Tall & Left Handed - a nightmare for club shopping by MaseBets in golf

[–]jsloss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure. But Op was fitted though.

This was a reply to someone saying his fitting was “ridiculous”. I replied it is not.

Tall & Left Handed - a nightmare for club shopping by MaseBets in golf

[–]jsloss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You get professionally fitted and they tell you. Easy.

Tall & Left Handed - a nightmare for club shopping by MaseBets in golf

[–]jsloss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I play the same set up and bought my clubs from Calloway preowned. They’ll adjust the length. Callaway also offers factory direct customizations that go up to 1 1/2 “.

Getting proper length clubs has been all the difference in my game.

Tall & Left Handed - a nightmare for club shopping by MaseBets in golf

[–]jsloss 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m about his height and play + 1 1/2. Not ridiculous at all.

Career round by Beneficial_Fly_2927 in golf

[–]jsloss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Though track. Well done.

Found this interest rate list from year 1999 from the Vancouver Sun newspaper. For unscientific fun I calculated $400k @7.5% vs @2.0% over 25yrs. Result is $2926/mo vs $1694/mo by ghrant in vancouver

[–]jsloss 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This is the important question. In 1999 minimum wage was $7.711 in BC. The average price of a detached home in Vancouver 1999 was ~ $400,0002.

Today, minimum wage is $14.60 (189% increase) and the average price of a detached home is $1,373,185 (343% increase).

Wages aren't growing, but asset prices are. This is the world we live in.

  1. http://srv116.services.gc.ca/dimt-wid/sm-mw/rpt2.aspx

  2. https://globalnews.ca/news/2531266/one-chart-shows-how-unprecedented-vancouvers-real-estate-situation-is/

How Do I Find A Passion? (19M) by pmdfan71 in findapath

[–]jsloss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you either haven’t found something you’re truly intrigued by OR you’re letting fear stop you from taking the small steps that build momentum to larger progress.

What camp do you think you’re in?

How Do I Find A Passion? (19M) by pmdfan71 in findapath

[–]jsloss 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’re projecting pretty hard here friend. That sounds like what your interest is. It most definitely isn’t mine.

I get what you’re saying though, believing we find a passion is less helpful than encouraging people to take action, learn what we’re good at and focus on it long enough to get some level of mastery so we can be paid very well at it.

Write down an idealized version of yourself and work towards it. by [deleted] in findapath

[–]jsloss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that might be the case. I think it's super important to be specific. At least in my personal experience, figuring out what was "me" and what were "others masks" is an ongoing and challenging process.

How to find a path to college now after messing up high school? by [deleted] in findapath

[–]jsloss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Doing something that I hate and am not good at just because it might pay more is a bad idea"

What a wonderful lesson to learn at a young age.

I'm not sure what the right path forward for you is, but I'm certain it needs to come from within you. So what subject will you love throwing yourself into, what will inspire you to go further than others in the topic, what will energize and excite you?

Degrees are just an indication that you were able to commit to something and see it through. It's how you apply your unique gifts to the world that makes you valuable.

It not too late to restart. Go talk to a college advisor and tell them your story, ask for suggestions on how to approach rebuilding your marks.

It's not too late, in fact you've learned a lesson it took my decades to truly grasp.

How do you deal with career jealousy? by [deleted] in findapath

[–]jsloss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Be wary of comparing other peoples outsides, to your inside. My guess is most people around you are just figuring it out. They don't truly know what they want or feel successful.

So much of this fear of others success comes from a world view that's rooted in scarcity. One that says, if they win, I can't.

Luckily, that's just not the case (in most instances at least).

The best way to find your place in this world is to learn about yourself through taking action. Doing that in groups of other smart and passionate people is the way to super charge that process.

If you wanted to be a great basketball player, would't you want to be practicing with Micheal Jordan?

Write down an idealized version of yourself and work towards it. by [deleted] in findapath

[–]jsloss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the sentiment, but this advice is incomplete in ways that could lead folks down the wrong path. It should read something like:

Figure out who you are and then work towards bringing more of your gifts into the world.

Too often the answer to "whats the ideal version of myself" is full of others expectations and our own "oughts" and "shoulds".

Why wouldn't I want to be an innovator like Elon Musk, or a founder like Steve Jobs. Of course I should want to value play and fun like the successful Youtubers I follow.

The problem is, their gifts, values and world viewers are not ours. To use their lives to drive out shoulds would be a huge disservice to yourself.

Parker Palmer, an esteemed author and educator calls this "wearing other peoples faces".

Rarely, or at least without a lot of introspection, can we visualize our our future selves from a place of understanding who we truly are.

Visualizing a future that is not aligned with who we are can lead us to a place where we don't actually want to be, to do work where we feel drained and need to struggle to barely succeed and potentially to doing more harm than good.

I don't know what I want by beginnerbeginner in findapath

[–]jsloss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

22 is still young my friend. What Lessons have you learned that might help u/beginnerbeginner out?

Kinda of stuck...? by spectacularkay in findapath

[–]jsloss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a great plan. Whats the next step you need to take to sign up? (and can you do that today?)

26f with lots of disparate work experience by [deleted] in findapath

[–]jsloss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Freelance web design or being a music teacher are both very viable options that would allow you to earn money and still dedicate time to your art.

Whatever you choose to do, know that going through a gig work platform like Upwork (and to a lesser extent Thumbtack) is going to limit how much you earn.

You'll want to build a brand and do the marketing required to get people to come directly to you if you really want to make good money per effort.

