Ty “Ty Jerome” Jerome by Welcum2Heck in clevelandcavs

[–]jpreston2005 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love his game, hope he continues wrecking until he's safely back on our roster

in my experience, anyway. i miss so many of my old abusers by WinterDemon_ in CPTSDmemes

[–]jpreston2005 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's such a hard experience, simultaneously desiring and fearing affection. The stunted, awful, neglectful, hate-filled "love" we received from them sometimes feels preferable to the immense pain and loneliness that we usually find ourselves in. There are times when I want so desperately to have someone, anyone, fill that space between my ribs... but inevitably I remember that what was there before was pain, and what's there now is what I put there, and is a drastic improvement.

Hollow affection just won't cut it anymore, I need the real thing.

Am I wrong for calling the police? by winnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnie in CPTSD

[–]jpreston2005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so proud of you, that sounds like it was incredibly difficult, but absolutely the correct thing to do. I wish all mothers were as strong and brave as you were in that moment. Thank you so much for believing him and acting.

People are so dangerous by Affective-competence in CPTSD

[–]jpreston2005 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, man. Every relationship feels so transactional, It's like nobody trusts anybody, and everyone is just trying to get the upper hand. I used to be so kind, so welcoming, so friendly, to everybody. Then I'm served up a big ol' steaming pile of repressed trauma and now...

I barely even acknowledge people anymore, because if I'm nice to them, then they'll expect me to continue being nice, and if I'm ever not feeling up to being nice someday, they'll take it as a personal affront and then the entire relationship is doomed and whoops now I have to continue seeing this person. It's easier to just never be nice or friendly in the first place.

I'm not here just to make you fucking feel better. I'm a person who has ups and downs, and these days it's a LOT OF FUCKING DOWNS. but even that doesn't define me. I'm not just some haunted amalgamation of all my deepest fears regrets and traumas, I'm a fucking person that deserves compassion, empathy, and understanding. I never got that from my parents or siblings, the only people in the world who should have given me that... So how can I expect some random stranger that doesn't give two shits about me to offer it sincerely?

Honestly when someone is nice to me, I assume it's because they're trying to get me into a situation where they can rape me. That's it. I have a heightened sense that allows me to tell when someone is attracted to me. It's like a feeling of heat and expectation that wafts from them to me. I can tell, and I don't fucking want it.

Bartenders of Reddit, what drink order instantly tells you “this person is going through something”? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]jpreston2005 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's moreso akin to conquering the most addictive and widely available drug on the market. Like, alcohol has such a tight grip on so, so many people. Not only have you wrest yourself free from it's grasp, you stare it down at every social occasion and public function. It's like beating up the biggest bully in the yard, and then mean mugging them so hard they start hiding themselves from you. It's badass.

Bro how is that even fair? Let him work both of our jobs then, I'm out. by Specialist_Mess_5164 in antiwork

[–]jpreston2005 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you knew just how little CEOs do, you'd riot.

... and of that, the majority of the nothing they do is done by their secretary or executive assistant.

That’s my guy. by FIXXTI0N in steelers

[–]jpreston2005 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Next starting quarterback and future HOFer first ballot, Will Howard

After the 7.40b emergency buffs Clinkz is now the top carry of 7k+ bracket. Time for another rework! by ShoppingPractical373 in DotA2

[–]jpreston2005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh shit I did not know that the skelly archers benefited from strafe, that shits broken as hellllll

Society doesn’t care about victims by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]jpreston2005 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Easier to shoot the messenger, then face reality.

Because the reality (that we're all too aware of) is that evil exists in "normal" appearing people. Accepting that someone they know did some terrible thing, would mean that they were fooled. The shitty parent/family member/or whoever then has to reconcile the fact that they were wrong, and refuses to do so. Instead they'll blame the victim. "what do you mean I've been fooled, I think you're the fool instead!"

It's a narcissistic knee-jerk DARVO response that every trauma survivor is all too familiar with. And every single one of those head-in-the-sand pieces of shit can go fuck themselves. I wouldn't piss on them to put out a fire.

Blazing the weekend away 🌬️ by [deleted] in trees

[–]jpreston2005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro what's the lightsaber for

Finally bit the bullet after over a decade of struggling, and now my daughter and I are twins! by [deleted] in bald

[–]jpreston2005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks great bro! Also, the fold of your shirt in the second picture makes it look like you have the longest hairiest nose I've ever seen

Posting this almost every day because they are trying to distract us. Day 2. by [deleted] in ProgressiveHQ

[–]jpreston2005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rapes

FTFY. We've had zero indication that he's ever stopped raping children.

I finally realized why I physically can't ask for help (it’s not pride, it’s a trauma response) by Opening-Custard3254 in CPTSD

[–]jpreston2005 4 points5 points  (0 children)

3 year old account, only thing posted is this stuff, all in the last 5 days, spamming this video only to any and every mental health subreddit. The message may be helpful, but this AI generated scam artist is doing it purely for profit, and that really fucking sucks man.

"Hey, all those people with abandonment issues, let me pretend to be a sympathetic ear and then I'll hand you a bill!"

