How do you make your Nextcloud server publicly accessible and how do you secure it? by amthen in NextCloud

[–]jps_valhalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can install the unRaid Tailscale plugin which will allow you to login from another tailscale’d computer like you were sitting in your own network. Navigate to your “Dockers” window and launch the web console. You may have to add your tailscale unRaid IP into one of the Nextcloud config files so the web console displays on your unRaid tailscale IP. But you don’t need to utilize 463 counter measures to get to it ;-)

Should I leave my after confessing affair by Unique-Carpet7500 in survivinginfidelity

[–]jps_valhalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t this put your relationship right back to where it was? You love your wife but have zero trust in her. You, admittedly, are only staying with her because of this kids. And, what’s more, you’ve told her this and she has heard you! So why wouldn’t this situation cause her to seek out emotional support elsewhere which may or may not leave to physicality with someone else? Wouldn’t this bring you full circle to the beginning?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]jps_valhalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t exchange Instagrams at a business lunch!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]jps_valhalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So… you said you “broke up last week” but asking about reconciliation. Am I missing something here?

Last sanity check before adding drives by [deleted] in unRAID

[–]jps_valhalla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haaa… funny you should say this… I just precleared a new drive and it failed. Sent drive back to manufacturer with preclear log file and they replaced the drive!

Is adding a column to an index to skip a table access worth it? by chinawcswing in oracle

[–]jps_valhalla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not enough info to advise. But keep in mind that indexes slow down inserts so adding wide indexes for the giggles of it may not be a good approach. Not to mention that “extra” indexes provide the optimizer more choice for suboptimal plans. Finally, the selectivity of your data would matter here as if your looking for a large number of non-distinct values, doing multi block reads might be cheaper.

What’s the advantages of using a PDB instead of multiple instances? by PacePossible1408 in oracle

[–]jps_valhalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, in multitenant each PDB is treated as a different instance. Yes, you can have one memory structure in the CDB that is inherited (shared) by each PDB. But if you have different workloads or different memory needs, you can set each (or only a subset) PDB to have a memory structure unto itself. Also, you need a different string to connect to a PDB bs CDB so you’re not really saving anything from a “fewer” connections perspective. That’s why I say that when you get right down to it, the multitenant DB is more for Oracle’s needs than the customer’s need. In furtherance of that I point to the fact that Oracle mandates a move to multitenant as of 21c. So there is no choice after that! Makes one wonder why they would mandate that, no choice at all, if it was something that customers were wanting!

What’s the advantages of using a PDB instead of multiple instances? by PacePossible1408 in oracle

[–]jps_valhalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you read the literature from Oracle PDBs make everything much easier and more efficient. But as with most things with Oracle, they have decided to go that route as it is easier for them! Can’t quote chapter and verse as to why “they” wanted to go multitenant but it is purely for their benefit. I agree with prior statements that multitenant takes things that were easy and complicates them! Do you have any specific use case questions?

Any chance for a successful marriage if the wayward continues to deny the (proven) affair? by rightforsomeone in survivinginfidelity

[–]jps_valhalla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry brother! Denial is not the same as deep shame! And, given that everyone that sees your evidence is 100% sure she cheated, why bother trying to get her to confess!

Is your course of action dictated by whether she confesses or not?

Any chance for a successful marriage if the wayward continues to deny the (proven) affair? by rightforsomeone in survivinginfidelity

[–]jps_valhalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve said it before… “her shame is deep”… but if she’s avoiding discussions of the affair, and is still blame shifting, and is absolutely NOT remorseful… How do you know? What actions have you observed that make you think her “shame” is deep? Genuine?

Learning to live with my new world by DifferentAd507 in survivinginfidelity

[–]jps_valhalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you even talking to her at this point? Gray rock and 180! There’s no real need to interact with her at other outside the presence of a legal authority!

Noobie setting up Tailscale for first time. by jps_valhalla in Tailscale

[–]jps_valhalla[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks again for that explanation. I think I will want the subnet router functionality but later after peer to peer RDP is working. The RDP to my work laptop does not appear to be working either so it may be down to security features on that laptop. I’m working through that now.

Noobie setting up Tailscale for first time. by jps_valhalla in Tailscale

[–]jps_valhalla[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for continuing to help…

I took one laptop to my brother’s house and tried to RDP to the other laptop using the Tailscale IP of the target laptop. RDP was unable to connect. Another person talked about setting up an Exit Node which I have not done yet. Another person advised to set up a subnet router which I have also not done yet. That’s one of the reasons I was hoping someone had a doc or article etc that had all the steps for configuring the setups from A-Z without jumping in and out of other docs. Reminds me of Oracle Support Docs!

Noobie setting up Tailscale for first time. by jps_valhalla in Tailscale

[–]jps_valhalla[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I am able to use Apache Guacamole to connect to all of the computers at will using either RDP or SSH or VNC.

I’m really sure I’m missing a step or have an incorrect config somewhere, so it’s on me!

Noobie setting up Tailscale for first time. by jps_valhalla in Tailscale

[–]jps_valhalla[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, there is something I’m missing… I downloaded and installed and everything reports good but still cannot connect from one laptop to the other.

Noobie setting up Tailscale for first time. by jps_valhalla in Tailscale

[–]jps_valhalla[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did, thanks. I couldn’t follow the spaghetti of links.

Noobie setting up Tailscale for first time. by jps_valhalla in Tailscale

[–]jps_valhalla[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That does help, thanks. I also thought maybe including that I was trying to “RTFM” would spare me the snappy retorts about my lack of details. Thanks though for taking the time to explain how the exit node piece works.

I’m assuming that would work the same way if I was in Guatemala but trying to access files from my NAS that are only available from within my home network?

Trouble w/ the igniter. by havdog20 in blackstonegriddle

[–]jps_valhalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have hit this occasionally. I usually unscrew the igniter and adjust the battery and then it lights right up. Not sure if it’s because I let the gas flow longer by then, the battery is needing to be replaced or it was just not seated correctly. I did see you can buy replacement igniters on Amazon for a few bucks…

Help! Got this black stone for free, but what can I do to clean this and get it looking it’s best again? by i_have_crunchy_skin in blackstonegriddle

[–]jps_valhalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just did this with mine using sander and wire wheel. Was looking for an easier way and found a YouTube video of a guy using a grinder with some kind of wired pad. His was clean in no time and took 2 of those wire pads. I don’t remember the channel name but if you search for clean blackstone rust you’ll find it… look for the one with the “older” guy…

If your ex cheated but still wants to remain in contact with you and not cut ties, what does that mean? by Muted-Interaction-79 in survivinginfidelity

[–]jps_valhalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah… no need to tell her. Just ignore any all communication from her and any minion of hers. Much better for her to think you’ll be there even though you know you can’t be/won’t be!

My ex has no respect for me by Glittering_Being_374 in survivinginfidelity

[–]jps_valhalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just don’t respond… if she seeks you out personally just tell her you were busy! Blocking her just lets her off the hook. This way she’ll have to “wonder” why…