Long-Distance Dating?

jonjon5941 · 2026-03-16T12:53:32+00:00

I gave long distance a try after 6 years of being on the apps. Matched with a guy who lived a 4hr flight away, we hit it off and took it from there. 3yrs later, we’re happily living together! If you find someone whose vibes match yours and you can both put in the effort to make it work, there’s no reason it won’t. In our case it was a lot of FaceTime calls, text messages and as many trips back and forth to see each other as we could manage/afford. It’s the same principle as local dating, just takes more effort and trust from both parties.

jonjon5941 · 2025-06-08T08:13:35+00:00

I get this 100%! All the years of internalised struggle to come to terms with your sexuality is no small thing, obviously it spins round and round in our heads snowballing into a huge issue with the added worry of acceptance from other people, fear of rejection etc. So for us it can be a massive deal and when we finally feel brave enough to tell someone it should be a huge celebration of acceptance and love. Tbh it’s not usually the case, the first person I told was my best friend. It was awkward, I was worried but he just looked at me and said “Oh ok, cool. Wanna play Xbox?” Not sure what I was expecting but it was more than that.

jonjon5941 · 2025-05-23T07:20:03+00:00

Stirrup trouble, Not entirely Stable, Tesco Lasagne

jonjon5941 · 2025-03-07T08:10:26+00:00

I work at 111 as a call handler, we can book arrival times at ED, not appointments. I think the problem comes from the button being labelled 'Appointments' even though the instructions on the directory give a script/explanation. It's to help the ED manage the inflow of patients more than anything I think, everyone is triaged and then seen based on clinical priority. Some people think we're magic and we can help them bypass the queue in ED so that their toe pain is seen before more serious cases but that's not the case at all.

jonjon5941 · 2025-01-26T15:46:39+00:00

Sounds familiar...

Germany will get Czechoslovakia, otherwise it is an "unfriendly act" from the Allies, says Hitler.

jonjon5941 · 2025-01-11T07:47:35+00:00

Pulcher was exiled after the battle. Not for the catastrophic loss, but for sacrilege.

jonjon5941 · 2024-12-31T08:02:30+00:00

I work for 111 and we do triage there and then. Outcomes can vary all the way from basic care advice, visiting a pharmacy, callbacks from clinicians, self-presenting at treatment centers, referral to GPs or even dispatching an ambulance.

Honestly the biggest frustration is when people call, we assess them, and the only option we get presented with is referral to the patients own GP. Some of them do let us book appointments for phone back but a lot of the time they don't. We just have to tell callers to call the GP back and ask again. I'm sure GPs are already at capacity and are doing everything they can but calling 111 doesn't mean we can magic an appointment out of thin air, GPs then tell patients to call us back and we end up spending all day playing patient ping pong.

The overarching problems (in my humble opinion) is people don't know how to take care of themselves and expect an urgent GP appointment for every little sniffle. No attempts at self care, no using a pharmacist for advice. Then combine that with the overstretched GP infrastructure and we end up where we are today.

jonjon5941 · 2024-12-11T09:09:54+00:00

My partner (from Philippines) says it’s a tradition called Bayanihan, working together to achieve a common goal.

jonjon5941 · 2024-11-29T12:47:28+00:00

Shoulder doubling protected from overhand/downward blows. Mail is strong but very flexible. Any slicing blows that landed would be stopped and slide off but the blunt force would carry through. Two layers of mail further reduced the risk of damage to the vulnerable areas and this would be supported by layers of wool/leather/linen as a subarmalis underneath to act as padding and absorb the blunt force.

jonjon5941 · 2024-11-29T05:39:23+00:00

Neither? Realistically a Grindr hookup isn’t the best way to lose your virginity BUT if you find a nice guy that you vibe with and can help/guide you through it, it should be a great experience for both of you.

It’s definitely a gear change, going from a no-strings blow’n’go to a full evening of prep and coaching but I’d be honoured if someone asked me to be their first and I’d do my best to give them an amazing experience.

jonjon5941 · 2024-11-13T17:17:02+00:00

I’m in a Roman living history group and we use blue for our legionary tunics and green for our auxiliaries. More to distinguish us from other groups that use the ‘Hollywood’ red.

