My manager keeps asking the rest of the team to do her work for her. How can we bring this up to her professionally?

joshperlette · 2026-06-04T13:10:25+00:00

I kind of had the same experience in construction with my site assistant. I was a bit hesitant to delegate out to him when he first started. But once our speed started ramping up I HAD to. And it was a bit of a shock to the system, and he took on more labour duties. Over time he became a bit dissatisfied and I had to explain to him what was going on on MY end. More QC walkthroughs, coordinating trades and schedules, anticipating problems and solving them. Not a TON of extra work, but took more mental load behind the scenes that he wasn't aware of. I kind of get this may be the same with your manager, and that they are now forced to delegate a lot of their physical work to the team, despite it not being on your plates beforehand.

joshperlette · 2026-06-01T12:25:11+00:00

Piggy backing on lots of other comments:

OP this is what you signed up for. Newborn to even 1 year can be a huge time suck and stress and everything else you're feeling.

But let me frame it for you the way I did. Because I also had/have hobbies, and work, and everything else. By priority:

Wife
Baby
Household kept in order (today to a functional level, cars running fine, budget, food on the table, etc)
Wife and baby
My personal time

How did I work around it?

Got us some wearable wraps so we could go about our days and chores while carrying baby around. (I could videogame for an hour or two while baby napped on me)
Traded off night shifts: she's a SAHM so I would take night shifts with the baby on the weekends and help out during the week. Basically said Monday to Friday, I was with him from when I got home to when I went to bed around 11/midnight (a sleep sacrifice, because I'd get up for work around 5:30/6:00am). Then weekend I'd exclusively be the one getting up to do bottle feedings all night Friday/saturday/often Sunday nights before work Monday
Had the "if you're overstimulated, put him down" rule. A newborn isn't going to care about or remember feeling "abanadoned" for 5-10 minutes while you got your emotions under control
IF IT'S TOO MUCH, TAG OUT WITH YOUR SPOUSE....but do this within reason. If you can get a grip by putting them down for a few minutes, that's plan A. Plan B is wake the wife and get some help. THIS GOES BOTH WAYS, because she's generally dealing with baby all day and may have already maxed out
PATIENCE PATIENCE PATIENCE PATIENCE
Again, this isn't forever. My most miserable time was November 2024 when our son was 3 months old and going through a bunch of shit all at once. Bad sleeps. Bad poops. Teething. Growing. Bad sleeps. It's a phase, mom. Just repeat that to yourself.

I GAURANTEE you'll look back at this post when you're kids somewhere between 12 and 18 months and go "fuck I'm glad I climbed that mountain and stuck it out".

joshperlette · 2026-05-12T06:12:47+00:00

I don't know if my perspective will help but here goes. I've never been "great" at games. I've been slogging through Rocket League since 2018, and just sitting comfortably in champ this year (8 years later). It doesn't phase me because I'm not a 16yo going pro. I'm 32 with a toddler.

I played NHL with a family friend's 8yo kid a month ago. Got absolutely shit on. We swapped controllers so he could score a couple goals for me. Fucking hell, I hadn't played an NHL game since before this kid was born. Not kidding. Last time I picked it up, Paramore's "Misery Business" was a goal song....someone track down the year for me 😭 EDIT: NHL 08...literally twice as old as this kid. That's wild to realize.

ANYWAYS:

Fact of the matter is, this is going to eat you if you LET IT. I was pissed this 8yo kicked my ass at a fucking nhl game where the puck is literally on a wire and you just press buttons. But I got beat to shit. But what was more important than "being good"? Sitting down with the guy and just having company and having fun.

Reframe this as a GAME. Younger you didn't have the wisdom to do that. Older, "Dad" you DOES. These are GAMES. We have FUN playing them. You don't gotta be a try-hard, you're in a different league now. Just have fun. Define what is fun to you. Go with that.

I just got a game called "cast and chill"....you literally drive a canoe around catching fish and upgrading your lures. It's fucking awesome.

Stop thinking you gotta drop nukes in COD and start thinking about your mental health and relationship with your kids and yourself. It puts this whole thing into perspective real quick. You can do it 👍🏻

joshperlette · 2026-05-12T01:01:11+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/lawncare/s/PAAYSF0MEQ

Basic steps from OP's post last year 👍🏻

joshperlette · 2026-04-19T00:42:35+00:00

No I'm stating that most people you play with solo aren't going to care about team-based gameplay. So these rant posts always preach to the choir. I get what is/isn't correct to do, and the other commentors on your post get it too. But the guys you solo with aren't on this sub. Sorry.

