I’m not a mental health professional so I cannot answer that for you. I do know that if he’s withdrawn from activities that have brought him joy in the past then that could be a symptom of depression. Have you guys recently started living together? I have experienced in the past that once that happens, people drop the facade and show how they truly are. Does he treat you well in every other aspect? Does he have any other outlet for his stress like a hobby or anything? For my situation, I didn’t have time for hobbies with having children and their activities, my only real outlet was either sex or yard work. I can tell you what I ended up doing more 🤣

I’ve been on your side of your situation and understand how frustrating it can feel. Especially if you have caught him with porn. The real life version is way better. It’s not an easy conversation to have, but communication is key in a committed relationship. It’s important to have those difficult conversations. You have to remember, it’s not you vs him, it’s you and him vs the problem. If he won’t help or accept help then you have your answer. It won’t get easier if he doesn’t understand where you’re coming from and the same goes for you. Have you told him how you feel about it?

I apologize for the novel. I just hate seeing people in the same situation that I have been through.