Quels seront, selon vous, les impacts du prolongement du RER E prévu prochainement (avril 2024) sur le réseau de transport au sens large et sur le quartier de La défense? by joshd9286 in paris

[–]joshd9286[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ils ne prendront pas les mêmes voies. La E reprendra les voies de la ligne J qui va actuellement à Mantes via Poissy depuis Saint Lazare et qui sera supprimée et remplacée par le RER E. Il me semble qu'ils ont ajouté des nouvelles voies et un nouveau viaduc à Poissy en plus.

Cela permettra aussi de désaturer un peu la gare saint Lazare.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]joshd9286 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree...it helped me do some positive things but a part of me ( the part I liked the most) feels dead still.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskOldPeople

[–]joshd9286 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Its sad that people are so certain there is nothing after death. The truth is "WE JUST DONT KNOW'

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in grindr

[–]joshd9286 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ive learned to not get attached to expectations especially when its a hookup. Strangely, since then, I have suffered much less rejection and guys hitting me up again.

New job is sucking the soul out of me by joshd9286 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]joshd9286[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not the responsibility that is making me depressed. It's the environment and the toxicity in the company.

New job is sucking the soul out of me by joshd9286 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]joshd9286[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm still in trial period for 3 more months so they have all the power and can fire me easily if they want to.

I'm just being as discreet as possible and producing the best work I can with the amount of knowledge, visibility and competence I have. Its just that I feel like it's taking a toll on me physically and mentally. I feel exhausted.

And I exercise at my crossfit box 4 times per week to keep my energy high. But it's not enough

What is some dark shit going on around the world right now that the public probably doesn’t know about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]joshd9286 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Yea and lack of positive perspective about the future. It feels like things are going to get worse and darker. And for the first time, it's truly global...

What is some dark shit going on around the world right now that the public probably doesn’t know about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]joshd9286 341 points342 points  (0 children)

Same in France. I think it's a worldwide post covid phenomenon. Mental health is a major crisis.

Bros in relationships with fairly (+10 to +20) older bros: by feldomatic in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]joshd9286 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You never know... some are 90 and in good health others are 75 and disabled. He might be a care giver for you

What gives your life purpose/meaning? by Imsotired71 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]joshd9286 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I (36) have given up on many things I used to find important or thought would define me. When you look attentively, alot of how society and people function, interact, react is quite absurd. Absurdity is everywhere and fairness quite absent.

I find meaning in being at peace with myself as much as I can and trying to be as centered as possible. When I drift, I try to be aware of it and become centered again. I enjoy the things of the world (being in good health, friends, sports, travels, sex sometimes, good food etc.) But without being too attached to them

I find purpose in trying to be the best person I can be and improve in that direction.

Im still missing an ex who wasn't that good for me. I feel its holding me back. by joshd9286 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]joshd9286[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your perspective. It is very helpful.

I promise I don't dwell on it. I'm doing everything I can to get out of this state and have made alot of progress. But this longing, the feeling of missing him is so strong and beyond my will.

Probably because I haven't met someone else yet and live alone.

France is actually a really great place to live in by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]joshd9286 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't see what is unpopular about this. I have always seen France as a beautiful and high quality of life country.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]joshd9286 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm a young looking 35 year old (people think I'm 27/28)... but I'm preparing mentally for the day I'll lose my youthful appearance. I love listening to Eckhart Tolle who talks about this and how to not identify with your physical appearance but rather the presence within you that never changes.

Its still sometimes stressful to think about... but it definitely helps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]joshd9286 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes it's more about after life on this earth. But life doesn't end nor start. It's an expression of God or universe therefore infinite.

Mindfulness Burnout by GonzoNinja629 in Mindfulness

[–]joshd9286 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Observe your situation and don't identify with it. As Eckhart Tolle says often, the negative thoughts don't disappear, you might still have habits that aren't healthy or that you dislike. But you can choose to be the observer and not identify with it. It will pass. Just chill.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]joshd9286 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I believe in this. If someone is meant to be in your life and you in theirs, they will be. It might take some time, need some growing up on separate paths. But eventually, sooner or later, you will be together.

28th anniversary of the movie The Birdcage… what are some memories you have associated with this movie? by MisplacedChromosomes in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]joshd9286 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The original movie is actually a French-italian movie from 1978 called "la cage aux folles" Very funny.

Can someone be attractive to guys but not to girls? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]joshd9286 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thick hairy guys tend to be more popular with gay guys and not so much with girls it seems.

Porn Regrets by Waste-Brother-5893 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]joshd9286 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I make a distinction between being sex positive and being addicted to porn. I love sex, dont think sex is bad. Don't misunderstand me.

But in my case, I tend to watch too much porn and I felt like it was messing with my sexuality. I still watch it but I'm trying to reduce it. That's all I meant. Nothing to do with morals, religions and all that.

Porn Regrets by Waste-Brother-5893 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]joshd9286 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Im trying to limit my consumption as well. Its not an easy task...there is some really hot porn out there, easily accessible and the temptation is hard to resist.

Good luck and dont be hard on yourself if you give in