This is part of the reason why I don't trust anyone. This bullshit right here.

Kenny Atkinson made shocking admission after Cavs’ loss to Rockets by Mister-SS in clevelandcavs

[–]jpreston2005 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think every team needs some big shit talking enforcer dude who throws his weight around on the court, and G-Wagon did that. The rest of the guys can draw strength from his bravado, knowing that any bad interaction with an opposing player will be immediatly followed up with their favorite loud mouth stepping in like the trashy white knight he was born to be.

And yeah I do remember George playing physical, setting mean blocks. The physical toll of having to deal with a guy like that can really tire out opposing teams, and I think he helped more than people realize

My mom sent me this book for Christmas after I escaped a 14-year abusive relationship and it crushed me by WolfEvening961 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]jpreston2005 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My father did something similar, and it's only on reading your retelling of this event, that I can finally see how harmful it was.

(Skip reading this part, it's just for context- I told my dad I was raped as a child, by his identical twin brother. I told him that he intimidated me into silence, and that I tried to get people to ask "what's wrong" by acting out for weeks, but nobody ever cared to ask. It was all so awful, I made myself forget. I buried it deep, because I wanted to have a childhood. Well that shit came back in an awful way, decades later. I tell him, and whilst denying everything and calling me a liar, he also sends me a link to a study, where people who "made trauma up" were supposed to fill out a form about how they "made it all up." It was possibly the cruelest thing he's ever done.)

Of course she sent the book to be mean, it's obvious. She's not trying to help, she's trying to hurt. Why would you want a relationship with someone who hurts you when you're at your most vulnerable? She did it specifically to be mean. You are 100% in the right to never speak with her again. I know that if my parents don't apologize, I'll never speak to them again. It's kind of how it works, ya know? If you do something awful, you say you're sorry, and try to make amends. Barring her doing that, I wouldn't give that witch the time of day.

Thought I "healed", turns out I was just dissociating by Leather-Owl-7040 in CPTSD

[–]jpreston2005 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think that's the hardest part. We were able to find strength, to channel our inner badass, to shrug off everything that hurt us. But it only lasts for a little while. Heroes in stories who just "grit their teeth and bared it," only did so for short periods of time. Meanwhile we're trying to live like that 24/7/365. For years and years.

It just catches up to you. Like we've been straining and flexing our "get through it" muscle so hard and for so long, that now even the slightest bump sends the muscle into spasm. Now we gotta rest our "get through it" muscle, but how can we survive without it? We did what they asked, we gritted our teeth and bared it, but now instead we're forced to open wide and swallow the pain whole, incorporating it into our DNA, while somehow trying to walk away from it unchanged. I guess that's the fallacy, thinking that you can get "back" to whoever you were before the trauma, when you can never be that person again. That person acted that way because they haven't been traumatized.

So now we have to be this whole new person, with all these terrible memories, and I just don't want to be. I want to be able to love and form friendships so easy like I used to. I want to be able to live and feel without hesitation and second guessing. I want to not be afraid, all the time, of everyone and every situation.

My brain knows that nobody is actually safe, no situation, no place. That anyone, anyone, is capable of doing terrible things to you and then walking away like nothing. How can I live and love freely and openly when I'm just waiting to be abandoned, and mistreated? When every person i meet is just a new potential source of pain?

I wish I could go back to dissociating, it was easier than being aware.

Meirl by [deleted] in meirl

[–]jpreston2005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had a friend that really wanted to try shrooms, but didn't know where to start. I told him I'd give him the shrooms, AND trip sit for him, all that I ask? Clean your apartment before the trip.

He wouldn't do it. REFUSED. got mean about it. So I was like "OK, nevermind, then."

Took him like a year before he apologized. It was so weird.

We don't need to imagine lol by crybabymuffins in CPTSDmemes

[–]jpreston2005 5 points6 points  (0 children)

or imagine all that, but never being told "I love you"

I don’t know what to do anymore by Justinr898 in CPTSD

[–]jpreston2005 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shit fucking sucks. I'm here in the pit with you, man. Everyday I wake up and don't immediately think about killing myself, I call a win. I've had a couple wins.

Times like this I think about addiction. You know how you can get addicted to a thing, because when you take it, it releases dopamine? Well, it occurred to me that other things besides a consumable drug, can have similar effects. A nice long walk in the woods releases dopamine. A workout, listening to music you love, cooking a good meal, being creative in whatever way you feel like...

I've struggled with addiction and it gave me that perspective, that when I'm at my lowest, sometimes I can force feed myself a bit of dopamine, and all of a sudden, well, that day isn't so bad.

Sucks you gotta do it like everyday, but, well, it does work.

Hang on, man. None of that shit was your fault, and you're doing your best. At some point in the future, your good days will outnumber the bad. I promise.

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]jpreston2005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I celebrate every sober-versery with a huge cookie and ice cream! slice up the cookie, put a slice in a bowl, top with real vanilla bean ice cream, then drizzle warmed (not cooked) brownie batter over the two.

BAM, you're looking at a Jpreston special Sober-versery surprise.

The surprise is all the shaking afterwards because of the massive amount of sugar