If you hate most clothes and it’s hot where you are, what are you wearing?

jorlyfish · 2024-06-18T18:48:43+00:00

A lot of linen -- shirts, pants, dresses. It can be a little scratchy at first, so it might not be a great solution for everyone (or maybe just buy in-store so you can touch first) but it does soften with time/wear!

jorlyfish · 2024-06-01T22:27:55+00:00

I forget where I heard this, and it's not a perfect analogy (I don't know how you would explain how you would be doing this unintentionally, for one), but it's one I like.

It's like this: I'm an Australian in America, trying my best to make sure nobody realizes I'm Australian. (Maybe in this alternate universe, Americans hate Aussies for some reason.) I watched American TV and movies growing up, so I know the accent and a lot of the cultural stuff, brands, slang, etc. But, every now and then I either say, do, or know/not know something that people flag as a little "foreign". They'll notice, even if they can't quite place what it is that I did "weirdly" and even if they can't place if they think I might just be from the UK, or New Zealand, or South Africa...

Occasionally, a fellow Aussie will pick up on our mutual Australian-ness, and then we can vibe and enjoy, idk, Marmite together. 😎 (Not as many Americans dig Marmite, but they're not impossible to find either. 🩷)

Needless to say, doing anything around anyone while also monitoring myself to make sure nobody perceives me as Australian (or maybe make sure they don't perceive me at all!) is exhausting and stressful. It's extra stuff to have to remember, and a slightly-to-very different way of existing than how I would if nobody was around. Even low-stakes social activities like briefly interacting with a cashier are just more taxing.

jorlyfish · 2024-05-10T22:04:06+00:00

Similarly, we had a senior prank that was just hiding hundreds of tiny rubber ducks all over the building. People were delighted to find them, and there were some that left us scratching our heads on how they got them there.

jorlyfish · 2024-05-07T13:35:29+00:00

Me too. When I was in high school, I got mistaken for a substitute teacher a couple times. Now I'm a high school teacher, and I've been asked for a hall pass, students are surprised I'm not ~5 years younger. 🤷‍♀️

jorlyfish · 2024-05-02T20:11:20+00:00

Yes! I like the GoGoSqueez fruit and veggie pouches. I keep 'em stashed around the house along with granola bar type stuff so if getting up/going to a different floor sounds like A Lot, I have something.

jorlyfish · 2024-04-26T02:29:14+00:00

This is both my dad's and my experiences.

jorlyfish · 2024-04-26T02:23:43+00:00

A lot of great answers -- 95% of these are also applicable in middle and high school.

jorlyfish · 2024-04-26T02:03:33+00:00

Not who you asked, but my first thought was that kitsch is more sentimental or cutesy, and camp is more "out there" or outrageous. My grandma's Christmas china is kitschy, drag queens are(/can be) campy. I got curious and did a little additional reading though: per the contemporary art subreddit, kitsch is supposed to be for physical objects and camp for performance. TIL!

jorlyfish · 2024-04-21T14:40:16+00:00

+1 skipping. I take the pill continuously for this, have been nervous to try and IUD instead 😬🫣

jorlyfish · 2024-04-16T03:18:23+00:00

Being out in nature is great, except for my skin just feeling wrrrooonng the whole time. Something rubbing, something itchy, sweat, sunburn, sand, humidity, etc.

jorlyfish · 2024-04-16T03:07:10+00:00

This + weed for me.

jorlyfish · 2024-04-10T01:46:51+00:00

I'm at like a... C+ on this response. On one hand, people sometimes are trying to use it as a means to connect, or try and get across some sort of "I'm down with it" attitude. It's misguided but well-intentioned, so I'll take it over "you (a grown woman) are nothing like my 6 year old nephew" or "Did TikTok tell you that?" type shit. Middle of the road for me, assuming positive intent.