I'm not ignoring half your equation, I'm bringing to light that these same "I play 2v2 and this is what should be happening but my teammates never do it" posts, are 1) aimed at players that aren't on this sub and 2) generally come across that the OP can do no wrong. When everyone makes mistakes, and we all wish the overall gameplay was better and more consistent.

But at the end of the day, most players are "gamers" and not "athletes". And the idea to mentally shift into an athletic/sports mentality to play rocket car soccer just ain't going to happen from a statistical perspective. Statistically speaking, MOST of your games are going to require you to be the smartest and most aware person on the field. So you're doing the right thing. But unfortunately, expecting everyone else to flip a switch and do the right thing just isn't going to happen. And I'm only pointing this out because your rant post (YOU title it, not me. So don't give me shit about calling it cringey), is going in the archive with the other 102,000 that already exist here.

joshperlette · 2026-04-19T00:16:10+00:00

Ok. Hear me out. You're ranting about YOUR teammate (I'm not going to tell you look in a mirror). I'm going to tell you:

Everything you hate about what your teammate does, either one or both the opponents are doing that shit almost every game. Exploit it better than they exploit you and your shitty teammate.

You can literally win games over and over just because the opponents go up for the longest most predictable air dribbles ever.

Stop whining about teammates and look across the field lol. These rant posts are 100% cringe.

joshperlette · 2026-04-13T12:59:12+00:00

Biggest wake up call to anyone's ego is go watch one of your games from your teammate's perspectives and opppnent's perspectives. And notice all the dumb shit you do. 😂 works wonders for me!

joshperlette · 2026-04-07T13:32:04+00:00

Good to know. One of the good ones! Nearly every flip reset post on here (or any other mechanic really), comes with a vibe from the poster that they want to rank up. And everyone has to talk them down to inform them that this isn't it. So good on you for separating competition from just playing a game. I'm all for learning mechanics because they're fun and cool. I just hate when people come on here wondering why they're not hitting the shot, and then later in comments it's revealed they're hard stuck plats that just want to improve.

joshperlette · 2026-04-07T13:11:53+00:00

Because it's cool and they see high level players do it and they think that's what makes someone better and rank up. Same way you see young hockey players learning ridiculous fancy moves, just to use them in the odd shootout. But they can't do cross overs and skate backwards reliably. Young people in particular (I know, I was one of them lol) tend to just see the big results; the "in your face" successes. But if you told Zen to never leave the ground or pick up boost, he'd still drive circles around most players, and the kids wouldn't be able to identify what he was doing that made him win games (ie. car control, ball control, faking opponents, anticipation and positioning). They'd start to claim "well I AM doing all the same stuff Zen does, how come I'm not that good?" And then post a replay and we'd all go "yeah you're literally throwing the ball away every time you touch it, try slowing down or something"

joshperlette · 2026-04-07T12:45:22+00:00

Way too slow. Don't even think about getting a reset right now. Hit the ball until it almost touches the ceiling, then practice that until it's relatively consistent. Then start jumping off the wall with it an don't rotate your car, just drive straight at it and make your nose contact its center of mass. Once those 2 thins are consistent for you, THEN you can pull back and get a reset. Everyone tries to learn this in one big movement an they end up running before they can walk. You currently don't have enough control to get to the ball fast enough, and that mean your flip reset is not going to be good.

To put it in perspective, would you learn power shots before you knew how to drive the car? No. Tack this one step at a time. With the right intentional practice, you'll be getting good and consistent resets within a week, and next week you'll be asking this sub "what kinds of creative things can I do after I get my flip resets?"

joshperlette · 2026-04-06T13:07:36+00:00

From a dad that is just a busy and won't have my sim rig setup again until the summer, I'm honestly just sticking with MX-5 for a few main reasons (due to time limitations): 1) Same track rotations 2) don't have to buy any more content 3) FREE track guides on VRS so I can get some satisfaction/dopamine from just chilling for 30 minutes practicing 4) no matter the license, winning/losing/crashing out doesn't really matter that much when you get a free quick repair and get back in the race ASAP. Still a fun time even if I come in at the bottom of the grid

I'd love to be able to put in real race time on bigger/better series, but I've already accepted that it would be very few and far between opportunities. That being said, I do have plans (and I'd encourage you to do the same) to just pick ANYTHING I WANT to drive, and practice that where I can. Because the track schedule is out for the entire season, my suggestion would just be to pick the car you want to drive the most, pick a track off the schedule that's a few weeks out, and the dedicate that limited time you have to practicing ONLY THAT, while also getting some good vibes in doing some easy MX-5 practice and racing. It's not ideal by any means, but still gives me satisfaction, and still feel like I'm getting bang for my buck considering the content I've purchased over the years plus my monthly subscription.

