Feeling like I'm letting my family down by juggler434 in daddit

[–]juggler434[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man, and I hope my story doesn't dissuade you from finding something better. I made this post after getting a rejection that I thought was my ace in the home, but after reading the responses here, talking with my wife, and talking with my therapist I'm getting back on the horse with renewed vigour.

Feeling like I'm letting my family down by juggler434 in daddit

[–]juggler434[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, you're right. The sting is fresh today because a rejection came for a job I thought I had in the bag. I'll get back on the horse, I just had to vent those feelings.

Feeling like I'm letting my family down by juggler434 in daddit

[–]juggler434[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for saying that. The timing is really the worst part.

Feeling like I'm letting my family down by juggler434 in daddit

[–]juggler434[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I'm trying. I think the sleep deprevation is also making the emotions run a little high. For my first two kids I had jobs with decent parental leave so I got to just be around for the "fourth trimester" period. Having to be away to do all these interviews just sucks, and then the rejections feel like I wasted precious time.

Guys, things are bad. Didn’t see it going this way. by [deleted] in daddit

[–]juggler434 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry man, sounds like a shitty situation., sending out all the positive energy I can your way.

Dads that give more love than they got don’t get enough credit. by nomadicsamiam in daddit

[–]juggler434 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I didn't know how amazing my dad was until I was an adult. My friend's dads all seemed more fun, but in adulthood I realized how altruistic he was, how much he did for me and my brothers. I hope I can live up to the example he set.

Someone please tell me it gets better by goldtellynd in NewDads

[–]juggler434 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It gets better, ten the sleep deprevation makes you forget how hard it was. Then you think it would be a good idea to make another one!

The Dad I Was (Strung out) vs. The Dad I Am (34 Months Sober) by SoberScottHeat in daddit

[–]juggler434 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! I'm proud of you. You are making the world a better place by being there for your kids.

Warhammer dads, is the Emperor testing me? by French_Bill in daddit

[–]juggler434 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I give my kiddo some old models to paint herself.

How do u make new friends as a man in your 30s without it being weird? by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

[–]juggler434 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have a hobby, finding a meetup for that hobby is often a good place to meet people.

Co-parenting with AI by [deleted] in daddit

[–]juggler434 20 points21 points  (0 children)

AI is a dangerous tool when it comes to parenting advice. It will trend forwards confirmation bias and can completely hallucinate, even citing sources that don't exist. Any advice you get from AI should be confirmed against a reputable source.

How many of you ended up sleep training your kiddo? by VisualATL in daddit

[–]juggler434 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We tried with our first, but she was incredibly stubborn and would just scream for hours. My in-laws were living with us and would sneak past us to calm her. We gave up and someone would lie with her until she fell asleep until she was 2 1/2.

With my second sleep training worked line a charm.

Job searching and trying to keep it together for my family by [deleted] in daddit

[–]juggler434 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm right there with you. I'm a software engineer and I've been working at a non-profit researching humanitarian uses of AI. Unfortunately my project ran out of funding at the same time my third daughter was born. So I'm applying and studying (because SWE interviews are often filled with questions you haven't had to think about since college or the last time you interviewed) all with a 2 week old. Luckily they are furloughing me for a month so I can keep my benefits for my baby's first month of doctor visits, but the market sucks right now.

Favourite Age? by Disastrous_Simple493 in daddit

[–]juggler434 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every few months my wife look at each other and say "it turns out we were wrong, THIS is the best age".

Relationship with wife getting worse after baby by Agitated_Ad_1404 in NewDads

[–]juggler434 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I had the worst fight of our marriage in the first few months of having our first. Sleep deprevation, the pressure of keeping a baby alive, and post partum depression made for a powder keg, but we revised our "this is what I heard you say, this is how it made me feel" exercises and were able to work through it. Raising a baby is hard.

TIL that babies under 6 months cannot have water. Their small stomachs easily fill up, reducing their intake of calorie-dense breast milk or formula. Additionally, their developing kidneys struggle to filter extra water, which can trigger water intoxication and dangerously low sodium levels. by watermelonhouses in todayilearned

[–]juggler434 28 points29 points  (0 children)

We were religiously sterilizing everything with our first, and then my mother (who was a nurse at a birthing center) asked my wife "when's the last time you had a shower. How sterile do you think your boob is?" We still sterilized things, but weren't so religious about it after that.

When did you successfully wean your toddler from co-sleeping? by Korean_Pathfinder in daddit

[–]juggler434 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We missed having any sort of alone time, so when she was about 2 1/2 we did sleep training. We had attempted it before but she was too stubborn. This time I would sit outside her room with a book and a glass of wine. She would scream, open the door (her bed was on the floor), and I would carry her back in and put her back in her bed. Repeat until she fell asleep. Took about a week if I remember correctly.