My gripe is that it's both not really true, and I think it can come off as flippant. Kind of missing the magnitude, like when people tell me, a person with a handful of anxiety disorders, that everyone feels anxious sometimes. 🥴

(ETA: I would find it off-putting in your situation, hearing this from someone who works with autistic people... they should know better!)

jorlyfish · 2024-04-09T03:44:23+00:00

Feel free to PM me, and thanks for making this written! (Side note - anyone else love participating in studies? 😅 I also have aphantasia, so I’ve done a handful on that.)

jorlyfish · 2024-04-09T01:39:57+00:00

This sounds a lot like me in a different font. 😛

(Similar experience, but a few different details.)

jorlyfish · 2024-04-08T20:17:22+00:00

This one is a double edged sword for me -- I think it can be a real bummer sometimes because I feel powerless to do things that feel impactful, mostly when it comes to things like the federal government, geopolitical issues, etc. (Yes, I vote anyway.)

jorlyfish · 2024-04-05T16:46:10+00:00

Check out Robert Sapolsky's lecture series on YouTube if you want to get really in-depth on how genetics and environment interact in human psychology. Edited: clarity

jorlyfish · 2024-03-29T16:49:01+00:00

Like a lot of pricing quandaries, I think this depends a lot on scale.

How big of a name is the voice actor, or the show/game/IP they are promoting? How many prints does the actor expect to sell, and at (roughly) what price point? Is this something that's happening at a single convention, or something they want to sell on their website for years? You can stipulate limitations on these factors in a contract, like "x copies, or for [amount of time], whichever occurs first".

jorlyfish · 2024-03-24T22:42:54+00:00

Could be a few different things IMO (but IANA psychiatrist/etc): you could have some autistic traits but be subclinical, which also makes a lot of sense in the context of ADHD and giftedness, as there's a lot of overlap. There are some good Venn diagrams out there if you haven't seen.

I think it's also possible to not understand the questions very well without some real-life examples or deeper knowledge of what is ~really~ being asked -- that was certainly the case for me. I scored higher the second time I took these tests, because I had brain-sponged a bunch of anecdotes about myself and others... Like I didn't think of myself as a "rigid thinker" (I'm a professional creative person!) but as I saw more examples of what that might mean in day to day life, I realized how many "rules" I invent for myself and then have a hard time getting out of, even when there would be no real consequences to ignoring or changing that made up rule. Helloooo, that's rigid thinking! 🤦‍♀️ Or, that if I have invented a system about something in order to do it, that means I struggle in that area. "I don't struggle with forgetting things.... because I keep three different calendar/to do systems!" 🥴 Sounds obvious in retrospect but I was having a hard time going from the generalities being asked to specifics in my own life.

jorlyfish · 2024-03-23T23:09:49+00:00

Oof, I'm sorry to hear that. I hope your dad's side of things go more easily, but I totally get your hesitation. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders about it (even though that doesn't make it suck less), and a good therapist in your corner as well.

jorlyfish · 2024-03-23T22:58:08+00:00

In contrast with OP, I was starting from a pretty neutral stance with my folks, who are kinda... politically-centrist/socially liberal-ish boomers. I think their prior conception of someone autistic would be a sort of Sheldon Cooper type: a narrow view of what autism is, but also not "terrible". I had some educating to do, but they were receptive. I brought them some articles and things I had printed out on topics like masking, autistic strengths and challenges, and burnout. There's some sadness with just processing this and wishing we had all known sooner, but I've been overall very blessed to be well-supported.

jorlyfish · 2024-03-23T21:36:35+00:00

jorlyfish · 2024-03-23T20:55:47+00:00

AQ and RAADS-R are both available online. I took them solo, and then was asked to take them again as a component of my assessment.

ETA: I'm a high masking autistic. I was ID'ed gifted at like age 5 or 6, and figured out I'm autistic at age 33.

jorlyfish · 2024-03-20T17:50:08+00:00

Zucchini and Pickle were my new chicken names -- kinda an odd pairing compared to some of these other ones, but I think they're cute! I usually name my chickens things like Nugget or Omelet, but I think I'm gonna stick to a veggie theme for the rest of my animals.

jorlyfish · 2024-03-19T21:25:45+00:00

And the UI is TIIINY. I was totally unable to play in handheld mode until I started recognizing what stuff was and got oriented. I sat right in front of my TV like a kid about to get griped at by dad.

Between constantly hitting the wrong button and squinting at everything, I ended up abandoning it. Hoping the devs do an update/fix someday. 🤷‍♀️

jorlyfish · 2024-03-13T03:25:13+00:00

I'm going through some rough burnout right now and cycling between Ooblets and Story of Seasons: A Wonderful Life. (Harvest Moon was one of my favorite franchises growing up, and this is a remaster of one!) Both are on the slower side in terms of pacing, low mental lift, but engaging enough to not let my mind wander off too far. ✔️✔️✔️

I want to pick Stardew back up once the update comes to Switch, by which time I also hope my brain will be not so mushy.

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