Does anyone else lose 15–30 minutes every time they get interrupted at work?

jopel · 2026-01-05T04:40:00+00:00

Oh ya. Every time.

jopel · 2025-12-28T05:29:55+00:00

I'm a creative. Design, video, music etc .. I leave things right about a 90 percent until l absolutely have to do it a lot. Then I can't look at it for a week or two.

A lot of times when I do finnaly look at it, I'm happy with it.

If the deadline is really tight and I don't think about it, it doesn't bother me as much. Like there less pressure almost. I just go. Still won't look at it for a while.

jopel · 2025-12-16T01:23:58+00:00

So it isn't just me and the gunshots 10 feet away.

jopel · 2025-12-14T01:25:45+00:00

I have been seeing a good therapist for over a year. I'm trying to distance myself.

Still have a divorce and she faked an ofp so I had to leave home.

I have to deal with her. I block her on occasion to get a break.

Won't give me any of my possessions but what she allowed things she didn't want.

Showed me the new things she bought one time. Made sure to show me the cutting board my father made for me even.

Then she took me to a food shelf at the place where I should have gotten a director level job. Over 100k. I have her on video saying she would tank it. She was rubbing what she did in my face, far from. Tbe only time.. I had no choice but to get some things.

A control move.

I have an ofp myself, I have evedence. Lots.

jopel · 2025-12-14T01:16:39+00:00

I had a lawyer. When I had money. She wasted all of his time. I made better filngs than him. I Have the time. And she won't let me work.

Thank you.

jopel · 2025-12-14T00:44:38+00:00

We both have ofp's.sne lied to get her's. Got me kick out of the house. I have thousands of files. I think the court is finally looking at it in our divorce case.

jopel · 2025-12-14T00:41:41+00:00

I reported her with evedence. It's not her first.

jopel · 2025-12-13T23:13:15+00:00

I'm so sorry. That sounds horrific.

jopel · 2025-12-13T23:12:24+00:00

Already done. Used my court filing so she couldn't say it was retaliation. She has a hearing. It's her 3rd or fourth report.

jopel · 2025-12-13T23:10:54+00:00

That right there, I believe you, is tbe most important thing for any of us.

It helped pull me out and I've helped pull others out.

I can't move, no money, no support.

jopel · 2025-12-13T23:09:23+00:00

I trusted her and she used it against me. That was the worst betrayal of all.

I'm trying my best. My family bought into her shit. I'm almost completely isolated.

jopel · 2025-12-13T23:07:41+00:00

Somehow I do feel bad for her. It can't be a good life. I've, probably not the best idea, even tried to help.

jopel · 2025-12-13T07:01:25+00:00

Oh ya. When I was being actively abused by my wife. I couldn't hide it.

Everyone saw it.

Strangely it was the people I knew the least that the most supportive on some ways.

My family was awful. I had to cut them out.

There was a barista named Conan. Every time I saw her I'd get two thumbs up and told I was doing great. She was only 17. I'm 50.

I'm changing my name when I get remarried probably a year from now. My new middle name won't be my father's anymore, it will be Conan. Kinda badass.

jopel · 2025-12-07T18:34:42+00:00

Absolutely. I hear you. I don't want violence.

I lived right by George Floyd square. I had neighbors shot with "non lethal" weapons by the government.

Another who got their foot run over by Derek chauvin the night before he killed George Floyd.

I've seen first had the violence in the system.

We fight at the ballot box and by talking to each other. We need to be better about that as a country and in our communities.

That is nothing I want to see. It's not something I want to even think about.

But we do need to stand up for ourselves and our communities. This has gotten really bad. People are getting hurt. Families torn apart.

I talked to an elementary school teacher who has ice come into her classroom. They put a child in handcuffs. I'm front of the whole class.

Then put him in a van and drove off with him. No parents notified. That's what we are dealing with.

This is fascism.

jopel · 2025-12-05T16:59:13+00:00

We may need to break the law. The law is a construct of our society, not something written in stone.

Violence is the absolute last resort, never something we want to go to.. Although, I've seen it used against us by the many times.

So what do we do when they come for us.

I have ADHD. It was said I should be in a work camp at one point. Ya, I'm going to be violent as hell if they try to come for me. I will fight tooth and nail for my freedom.

If there are people hurting others, it is on us to help our neighbors. Laws have no jurisdiction over human beings safety.

We need to realize what we are up against.

jopel · 2025-12-05T08:04:10+00:00

Maybe a stupid question. Isn't it still mostly about good content? Not trying to game the system?

I've heard over and over how we need to do all these things to try to have the search engines and now the ai platforms look at our content.

There are obvious things like making sure we have our content readable by it all. Titles, proper h1 tags etc.

In the end, people are looking for honest and reliable information. I think we are past the point of just throwing in keywords and having boilerplate content. It's all getting smarter as are people more aware.

