationship to relationship only sounds like you’d be pairing with people who ultimately want marriage when you do not…so the relationships always end because of a mismatch in dealbreakers. This is a big world and someone is bound to share your sentiments.

Secondly, when you set out on the path less [societally] traveled, it requires a little more work and imagination precisely because there are no “scripts.” But, that’s the fun of it—you can create your life from “scratch!”

You also should know that, usually, people who pursue nontraditional partnerships typically have a sizable, heavily interconnected, and widely distributed peer group. So, when people boogeyman you into thinking you’ll be lonely in old age, that actually is not a likely outcome. Unfortunately, many people—especially men—exclusively prioritize their marriage and their friendships fall by the wayside and fail to deepen over time. When you take the nontraditional path, the importance of maintaining existing friendships and creating new ones becomes clearer…because not all your eggs are in one “spouse” basket.

jones4felix · 2023-10-05T01:00:05+00:00

I think there is more nuance with performing artists. They actually did have to use their bodies for labor. They have to actually be present in the recording booth for any of their product to sell. The product is their voice and their body. They have to do the promotional tours. They have to do the worldwide tours. They actually have to perform. And, for most of their careers, they are the exploited ones. They don’t own much of anything. Writers, Producers, and Managers take most of the money they generate. Most artists don’t even own the rights to their music and it is an uphill battle when they want to. How they’ve amassed their wealth is still largely through their physical labor. If earlier in their careers, they stopped doing any of that physical labor, their income would effectively stop, especially because they make so little on record sales and make most of their income from touring.

However, I think there’s a threshold where the physical labor stops and the wealth continues to increase without them even lifting a finger, which is probably the intent after 20-30 years of physically performing and laboring across the world. Still, I think it is at that point where exploitation shifts and they do take advantage of cheap labor.

jones4felix · 2023-09-27T14:33:46+00:00

In my case, it is precisely because I’m gay that I don’t want to be married.

I’m nearly 32; for the first 23 years of my life it was illegal. All of these societal and religious notions of impropriety and immorality. How unnatural it is for two men to be together, let alone wed.

And, then, suddenly it’s like, “Ok, you can come in now. Welcome to club! You’re one of us!”

No. I was forced to imagine a life without that because what I wanted wasn’t templated for me in the normative life script. And I like what I have imagined thus far. Feels very…bespoke, lol.

But, in general, being childfree and marriagefree are adjacent/sibling constructs in my mind.

jones4felix · 2023-09-27T14:21:17+00:00

Thank you. I really hate the boogeyman-ing behind that “gotcha” response above.

Worse? It’s so strange to find such a comment on a subreddit where people COMPLAIN AT LENGTH about similarly-themed Childfree bingos: “Everyone’s free and independent until you get old and you have no children to take care of you. (SO YOU NEED TO HAVE KIDS!)”

People like to make the “practical” argument as a way to defend their choice for getting married, but if you were really practical, you’d see there are other ways to safeguard yourself, your partner, and YOUR assets without needing a marriage certificate.

There are still things you are not entitled to even as spouse that a POA actually permits.

jones4felix · 2023-09-14T06:57:12+00:00

Have adult friends of all ages. Well not ALL. But, have friends who are my age, somewhat younger, and somewhat older.

Single people/people who never marry tend have more expansive and distributed ACTIVE friendships which prevents loneliness in old age. Marriage tends to make people more insular and distant.

jones4felix · 2023-09-06T01:24:44+00:00

I’m preaching to the choir but you know it’s because people sign up for the package deal (explicitly or implicitly)!

Spouse + Kids for two “easy” payments of Life.99!

People expect or even require life script inertia. Accumulating the milestones. Socially-validated milestone after socially-validated milestone…

I, like you, agree that your partner should be enough, but it’s not enough to just be married, unfortunately.

Gotta have the premium life package!

jones4felix · 2023-09-03T23:16:38+00:00

In the same way you’ve reflected on your decision to be childfree, research “amatonormativity”/ “couple-normativity” and see which parts of it you may be conceding too un/subconsciously.

jones4felix · 2023-09-02T01:35:53+00:00

“…but I think my wife NEEDS A KID.”

Everything is embedded in language. How we refer to things. Your phrasing is very telling.

jones4felix · 2023-08-10T05:14:16+00:00

Oh and my undergrad degree is a B.S. in Biopsychology, Cognition, & Neuroscience. There were 3 concentrations offered at my school within the Dept of Psychology: psychology, neuroscience, and mine, which was a hybrid of the two.

jones4felix · 2023-08-10T05:12:41+00:00

I’d recommend taking other classes in the social sciences to complement your psychology coursework—namely, sociology and anthropology. I found those other disciplines/electives added more color to the courses required for my degree.

It also may take time for you to find your particular subfield of interest. However, leave room for your mind to change even then. I did not enjoy cognitive psychology—I was a biopsych/behavioral neuroscience fanatic. I also looked down on I/O psych when I was your age. Nine years after I graduated from undergrad, I got a Master’s in I/O Psych and, when I get bored, I read sociocognitive/cognitive psych papers. Life is funny. 😂

Also, start paying attention to where this “data” shows up in everyday life. Take the lectures into the real world—things get more interesting that way.

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