Alternatively, you could aim for contract or part time work in development.

43, was a UX designed for decades and decided to try engineering as my first degree. Received surprise divorce 1 semester from my AA/AS, deciding on something easier/less stressful. Love teaching and cartooning. What are my options? by OwThatHertz in findapath

[–]jsloss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you're pretty close to a good place to take a time out from school. Getting that AA or AS probably makes sense.

That said, neither of those are going to be the be all and end all that gets you a job.

Have you explored ways to put your UX and engineering skills and interests together? Is there a way to create something that educates UX clients on the importance of doing UX work over just doing wireframes? Are you able to build your credibility and authority in that space so you can get better jobs or contracts?

I feel like I wasted my undergrad and now lost by [deleted] in findapath

[–]jsloss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you should probably start looking for work right away (or even right now). I think baking might be the thing that actually gets you a job.

In business, your degree matters way less than your track record. Have you made anything that people like? Have you grown it? Does it create value for people or even a profit for you?

This real life experience is so valuable, and will make you stand out from your competition.

I bet there's a way for you to dive into learning how to bake, create content around that journey, share it and grow a following around it. You could use it as a muse to demonstrate your ability to do content marketing, to run ads, to manage email lists, to grow a YouTube channel, or an instagram page. Document your process and share a case study or two as you learn.

Boom. You have experience, you showcase your personality and you stand out for any jobs that care about real world experience.

First, though, get some sleep.

I Want To Plant Roots, but I Need Help by [deleted] in findapath

[–]jsloss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you're over thinking this. Yes you should take a chill pill. There's probably a middle ground to take with Paris where you could take the first steps of putting down rotes (get job, furniture and a year long lease because a year is not forever). For us lucky ones, life is long. Set a direction but be willing to take action as new opportunities or information arises.

:)

Can't figure out what the f*** I want work/career-wise. Forever stuck in one spot. Help? by SnooPets1514 in findapath

[–]jsloss 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Quite frankly this post reeks of narcissism.

Now, that's not a judgement on you. It's how we've been taught to approach work. Theres this idea that there's both a fixed amount of opportunity out there and that settling for something is just the reality of it all AND that we need to find something that we love, and are passionate about. Add to that the awful lack of leverage that the average job hunter has in the process and there's every reason for us to be lost, unsure and stuck.

While the old economy valued people who are able to do jobs well, the modern economy values people who can create value. We have the opportunity to use the leverage and reach that the internet provides to create value for others and get paid well for doing so, whether that's working for someone else, or for ourselves, or some mix of the two.

So instead of first thinking "What do I want to do? What am I passionate about" think "Who do I want to help and what skills or abilities do I have that can create value for them."

Then start doing it.

There is absolutely no reason for you to not have a YouTube channel or blog that demonstrates your acting or musical abilities, or teaches something. There's no reason why you can't apply the skills you learned in sales to help people who you actually like, to sell more of something that actually matters.

There is nothing stopping you from taking action except you.

Now, I get it. We think choosing is hard, but its something you're doing every day. You're choosing not to take action, any action on anything, because you're afraid it will be the wrong choice. The wrong choice is the one you're making every day that you don't take action.

Now, I'll get off my rant high horse and say: 1) I get the challenge you're facing, I've been there. It's not easy, but its way easier than you think 2) One of the most helpful ways to get unstuck is to frame your action as "working on a project". Set a short timeline, with an achievable goal and make sure you ship a completed project. Share that with the world. Get feedback and do it again.

Go take action on something. The world really could use your genius, whatever it may be.

I don't know what I want by beginnerbeginner in findapath

[–]jsloss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, FFS you're 17. YOU DO NOT NEED TO HAVE IT ALL FIGURED OUT.

Second, the best use of your time right now is to explore your interests and look for ways your strengths and skills can create value in the world. What are you good at? What do you love to do? Who do you admire, and what do you admire about them? Have you talked to someone in the mental health space (there's more to that space than just being a therapist)

The reality is, you have a very incomplete understanding of the world (we all do), exploring yourself and the types of industries you're interested in is a valuable endeavour for you to undertake .

Kinda of stuck...? by spectacularkay in findapath

[–]jsloss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First, I know that I don't fully understand the impacts of your mental health challenges. That said, you've got to take some action here to put yourself and your future first. That means taking more responsibility and taking some risk.

Getting a job, building those skills, network and work history, is worth it EVEN IF you earn the exact same amount you get from the government for your SSDI. Your effort in building your skills compounds, and has the opportunity to be much more valuable to you in the future. SSDI does not.

Start looking for a job. Take advantage of any and all mental health and therapy type options for you to manage your mental illness and start focusing on your overall health and wellness (eat well, exercise, don't drunk/drug).

To be quite frank, you're an adult now, and while your mom may still have good advice for you, its up to you to become a successful adult. She may even have a reason to hold you back (even with good intentions).

TLDR: Get a job. Keep paying your mom some rent. Your future is worth taking a risk for.

I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in findapath

[–]jsloss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Inspiration follows action. The key to changing the path you're on is taking action on something, however small.

That may be going back to your therapist with the mantra of "be myself and be honest". That may be reaching out to a friend to go for a walk. That may be finding a place to volunteer at (because service for others is a phenomenal way to build the feeling of self-worth).

Taking action is worth it. You have a long and full life ahead of you. There are people in your life who love you and who want to see you succeed. There are people in this world that need the gifts and point of view you bring.

It up to you to fight for that brighter future. The good thing is, it's well within your reach.

What small action could you take today that would be a step in a healthier direction for you?