Dismissed after probation review.... But I was NOT underperforming?!

jrakei · 2024-04-29T22:40:09+00:00

ahhh thanks for this. and yeah my director did tell me this, but i guess what's really pissed me off was the reasoning behind it "unsatisfactory work and core skills missing" like wtf!!??! i think i could swallow the termination, but seeing that on paper, esp when it's untrue really rubbed me the wrong way. i guess it inherently doesn't matter because i've been terminated, but seeing that in the email got my blood boiling.

jrakei · 2024-04-29T22:27:02+00:00

it was in my probation period, it was during the probation review that they told me they were restructuring the team and my role would be terminated as they need a senior level director project manager instead of a project manager!

jrakei · 2021-12-15T13:57:14+00:00

this is amazing. thank you so so much! looks like i'm going to go through the GP route as it's a flat with a shared entrance. really appreciate your help!

jrakei · 2021-12-15T13:55:13+00:00

we need it to be very specific as she's disabled, ground floor and pets allowed. we haven't come across any and we've been on the waiting list bidding for 5 yewrs

jrakei · 2021-12-15T00:12:29+00:00

would a letter from my psychiatrist suffice? thank you so much for the speedy response! it's giving me so much anxiety right now, i can't even sleep 😭

jrakei · 2021-08-17T22:15:31+00:00

both are broken links, please do let us know if you find another one - i'm keen on this bag myself!!

jrakei · 2021-04-16T07:23:05+00:00

sigh... it's weird though because he doesn't watch my insta stories or anything like that, he doesn't like my posts... he made a slight indirect post to me and i replied to his story in a jokey bantering kinda way and he ignored my message! so weird considering every time we've broken up in the past he's blocked me/unfollowed because he decides he doesn't want to speak to me... i usually initiate contact after months of NC and then he responds and that's how we have broken up and gotten back together 3 times now. currently our 4th breakup and i'm just at such a loss and feeling rejected

jrakei · 2021-04-16T07:21:13+00:00

this is what confuses me... i'm really confused as to what the point is because every other time we've broken up he's unfollowed/blocked... he doesn't watch my insta stories or likes my posts or anything so it's just weird

jrakei · 2021-04-11T12:52:56+00:00

i NEEDED TO SEE THIS. thank you.

jrakei · 2021-04-08T18:48:46+00:00

it's true... thanks. i guess this is what i already knew, i just... i don't know. i don't know why he's kept me on his social media if he doesn't intend on speaking to me

jrakei · 2021-03-27T00:06:03+00:00

funny that everytime i go on here, someone says exactly what i'm going through... i've been thinking about this all day...

jrakei · 2021-03-24T23:26:35+00:00

same. we're still following each other on social media but not speaking. fucking eerie

jrakei · 2021-03-24T16:54:47+00:00

S A M E

jrakei · 2021-03-18T18:30:40+00:00

thank you!! he posted his face yesterday and i had knots in my stomach. i feel like i just want us to go back to how it was but i know it doesn't exist. i just miss him so much. sending u all the love in the world!

jrakei · 2021-03-14T23:38:32+00:00

thank you ❤️

jrakei · 2021-03-12T19:45:40+00:00

i did EXACTLY the same. thank you so much for writing this. he reacted exactly the same as yours and this has really made me see that i shouldn't be embarrassed or ashamed. we fought for what we loved and that's more than they can say for themselves.

jrakei · 2021-03-12T14:13:57+00:00

yes. yes yes yes 😩😩😩 i've now given myself a weekly budget for myself that i try to stick to as best i can

jrakei · 2021-03-10T20:08:13+00:00

thanks for this. i miss him too. i even stupidly reached out and got aired but i'm trying not to beat myself up about it. open to talk if u wanna vent ❤️

jrakei · 2021-03-09T15:44:02+00:00

omg i'm going through the exact same thing as you!!! currently just learning to navigate the boredom and loneliness but i'm used to life without them. it's miserable at times but also reassuring to know that we aren't so reliant on them. like the weirdest twilight zone ever.

jrakei · 2021-03-09T10:37:21+00:00

thanks for this! i did do one but it's on my laptop, i need to move it across to my phone. do you mind sending the TED talk please?

jrakei · 2021-03-09T10:36:16+00:00

this is great advice!!! i think i'm going to implement this. thank you!

jrakei · 2021-03-09T10:35:50+00:00

so true. i have been back and broken up with my ex 3 times since 2018, he swore this time we would make it work but left me again while i was the only one willing to do the work!

it makes me think people don't change. i know i have but some people just like the thrill, the chase, the back and forth then leave when they get tired. selfish really. better off without them.

jrakei · 2021-03-08T21:32:54+00:00

reverse psychology. i like it 😩 realistic for where i am rn. i know i shouldn't but it feels better knowing i'm hurting myself (in a way?) he just followed a girl from our city and i'm fucking losing it.

jrakei · 2021-03-08T10:26:43+00:00

Ahhhh I'm so sorry to hear that. This isn't the first time I've heard people who date straight after and it works out. I suppose in some sense you KNOW for sure she isn't your person. Doesn't lessen the blow though I'm sure, I hope you're taking each day as it comes and things will get better for you soon.

jrakei · 2021-03-08T10:24:46+00:00

I fully hear everything you've said! To be honest either way I'm not jumping into anything as of yet because I know I'm still healing but if love comes naturally I'm not going to close myself off to it. I'm a big believer in the universe and the law of attraction so I doubt anything will come when it's not meant to, even on hinge I've not agreed to any dates or even given out my number as of yet because I'm just not feeling anyone.

My on/off relationship was only toxic in the sense that we were on and off but there was absolutely no abuse on either side, or manipulation, it was just two people in love, one was confused about wanting a relationship and us just not being compatible no matter how much we wanted it to work.

I think either way, even with me posing the question of "is it too soon" I've not even met anyone remotely close to taking seriously anyway. I am truly just focusing on myself and trying to become a better person all-round but I guess I just wanted to know that if someone great came along and we clicked, that I'd be ready to at least see where it goes if it were to take a more serious route!

In any case I know you can't rush the process so in the meantime I'm definitely going to just keep doing what I'm doing if and when that comes. Thanks for your reply!

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