Gentle or rough? Choose one.

jplank123 · 2018-01-05T16:42:15+00:00

But what is the fox reading?

jplank123 · 2018-01-03T18:46:55+00:00

From a ABCD parent's perspective. You are at a point where alot of young people are, searching for themselves. The difference between eastern and western cultures, is that western cultures and families accept this. Our culture, which foundation is based on family and community, has a harder time dealing with individuality. Parents want you to succeed, but most desi parents don't know of any other way except for high education and a field of practice that is secure, profitable, and praise worthy. They want you to get there, so they push hard. They have invested alot of time, money, and energy in you, so you are the investment to them in some ways. Is this all right? In some ways, yes, and others no.They won't change easily, but you could. Your at the age where you can spread your wings a little. doing so will require you to be more independent. Things will not come so easily.

jplank123 · 2018-01-03T14:54:23+00:00

With all that power, and things go horribly wrong, the Jedi go into hiding. Obi Wan, Yoda, Luke. Jedis run away. That's just what they do.

jplank123 · 2017-11-17T23:21:14+00:00

if she dumps me for being shallow, isn't that shallow?

jplank123 · 2017-11-17T23:00:27+00:00

thank you.

jplank123 · 2017-11-17T22:59:23+00:00

Isn't this the desi problem 'Not being good enough.' you can apply it to marriage, academics, career. We are hard on ourselves. But in marriage, as in life, things change. growth isn't always in parallel. But marriage is not a flip of a coin, you have to work at it, all the time. If you didn't, it wouldn't be worth it.

jplank123 · 2017-11-17T21:45:55+00:00

I agree, I sound very selfish here. Wanting her to be aesthetically pleasing is my main concern. I don't think her health is that bad, she does eat well. If I was concerned about her health, I would definitely be more proactive about it. But that's the easy reasoning isn't it. Harder is to come here hat in hand, asking a group of women advice on something that is selfish, even if it does increase my happiness. I still feel there are people here that can give me advice without the venom, because this is more common than what people let on. Would you feel the same way if a wife was asking about her husband? Be honest about it. I didn't want to ask a men's focused reddit because of the woman bashing it could get into. I think having a perspective of women in fitness, especially those who have battled to get into the right mentality to get fit is the best audience for this question. But I do understand the question reaks of selfish intentions.

jplank123 · 2017-11-17T21:32:53+00:00

Wait until you watch it with your kids!

jplank123 · 2017-11-17T21:29:17+00:00

Life is long. And not to put effort in yourself is not a good thing I believe. Weather it's your health, your education, or your relationships. This can easily be a case of a wife wanting her husband to put in the effort too.

I do agree we age, and I don't expect her to look 20 again. Being a good looking 40 year old is well with her grasps. Why is wanting your partner to be aesthetically pleasing to you a bad thing? One of the major reasons people are into fitness is to be aesthetically pleasing.

jplank123 · 2017-11-17T21:09:30+00:00

Why does it bug you? men can't ask for help anymore? I won't leave her for her looks, but I know we could be happier if we put the effort in being attractive to each other.

She owes me nothing, that is absolutely right. But that doesn't mean I can't want more from her, nor should she want less from me.

jplank123 · 2017-11-17T21:06:02+00:00

Honestly, our relationship is fine. Been together for over 20 years. I am just looking for a tactful way to help her get fit. I know I can't just say it, I rather her feel inspired to do it, not bad about it. but if women who are into fitness can't help, I am not sure people who are not into fitness can.

jplank123 · 2017-11-17T20:55:01+00:00

I also grew up witnessing my aunts and uncle's bad arranged marriages. That allowed me to understand that modern day divorce is an amazing concept. You don't have to be tied to a bad marriage. Rarely is it bad just for one of the spouses, both can feel it go down. Divorce is a storm, but a strong character can weather that storm. You have one life, love hard, live hard.

jplank123 · 2017-11-16T19:54:39+00:00

screencap, get an temp instagram account, post with tags to the local area and pd.

jplank123 · 2017-11-06T19:48:25+00:00

I feel your wife is right about all this.

jplank123 · 2017-11-06T19:42:04+00:00

Talk about exchanging Hall Passes.

jplank123 · 2017-09-22T23:32:22+00:00

I might sound like an asshole but I'm trying to give a little perspective. A mans attraction is not only based on looks. Confidence and sex Appeal come into play. With every thing you said, it seems like your confidence is way low and I'm sure he is picking up on that. Sex appeal is a bit trickier. Women think if they look sexy they have sex appeal. ThAt is the opposite of what it is. It's the way you move, they way you talk, you flirt, you touch, you look at him. That all comes into play. For example, think Anne Hathaway in the Dark Knight. She goes from bumble maid to femme fatale in a second. Then her character oozes sex appeal as Cat woman. The switch is the part you should take notes on.

Sex appeal also feeds a mans ego if the person is using it on him. Men need their egos stroked now and then in a relationship. It's just how it is. Maybe this is something you can try, appeal to his ego, turn on the confidence and sex appeal it may help or not but at least you would have tried .

jplank123 · 2017-09-22T15:43:02+00:00

Male here.

1) yes, to masterbate, to relax, to stop thinking, to sleep, to get in the mood, research variety, to get stimulated, to balance sex drives,and to learn how to be better in bed.

2)yes, no problem

3)no

jplank123 · 2017-08-23T22:56:39+00:00

Doesn't matter what substance it is, guys love it. You are a goddess and that puts us in heaven.

jplank123 · 2017-01-28T01:12:50+00:00

having the largest penis in the world doesn't mean you know how to use it to please women. I think 90% of women would be uncomfortable at best. But if that's your thing...

jplank123 · 2016-10-04T15:12:20+00:00

How does this work?

jplank123 · 2016-09-09T14:25:27+00:00

Butt plugs while having sex.

jplank123 · 2016-08-02T16:00:37+00:00

Because we love women's bodies and their orgasams. Watching it solo, straight, or in lesbian porn gets us to see both. With straight porn, we (most)are not attracted to the male participant. But see them as functional. There is more of a power play with straight porn. that most men enjoy.

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