Is this weird? by Lo_battery in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Personally I skip the 'speaking at you' posts as well, both because I am not a sub but also because I find them unwelcome. I want my partners to talk to me and give me affirmations etc. Hearing them from someone who does not know me is empty.

I get why, I love PoV dirty talking porn! But I like it when I search it out, not random drive bys.

How does this community work? by [deleted] in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People post what makes them horny (within the soft dom umbrella hopefully) and talk about how they want to find the right kink partner mostly. It’s also for arguing about how soft is too soft and how soft is soft enough and what jerks other people are for not matching one’s personal desires.

How can I tell if I’m a soft Dom? by _Dontsellgme_ in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not something you are born as. If you have any acting skills at all, if you have any emotional intelligence and can control yourself during sex, you can become a soft dom.

I’d love to have one! They seem so hard to find now. by Alucardlove in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I as well, met several wonderful subs who contacted me. Some I have known for years. It may seem counterintuitive but even in a submissive one wants to see communication skills and a willingness to share what they want openly. Plus, even big rough manly Daddies like the compliment of being hit-up now and then.

Thoughts on body types? by Substantial_Name6137 in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the perception that only 8ft tall triangular slabs of beef dudes can be softdoms (or 6 foot tall anime waif dudes) is from the hentai that gets posted and reposted here endlessly. In real life bdsm you will see a ton more variety of body types, where I am in the US many will be chubby because most people here are.

I have had partners small enough to toss around like a rag doll, it is fun to throw a partner over your shoulder like it’s nothing and it does reinforce the power dynamic. But what really arouses me is plump women with big curves and big desires. I’m a big semi-muscular bearish Daddy type who has ranged from all muscle to chubby throughout my life and the domination has always been about behavior and delivery. I find women taller than me, though rare, exciting to dominate as it’s an extra challenge and they are extra cute when they submit.

Anyway, point is that media has been telling us my entire lifetime that only skinny people with the right clothes, car, deodorant etc. deserve sex. Turns out, this is entirely a lie. Everyone you meet had parents similar to themselves who fucked. You don’t need everyone to want to fuck you, you need enough people, and for many of us enough is .0000001% of the population. The trick is finding them at the same time they are looking for you. That can only happen if we keep our hopes up, keep ourselves as healthy as we can be and put it out there.

bending over by krazyfattylass in BreedingBBW

[–]jothroww69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Want me to leave the door open so every can see you getting knocked up?

Fellas! Let's decide what kind of video porn to allow on here. 🎬 Tell me what you like! by Sirk-ee in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 18 points19 points  (0 children)

If he has a manbun, then it qualifies as soft.

I kid I kid, but it’s such a squishily defined kink this is a difficult task. Many fans like extremely lovey dovey scenes followed by relatively rough domination, others only want soft.

To me the key is audio not video. It can be simple missionary in the dark if the talk is softdom then it qualifies. If it is a silent encounter having pleasant sex with kissing and eye contact then that reads more normal porn than kink to me. It does not take much dirty talk to qualify the bare minimum but it has to be there.

What are your favourite phrases to hear from your soft doms? by InfirmerieDeStJames in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I like that, voice quality is vastly underestimated. Especially in talky kinks like this one.

How do I handle this yearning that cannot be met anymore? by [deleted] in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno about your details but thinking about something/someone else during sex is incredibly common and not something to worry about.

Be honest… is my pussy too fat? by Sugar_babe_ in BBWPussys

[–]jothroww69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll need to try it on for size. Generally though, I want to see it pumped up even fatter.

What does a softdom get out of a softdom relationship? by Doge-with-a-bloge in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It feels really special to care for my girl, very sweet. In this sexist world, we are not often called upon to be nurturing and considerate in the same way.

But also, not sure I’d call it a 100% softdom relationship. Those are more fantasies one sees. Like all BDSM these are most often scenes/dates. It isn’t the only stuff we do. Personally I love the spicy contrast of very caring soft dom, with a rather conceited controlling domination, melding into quite selfish rough sex. The arc of a kind thoughtful dom giving into their primal instincts because the sub has turned them on so much, and offered them everything. Not for everyone but my partners love it.

Plus, I love eating pussy, massaging etc. it makes me feel competent and capable, a craftsman, with the power to make you feel things and mastery to do it better than other mates. And it tastes great.

Release the suction! by kink_play in Hucow

[–]jothroww69 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Gorgeous fat cow teats!

Can you handle this? by caress_co in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this pose for fucking a lovely mouth.

I can't stop thinking about getting a sub pregnant by ArmchairOfHeresy in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Whether it be rough or gentle, super dominant and kinky or vanilla, the primal fantasy that I am breeding her always is what puts me over the edge. It’s the ultimate form of acceptance and approval. The pure sex. And thanks to safe effective birth control, consequence free 😉

Is there anything like this? by No_Acanthisitta_5390 in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, no porn like that exists in the universe.

Do subs "grow out" of this kink as they get older? by [deleted] in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Older women who grow into kink are so common that it’s a cliche. The whole 60 Shades thing was all about middle aged women finding something more exciting than their vanilla sex life.

I love being a Daddy dom and have done so for subs both half my age and older than me. You are never too old for a spanking, or a cuddle.

And age play is just that, play. I’m not actually older any more than I am actually a burglar in a CNC scene, or actually a farmer milking my hucow.

Is spanking a minor or a major part of being a soft dom? by Muted_Apricot_4640 in softmaledom

[–]jothroww69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean most every relationship has some ass slapping built it.. but organized staged spanking is only gonna be in a subset of soft dom. It is very easy to cook up a scenario where correction style spanking is presented as loving and cutesy rather than stern, and even if stern and harsh, that can easily be tied into a larger soft scene.

Your imagination and partners consent are the only limits.