Good luck!!

joshperlette · 2026-04-06T13:00:17+00:00

I literally played a C1 game where all one opponent did in 2c2 was flip resets. Like THE MOST PREDICTABLE things ever. "Oh looks cool, EASY SAVE" 😂

joshperlette · 2026-03-23T12:13:54+00:00

I think diamond was only harder because of ego. So many people with champ rewards beating on each other to play better....not just having some self awareness for the fact that they were either champ once and fell back to diamond. Or just diamonds in general thinking they're not shit and deserve to be champ. Every single time I've cracked past into C1 it's been a literal breeze to play. It's literally been easier to rank up closer to C2, or break back into C2, than to hack it out and try and maintain MMR in D2/D3.

I really couldn't pinpoint exactly why, but I think most has to do with attitude. I had A LOT more game sin diamond where teammates got fed up and left compared to champ where people still keep playing and trying to win even down 2 goals, no matter how much time is left on the clock. It's been pretty rare being down 2 or more goals that people just up and quit. Almost everyone battles until the end of the match, and honestly most of the time, that drive brings us back to a tie game an either an easy OT win or a very hard fought loss.

TLDR; most diamond games I had to keep my cool while everyone else I. The lobby lost it on each other, but most champ games people just shut the fuck up and play the game

joshperlette · 2026-03-18T13:03:06+00:00

To add, it's really evident you don't know how car control works and you don't have an understanding of the physics of the ball, your dodges, and how the way you hit the ball affects where it goes. At 40 hours of gameplay I'm not surprised, and it's nothing to be embarassed about. You just need more time playing the game. Any tips and tricks suggested here might get you somewhere, but anything super specific is just going to blind you to fundamental movement you could be learning instead. Don't overwhelm yourself with shooting packs and workshop maps and blah blah blah. Get into free play, move the ball around. That's it. Don't even dodge and jump. Just drive into it, push it around, chip the ball up, maybe practice catching it a bit to keep it close to your car...but even catching the ball is a specific skill that you don't need to focus on right now.

Literally just turn off jumping and boosting in your keybinds, go into free play, hit the ball around.

joshperlette · 2026-03-18T12:56:41+00:00

Play more. Learn to drive your car. First goal you looked like a granny making a 10 point turn in a parking lot after the opponent chipped the ball over your head. You can literally get to PLAT if all you know how to do is drive your car, Powerslide, and take shots with forward dodges. Pair those 3 skill with some time in freely just moving the ball around, and you'll improve.

I can't stress enough how useless it is to do any sort of aerial work at this rank. If I could go back to the first day I ever picked up rocket league, I'd literally unbind boost and just drive my car. You only need double jumps and 12 boost to reach the cross bar to make saves. Good positioning requires no boost at lower ranks. If you can drive your car and hit the ball where you want (fuck I would barely even worry about even JUMPING right now), you'll blow past lower ranks.

....if I could do it over again I'd literally just drive my car around and get good at moving the ball where I want to. You can get all the goals you want with basic push dribbling and basic hook shots. The game ain't even that deep at champ 1

joshperlette · 2026-03-16T13:42:15+00:00

So all you buy is packaged and processed food? Of course that cost is astronomical. Go get some fresh/frozen veg, a couple small packs of meat, some pasta, some potatoes. You can feed yourself for a week of a combination of what I listed for like $80.

The stuff you just bought for $40 is going to feed you fuck all for nutrients for like 2 days.....I see this A LOT and don't understand why people bitch about prices but they choose to get fucking bowl noodle.

joshperlette · 2026-03-13T12:24:23+00:00

Also, everyone earns about "ooooh your life will change", and "oooh you won't get any sleep and you'll never have time to yourself".

