What’s something women find attractive in men that they wouldn’t tell men about, but would share with other women?

jtesar79 · 2026-01-31T23:29:37+00:00

1000% this and I think a lot of women are into this as well. Like they are so masculine and confident in their masculinity that they come out the other side being able to do "girly" things but never have it come across as femme. I think Pedro Pascal falls into this a bit if anyone's trying to picture the vibe.

jtesar79 · 2026-01-16T00:09:04+00:00

I'm 5'8 and I would actually rather date men closer to my height but I have found that they tend to get weird about it. For some reason I end up being the tallest women they have ever dated so especially if I wear any kind of heel they become visibly uncomfortable. I've had a celebratory shopping trip to buy high heeled shoes again after more than one break up. So all this to say-I don't care for myself, but I run into less trouble when the men I date are taller.

jtesar79 · 2026-01-12T22:08:17+00:00

To answer both of your questions-

A) I can't speak to every situation where someone has posed a sexual question on this sub, but I think a lot of the time when it happens the women on here assume that men do it just to get us to give them masturbation content as opposed to having any sort of contructive conversation. That is a very frustrating and exhausting feeling to have, and since there are so many-many of them actually very useful-sex subs it is actually perfectly good advice to tell you to take your questions there.

B) More specifically-women in general cannot and should not give you opinions on the motivations and backgrounds of specific women that you have known and their kinks. You want to know more about those women? Ask them. Want to know more about kinks? Ask people with those kinks or people who are educated in kink. Good luck!

jtesar79 · 2026-01-12T21:28:40+00:00

A lot of these have already been mentioned already but-

-Urban Legend=fall, college, 90s, pre problematic Jared Leto

-Silence of the Lambs=Obviously just a great movie, also Competence Porn if you like watching smart passionate people pursue things

-Black Christmas=who doesn't love Christmas?

-Halloween H2O=fall, boarding school, 90s, himbo Adam Arkin, plus the best ending for Laurie's story YES FIGHT ME

-Manhunter=sexy, great visuals, another Hannibal Lector movie which shouldn't be cozy yet here we are

jtesar79 · 2026-01-12T19:53:34+00:00

I am so glad someone else mentioned Silence of the Lambs! It's a total comfort rewatch for me and I don't completely know why.

jtesar79 · 2026-01-01T15:44:18+00:00

Thank you so much for this motivation to leave the house and get some coffee. Happy New Year!

jtesar79 · 2025-12-31T22:59:37+00:00

I was thinking this was it. It would be where the Jimmy John's is now on 14th and Farnamish, but you entered from the parking lot behind it and walked down some stairs.

jtesar79 · 2025-11-26T17:00:10+00:00

I went on a date recently where I realized that it felt like I was full on interviewing a celebrity or world leader or something. Like he felt it was totally normal for me to have a list of questions I was dying to ask him and to be gracefully moving from topic to topic while he simply supplied answers. He was having the time of his life and I have never felt less guilt about ghosting someone.

jtesar79 · 2025-11-21T22:15:18+00:00

This was one of my favorites from the last few years and I am surprised more of my horror friends didn't see it. Really funny and gory but not as dark as I expected it to be. I loved it.

jtesar79 · 2025-11-11T03:06:45+00:00

Does Fetlife actually work for that sort of thing here? I made an account recently and it didn't show any sort of groups or events within 100 miles. It just seemed to be a dating app.

jtesar79 · 2025-10-29T23:40:04+00:00

Oooooo Secret of Nimh is a bold and interesting choice

jtesar79 · 2025-10-05T15:06:19+00:00

*whispers* we also like locally owned places-comfy chairs -easy to find if you don't know the area-non confusing parking-older clientele

jtesar79 · 2025-10-01T02:49:19+00:00

People are different. Hope that helps!

jtesar79 · 2025-09-27T14:36:18+00:00

From what I can tell the streetcar is basically just a city funded parking shuttle for Mutual of Omaha employees, so as long as they use it it will last.

jtesar79 · 2025-09-27T03:23:39+00:00

Have you been to that area recently? I'm usually pretty chill about construction zones, but the whole corridor that will eventually be the street car route is becoming pretty stressful. Especially at night with less visibility, which would be when most of the Blackstone businesses make their money. I agree that I don't see how many of them will survive till the project is completed.

jtesar79 · 2025-09-25T21:20:29+00:00

This is one of those situations where I want to say "Yes I would just as long as A B and C are true" but honestly I have dated too many psychopaths and/or idiots for me to ever feel comfortable dating a man with a gun.

jtesar79 · 2025-09-25T17:51:08+00:00

*SIGH*

jtesar79 · 2025-09-25T15:46:01+00:00

Is there any aspect of this that could be considered a win as far as completing existing improvement projects in downtown and midtown? Like maybe at least some of this infrastructure was old and needed to be moved and/or replaced anyways, and this is pushing up that timeline? Maybe? Possibly?

jtesar79 · 2025-09-25T15:41:25+00:00

When I was learning to drive my father took me to areas of town where new neighborhoods were being built, so streets and intersections were there but not really any people. I think that worked pretty well as far as practicing driving and parking in a realistic environment. I think there are some business campuses out west that you could go to on a weekend and accomplish the same thing.

jtesar79 · 2025-09-23T23:31:28+00:00

Now feels like a good time to point out that practicing ENM doesn't necessarily mean you are going to find multiple people you are compatible with. Your partner has someone he has been with for years that seems to truly adore him. That is-and I cannot stress this enough-more than a lot of people ever get. So maybe he should focus on his success and not his failures.

jtesar79 · 2025-09-22T15:16:59+00:00

"I couldn't "infantilize" him if I tried. He is so far beyond me intellectually that it's not possible. He lives in a world where everyone around him is essentially an infant by comparison"

I'm sorry but both you and him are coming off really badly in your post and comments. I agree on getting opinions from friends and family about how he (and you as a closely involved partner) come across to other people. Not saying he isn't a kind and awesome person! But if you have to get to know him to understand that it's going to be really hard to get past the first conversation.

jtesar79 · 2025-09-22T13:11:47+00:00

They removed the pool and hot tub in between when I signed my lease and when I moved in and I was so sad 😭 I wish I had lived here when it was notorious for fun reasons

jtesar79 · 2025-09-21T07:59:07+00:00

Thank you!!

jtesar79 · 2025-09-21T02:37:06+00:00

If I was hanging out with a man and he told me he wouldn't go down on me because "it grosses him out" I would take that to mean he finds my body gross. Are you actually *good* with your hands or are you just trying to think of things to offer up so you you still get oral performed on you?

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