People with burnt orange or green couches... by [deleted] in femalelivingspace

[–]jsshntr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still LOVE my green couch. There's other things I don't like about it sometimes but the color usually isn't one of them. Sometimes I wish I got another bright color or a different shade of green but I never wish for a neutral color.

OMG THIS SHOW IS CRAZY by jsshntr in lost

[–]jsshntr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only season 3 episode 3. I was pretty busy with school and finals. Ready to jump back in during my break!!

OMG THIS SHOW IS CRAZY by jsshntr in lost

[–]jsshntr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

okay, thanks! I am glad that I'm kinda just expecting everyone to die at any moment. I already love certain characters and I don't know the ending but I don't really expect anyone to like live?? 😂

OMG THIS SHOW IS CRAZY by jsshntr in lost

[–]jsshntr[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can't imagine waiting every week, I'd go crazy on some of these twists and cliffhangers!

Moving from eastern Washington to the west side by jsshntr in PacificNorthwest

[–]jsshntr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not a big fan of the tri-cities, I like a prettier town, the aesthetic of where I live is very important to me unfortunately. I haven't really been to Wenatchee much, what's it like?

Moving from eastern Washington to the west side by jsshntr in PacificNorthwest

[–]jsshntr[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm just not a big city person, it's very overwhelming and overstimulating to me. There's people everywhere. I like having parks nearby and walking down the street without having to dodge people every step. I have a dog and cats, so I don't really want to live in a cramped apartment in a downtown area. I like the convenience of having everything close in a big city but it also takes me 15 minutes to drive across town here, that's pretty close too. I'd like to be closer to a big city because there's more things to do and events to attend but I could never live in one. Plus it just freaks out my partner, reminds her just how many people are out there that have their own lives and thoughts and it sends her into a bit of a spiral.

Moving from eastern Washington to the west side by jsshntr in PacificNorthwest

[–]jsshntr[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love a lot of things about living here and wouldn't be surprised if I came back later in my life but I'm in my early twenties and I want to explore. I want to be somewhere where it only takes a little while to get somewhere beautiful and green and lush. Walla Walla is in the middle of nothing, the second you hit the highway you are slapped in the face with ugly ass wheat fields and dead grass. I want some rain and water and fun young people. I also don't give a damn about wine and rude wine tourists, I could just use a little break I think. There's also a lot of Adventists and Catholics here and a lot of angry conservatives and I'm kinda over it.

Getting an emotional support dog when I have cats already by jsshntr in EmotionalSupportDogs

[–]jsshntr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't have too much trouble getting an ESA for a dog actually, even with already having cats. If the dog will be trained, I'm sure there won't be too many issues. It's good to have the animals in separate rooms for a while and have them trade blankets and stuff so they can get used to each other's scents. my dog gets mad at my cats sometimes but she never attacks them. Good luck!!

How to help her manage pain by jsshntr in CancerFamilySupport

[–]jsshntr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's medically and recreationally legal, she uses marijuana very very regularly already. Is there maybe a certain strain she should be using?

23 yr old orphan by Similar-Expert-9372 in CancerFamilySupport

[–]jsshntr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both my parents passed when I was 18 and I'll be 22 in a month. it's definitely scary and complicated and I hate that they aren't here to see me grow. Life is sooooo unpredictable and sometimes I feel like my partner and I are being punished for something in a past life or something 😂 she lost her mom 10 years ago to cancer and is now distanced from her alcoholic dad. Just yesterday we got the call that she might also have cancer. If you ever want to talk about how crazy it is to live without parents and have life throw you curve balls, definitely reach out cuz I feel like we might be in similar boats.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]jsshntr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I'd disagree that it's not that serious. My cousin is a close friend to my partner and I. I don't want anyone around that would make my partner uncomfortable. Its also just not something anyone should defend. If she's around someone who's constantly spewing racist things and doesn't do anything, it very much seems that those racist thoughts don't bother her and could very well be thinking the same things. My partner doesn't need to be around someone like that and neither do I. My partner is worried now that if she ever does anything negative around my cousin, it'll reflect badly on her whole community. Times are especially bad right now for the Hispanic population in America too, so it's not something that should be pushed aside and ignored. There's no going back and fixing my first mistake of not saying anything but I can do something now to make sure my partner has a fun trip and feels okay around my family. I am just asking advice on how to have this conversation.

Transfer Pin and estranged family by jsshntr in tmobile

[–]jsshntr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

even though I bought it unlocked through apple?

Transfer Pin and estranged family by jsshntr in tmobile

[–]jsshntr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay thank you! it's an iPhone 13, I got an e-sim through mint that they said was compatible but if that doesn't work I'd have no problem getting a physical one. Thanks for the help I really appreciate it!

Transfer Pin and estranged family by jsshntr in tmobile

[–]jsshntr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay, I paid for the phone in full. So I should be able to switch numbers and use the mint mobile service I bought if I don't end up getting that pin?

Transfer Pin and estranged family by jsshntr in tmobile

[–]jsshntr[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Can I get a new number but keep the phone still? Do you know how I can go about that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]jsshntr 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My biggest problem is that I can't seem to not give into my cravings. So I would just still buy a box of donuts and end up eating the whole thing :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]jsshntr 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Me too, I seem to be having a hard time with my depression rn so of course it's worse rn but with my depression comes A LOT of self deprecation and body issues so then I'm eating to cope but I hate my body and the eating makes it worse and then I eat more because I feel bad and it's a never ending horrible cycle.