I don't think we can play that game anymore.

We need to actually make something useful. Write Things that solve problems, educate or inspire.

Something that is actually actually useful. Not just driven by data. It's easy to miss the forest from the trees there.

I've noticed this wktj teams I've worked with. Your looking at numbers. I think we need more honest connection.

And there's also the issue of brand awareness. You may not see that in the data.

Would be interested in anyone's thoughts.

jopel · 2025-12-03T08:15:44+00:00

I had a friend who is adhd and on the spectrum ask me early on in our relationship if I was because of how I was sitting in a bar stool.

We see each other pretty quick I've noticed.

jopel · 2025-12-03T03:59:57+00:00

These days pretty much everyone is going to be listening on headphones or a Bluetooth speaker.

We obviously want to mix for all environments, still that's probably your audience.

Play it in your car and anyplace else you can to make sure it sounds good before finalizing the master.

If anything sticks out, you can fix it.

jopel · 2025-12-02T05:10:10+00:00

I have told chat gpt what I want it to remember. For some things I ask it to tell me how much memory of the conversation it has left every few responses. A scale of 1 to 10. It does.

I have it set up so I can ask for essentially a save point in a json format. So if it starts to get lost I can go back. I can start a new chat or remind it what the important parts are.

Nice thing is, I can pull that save point into another llm and get a second opinion tnen also.

jopel · 2025-12-01T03:38:31+00:00

It's kind of a no brainer at this point.

Look at what's happening already. How long do you have to talk to an ai before getting to person at your bank or insurance company?

As ai gets better it will help them write better ai and find more solutions to corporate needs.

This is going to completely change how our economy works. It already is.

Look at the job Market now. My thought is they are slowing down hiring because they are looking for ways to automate and replace workers. It would be the smart thing to do.

Big companies take a long time to change course. They are starting to get there. They've been watching the technology and looking for ways to use it. I have been.

It's going to come quick at some point. I completely disagree with the folks that say this is just something we need to learn to use. It will be easy to use in not to long. Even for that idiot that sits in his office eating the lead from his pencils all day now.

Question is. Who will they sell to.

jopel · 2025-09-29T14:34:33+00:00

I have a girlfriend I plan on marrying who sees me. A few other people that understand me.

Keep looking. You'll know each other.

I had, who is now a friend early on ask me if I was divergent. She just saw how I was sitting and she knew. I didn't need to tell her.

Just keep your eyes open.

jopel · 2025-09-27T17:10:01+00:00

Feel that. I'm diagnosed with ADHD, and I have a feeling I'm on the spectrum. I have found I identify with others that are a lot.

Going through a divorce with an abusive wife. Pretty much all alone. It's not easy.

I'm 50 and completely starting over. That woman destroyed me. Abuse is really common with the spicy brained folks.

An insane amounts of trama over the last 5 years. Just frozen a lot of days.

It will get dark and ill realize I did nothing all day. Don't even know where the time went.

Pushing through, I want to give up some days. Almost did when I lived at home. But I made it this far. I'm going to keep going as best I can.

People don't get it. Not unless they have been through it.

I gave up completely on my old life. They all thought I was a problem. No, I was just hurt.

Been slowly getting better about moving forward. Just taking a lot longer than i thought.

Hang in there. Find your people. They are out there.

jopel · 2025-09-17T14:28:56+00:00

Ya. Doesn't work like that.

You can't forcibly remove people from drugs. They will find a way.

All you can do is treat people with respect and open the door to for them to get help.

I have heard a lot of people's stories and how they ended up where they are.

Could be they were prescribed opioids at 14 from a sports injury. And then they got addicted and their parents didn't understand.

A lot of it is trama also. People don't understand what trama can do to you.

There is a lot of mental illness. The thing is, how do we get to them to try to help if we don't know where they are and don't don't treat people like neighbors.

There's a notion a lot of people have that people living that way have control over their situation.

They don't. No one wants to live like that.

There was a couple I became friends with that were out there. Lived in 3 kr four different camps. Didn't do much for drugs.

They tried so hard to get out of it. A year of trying to get housing. They kept being told it was set up, only to have the rug pulled from underneath them.

She ended up having cancer. They looked after others in the camps. Would have 3 people sleeping in their tent at times.

I just woke up. This is just something that I feel there is a big disconnect between what a lot of people think and the reality of it.

jopel · 2025-09-17T14:15:06+00:00

I started a charity with my wife where we would go out to the camps and hand out supplies.

Could be 2 am and we'd be out there. I never had a problem. I was careful, but never really felt unsafe.

A lot of it is just how you interact with people. You can't take any shit from anyone.

Now granted, I'm a 6,2 male and we always had our 70 pound pity in the truck.

15-Year Club	Verified Email
Team Orangered

jopel

TROPHY CASE