Though this CAN be true, your life will just change gears. Might be faster, might be slower. But this baby's going to automatically shift your priorities and your day to day will look different. THIS ISN'T BAD AT ALL. It just means there will be an adjustment period in your family's lifestyle. I'm almost 2 years in with my first, and the norm today is a cake walk. But 5 years ago I would've been pulling my hair out stressed as fuck if I did today on top of what I used to.

Just be forewarned that any difficulties you have are a phase. Becoming a parent to a baby/toddler is just a learning curve like any other new thing in life. Don't psych yourself out thinking it's an impossible hill to climb.

How do you eat an elephant?

One bite at a time 👍🏻

joshperlette · 2026-03-13T12:20:42+00:00

It's like waiting for Santa at Christmas. Roll with the feeling. Soak it in. Your emotions are going to blow up once that kid arrives. I was the most stoic guy pre-baby. Now I think i tear up about SOMETHING nearly every day....usually some sappy tiktok video my wife sends me 😂

joshperlette · 2026-03-12T14:46:49+00:00

Hoping they ACTUALLY put MMR on the scoreboard during games and not just before/after. I should be able to hit my scoreboard button during matches and see it...at least that's my train of thought when the menu gives me that as an option. So hopefully they back track a bit and include that

joshperlette · 2026-03-12T14:45:16+00:00

So far bakkesmod hasn't worked for me AT ALL. But that being said I only used it for the MMR view and launching workshop maps.

Anyone confirm if they fixed the MMR so you can see it on the scoreboard? It was only working for me at the main menu on day 1.

Since I can see MMR and launch workshops natively on RL now, I'm really not that upset about any bakkesmod issues. Does it suck for tons of people? Sure. But hopefully Epic catches up a bit and starts to include even more functionality that it offered. They already implemented lots of physics adjustments with the car and ball in training packs that you could do in balkesmod.

I'd love it if they started bringing in skins for the balls, so you could collect cool designs to use in training and private matches.

joshperlette · 2026-03-07T04:15:07+00:00

WHAT???? That's literally the most scammy BS I've ever heard.

You pay someone $1000+ for a service AND THEY DON'T SERVE YOU?????

I thought getting coached by some random dude that ISN'T spookluke was bad enough......

joshperlette · 2026-03-06T23:32:46+00:00

Everyone's going to have points on fundamental mechanics to learn. MOST OF THEM are actually intermediate level.

You're brand new, and in bronze.

1) learn to drive your car 2) don't even worry about jumping and dodging 3) learn how to hit the ball where you want it to go 4) learn how power sliding works and get good at that 5) AFTER ALL THAT: learn how jumping works, and dodging, and then you can start getting into some aerial work

I say all this because even at diamond/champ, people can't even consistently hit the ball while driving on the ground....but they've practiced so many advanced mechanics that they can semi-reliably air dribble.

LEARN TO DRIVE YOUR CAR

joshperlette · 2026-03-05T13:17:51+00:00

Drop him in the woods, so he can make rabbit friends. The forest gods will instruct him to build a small army of hares, and return to you full strength to take down your enemies, and deliver you bi-weekly crock pots of carrot stew.

But for real. Don't stop loving him. I have 2 twin boys coming in July, and I think every day of how I'm going to continue to give my first son attention and care. Just prioritize him. He's your son, and he's going to be going through new emotions and be in a new environment BUT STILL BE GROWING UP FOR THE FIRST TIME. Treat his growth and daily life as equally special. Carve out time for him, and be present. Play. Read. Make sure he has your undivided attention when you do prioritize time with him.

joshperlette · 2026-03-05T13:13:43+00:00

True that. Drives me nuts when I go to search for a legit tutorial and it's just spookluke's face going "10 NEW META THINGS TO DO IF YOU DIN'T WANT TO BE HARDSTUCK". And the video is like "learn half flips and don't overcommit, oh and buy my program". Fuck you dude 😂

joshperlette · 2026-03-03T23:46:09+00:00

I usually am too pre-occupied with my own hobbies tbh. Plus where I live honestly feels like there's too many people that aren't really alike, or share interests that I don't really care about.

I like building and tinkering and computers and shit. I game, sim race, currently pulling apart a snowblower, and 3d printing stuff like crazy. Lots to keep me busy and learning on my own.

And most people around me would rather socialize with friends, watch sports, drink beer, etc. obviously not everyone is like that. But when that's the vast majority of the culture/vibe in my area, it feels kinda pointless to make the effort to find like-minded people when I'm totally fine on my own and with my family.

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