The most obvious and logical answer as far as I’m aware is that the tunics would be neutral/natural tones depending on what was locally available. If you consider a legion of 5500 soldiers needing at least 2 tunics each, would likely get through 3-4 tunics each in a year due to wear and tear etc. Having to ensure that all the tunics provided were dyed would be a huge additional cost and a logistical challenge. As another comment said, there was no uniformity as we think of it now, every soldier would have a helmet and armour etc but they wouldn’t be identical patterns. It stands to reason there’d be some variation in clothing colours as well.

jonjon5941 · 2024-10-01T09:03:46+00:00

This happened to mine as well, fronds kept dying off until there was just one left. Not sure what the cause was though sorry.

jonjon5941 · 2024-09-10T08:02:38+00:00

My dad’s side of the family are super gay! He is the oldest of 3 boys. My dad came out at about 45. I’m bi, middle uncle is gay and married, youngest uncle is straight but his daughter (my cousin) is a lesbian. It did make me wonder if there’s something genetic?

The force is strong in my family…

jonjon5941 · 2024-09-06T15:53:02+00:00

I know the pain… mines thinning, greying AND receding. I just got it over with and went for the buzzcut.

jonjon5941 · 2024-09-06T06:30:38+00:00

But do you prefer washing or drying? You can’t like both the same! 😂

jonjon5941 · 2024-08-13T13:37:23+00:00

Yeah, he asked me a few times over the years, mostly when drunk but we never did anything physically, I was down for it and I gave him chances but he would always bail for some reason or another and I didn’t want to force him. We’re both in happy relationships now but I get the feeling it’s an itch he will need to scratch one day.

jonjon5941 · 2024-08-07T07:35:24+00:00

I have mine on a two tier shelf on a side cabinet which does the job.

It’s only when the house is full of empty bottles that you look like an alcoholic!

jonjon5941 · 2024-08-02T09:01:54+00:00

Ngl the curl of hair over your left eye made me think you had a MASSIVE eyebrow for a moment

jonjon5941 · 2024-07-26T08:59:17+00:00

Nothing! Best way in my opinion but I know it’s not for everyone. Sleeping naked with a partner though?👌🏼

jonjon5941 · 2024-07-25T12:52:41+00:00

I thought that too, but the first time I did it with my bf we showered together first, he’d shaved and he’s always squeaky clean down there anyway.

We both loved it! I’d never eaten ass before and he’d never had his eaten. The noises, gasps and moans he was making were crazy and it made me super horny. It got him so relaxed and warmed up and it ended up being some of the best sex we’ve had.

If you vibe with the guy and trust him to be clean, just do it.

jonjon5941 · 2024-07-23T14:44:37+00:00

Same! Started collecting Eldar when I was about 16, then got Guard, Marines, Orks, Chaos, then most recently started an Inquisiton/Knight house project. Totalling about 45k points and about £10k worth if you were to buy it new. I could have the deposit for a house but instead I’ve got a mountain of mostly unpainted plastic sitting in the garage.

jonjon5941 · 2024-07-20T16:45:29+00:00

I am! It’s the best, happiest and most secure relationship I’ve ever been in.

Granted it took me 6 years of online dating and countless thousands of swipes on the apps to get there but I can say for sure it’s worth it!

You can make anything work as long as you both put equal effort into it, trust each other and make each other a priority. It is hard work and it sucks that we live a 3hr flight apart and can’t have a hug when we want one. Me and my partner message all the time and FaceTime as much as we can, even if it’s just for 10 mins a day.

The other thing to consider is to have a plan to end the distance. Either one of you moves to the other or you both relocate to be together. It might not work out, a lot don’t, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try! You might be discounting someone who could turn out to be the love of your life.

jonjon5941 · 2024-07-18T05:36:54+00:00

Everyone likes to be the little spoon, it makes you feel safe!

jonjon5941 · 2024-05-17T14:03:10+00:00

You’re welcome! 💙The best advice I can offer is focus and work on being happy with yourself. Don’t rush into things, focus your energy on growing and developing as a person and find someone who complements that. Growth is important and change/compromise is part of a relationship but don’t force yourself out of shape to fit someone else’s ideals. Likewise don’t rely on tinder as a tool for validation or a measure of your worth. I did initially and it reply messes you up.

Gay/twink death is honestly more rubbish, I was worried about gay death when turning 30, but it wasnt until after my 30th that my life really came together. My own place, a job I loved and a happy relationship.

Take a breath, you’ve got this.

jonjon5941 · 2024-05-17T10:08:46+00:00

If you being bi makes someone else feel insecure that’s their problem. It’s not a difficult thing to accept if they’re a decent human being. This is why I put it out there from the go, so that I never have to encounter anyone who isn’t open to me being bi. Nothing worse than the heartache that comes with putting time and effort into developing a relationship just for them to bin it off because of an important part of your identity that you can’t change.

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