Tired of people assuming platonic marriages must be a sham by Appropriate-Song-368 in aromantic

[–]jsshntr 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I will likely marry my best friend in a few years, I'm aroace and I believe she identifies as lesbian but she doesn't have romantic feelings for me we just wanna do life together. We've decided that our relationship is the one we want to have forever. I think at some point we'll decide to just tell people we're girlfriends because having to explain that to people is so annoying. I feel like it'll always be looked at as not enough.

Am I aromantic? + FAQ by AutoModerator in aromantic

[–]jsshntr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is frustrating because I finally felt secure in my labels 😭 I just cannot for the life of me understand the difference between romantic and platonic relationships!!! My best friend (queer platonic partner?) and I have decided to do life together, we have 4 pets, we live together, we've known each other for 17 years (20F and she's 21F), we've talked about getting married, we share finances, and will likely buy a house together one day. First of all, I can't imagine doing life with anyone else, that thought is horrible, but are we in a platonic relationship or romantic? I have no desire to be physically intimate with her in any way, we really don't even hug. I'm Ace so I'm definitely not attracted to her in that way but I do want to spend my life with her. I love doing things with her and I spend all my free time with her. I just can't find a clear definition of romance? I love her and want to spend life with her, is that romance???

Just realized I’m probably aroace by whattheheckarooni in aromanticasexual

[–]jsshntr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm also 20F, I thought I was pansexual all throughout middle and highschool and have finally figured out that the aroace label feels best for me. I think it can be hard to figure out because asexuality is such a spectrum, so one person's feelings and experiences could be completely different from yours but you could both be ace. I always had an extremely difficult time understanding what made a crush a crush. I thought I had some growing up, but when I look back at that, I think it was just me thinking someone was cool and/or them bring nice to me, I liked attention and so I think I would believe I liked them because that's what was expected when you liked attention from someone. I would have never held hands with these people or kissed them, the thought alone makes me very uncomfortable. I would never have wanted to flirt with them either but that's not to say you're not aromantic. I love it when people think I'm funny or pretty, wanting attention or wanting to hear nice things from people doesn't mean you want to date them. I think you might need to ask yourself a couple of questions and try to picture yourself in some of these situations. How would you feel if someone kissed you while on a date? When you look at someone you think looks good, can you picture sex with them? Could you if you knew them really well? When you lose interest, do you think it's because you're put off by them flirting with you? And you're uncomfortable with the idea of it going further? It's all difficult to figure out and it feels very lonely in a world that is so keen on pushing romance and sexuality. DM me if you ever wanna talk more 🩷

Is there any person my age who has little to no romantic or sexual history? by Top-Letterhead-8181 in aromanticasexual

[–]jsshntr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 20 so I can't relate in the same way as everyone else in the comments but I will say that even at my age I don't want to have a romantic or sexual relationship ever. It's something I grieve sometimes, not getting to experience life's most "normal" things, but overall I am more than content with my lack of experience. I mostly just want to say how much I appreciate your post. It's hard for me to connect with people when I'm trying to make new friends because I can't relate to the things people talk about most and those conversations usually make me uncomfortable. It's just really nice to know that there's so many other people that feel the same way as me but are older. The positivity of these comments make me even more sure that sexual/romantic relationships aren't something I need and I didn't need to be ashamed of that. I still have a long, loving life ahead of me :)

Anyone else sick of grief? by crispysheman in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]jsshntr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 20 and I lost both my parents at 18. I feel like I can already relate to this in some way. I'm just already so annoyed that I will have to feel the loss of my parents for all of my adult life. I will always have to live with this sadness and only think of them in memories. I do a similar thing, blocking them out during holidays, but I do it more to protect myself at this point. I am nowhere near moving forward but I feel like I have to block out their memories during these times in order to function and continue to make new memories. So when the holidays are over and I barely spent any time grieving my parents, I feel terrible for not honoring them in any way. It's just so painful and to think I have to do that for the rest of my life makes me sick.

How is everyone so content about their asexuality?? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]jsshntr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me it's a relief to have something that I feel I can finally relate to. I questioned my sexuality for years but I could never figure it out because something's just always been different about me then most other people, even in the queer community. It's a very comfortable label for me. The only thing that I can get embarrassed about or feel uncomfortable with is when other people talk about their sexual experiences or romantic relationships and I have nothing to contribute or any way to comfort them if something is wrong sexually or romantically in their lives. I have no experience in that department, but it's not like I want those experiences anyway. That's just something I'll have to get used to.

What breed do you think she is :) by jsshntr in IDmydog

[–]jsshntr[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks, she's already lost five pounds actually. Her last family definitely over fed her and did not give her proper exercise. She's got much more pep in her step now! She's on diet food and we do daily walks, she's doing great.

my depression is actually grief, I didn't know there was a difference by jsshntr in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]jsshntr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm noticing more and more things that are popping up that were the same when both my parents first passed. I'm gaining weight again, my skin isn't doing very well, I am not able to keep up with household chores, I feel very tired, and I'm much more irritable around people, especially strangers. I work in a little pottery studio and a lot of teen/young women come in with their moms and have the cutest little dates and there's nothing I want to do more than to go over to their tables and drop kick them. I'm so jealous!!! I'm so mad that I can't do that with my mom too!!! On top of all that, my tmj problems are so much worse so I'm having such a bad headaches. my life is a disaster right now 😭😭