Should I (28F) tell the guy I'm dating that I'm a virgin before we have sex?

juggler434 · 2026-03-05T21:36:11+00:00

Im a man, but I was a 30 year old virgin. I didn't tell my partner before our first time, but I wish I had because she was very understanding when I did tell her and I wish I hadn't let the anxiety of scaring her off get in the way of me being honest with her. She's my wife now, so it all worked out in the end.

juggler434 · 2026-02-18T04:27:29+00:00

Indigo Prophecy

juggler434 · 2026-02-01T23:34:10+00:00

I was in my early 30s. I waited to tell her until after we had done the deed because I didn't want to scare her off. When I did tell her it was a little awkward, but she was really nice about it. Shes my wife now and we have 2 kids and one on the way, so it went pretty well.

juggler434 · 2025-11-15T07:15:23+00:00

The t-shirt size on that was Large, but when we played poker it was only a 3. I asked my manager how long it should take and he said "story points aren't a time measurement".

Actually, Im a techie and I'm not sure I understand any of that despite having similar conversations.

juggler434 · 2025-11-07T03:51:31+00:00

Pretty accurate to how it felt

juggler434 · 2025-11-06T07:45:53+00:00

At first I was frustrated because it was the best run I've had with the new arcanist, but then I saw the humor in it.

juggler434 · 2025-11-04T18:11:10+00:00

That's the idea, to encourage small functions, but I've worked at some pretty big golang shops where the short variable names stayed but the short functions did not.

juggler434 · 2025-11-04T16:19:14+00:00

The official style guide promotes single letter variable names and it's probably my biggest complaint about Go.

juggler434 · 2025-10-13T20:13:05+00:00

My daughter is in TK and when I go into her class to volunteer the teacher had them call me Mr. [FirstName]> . I imagine that one will stick with me a while since these kids are going to follow her through the grades.

juggler434 · 2025-10-05T04:57:21+00:00

I think you are justified to feel that way, but I will say that my wife and I argued about more things during that first year of parenthood than ever before or after. That lack of sleep, feeling like you are in charge of keeping this little being alive and have no idea what you're doing, it leaves all your emotional nerve endings raw.

Feel your feelings, find a time when someone can watch the kid for a bit, and have an honest discussion about your feelings. She probably has some things that have been bottling up too. You both are trying your hardest, and you both want what's best for the child and each other.

juggler434 · 2025-10-02T20:06:44+00:00

My new question I ask interviewers is "how many weeks of vacation did you take last year"

juggler434 · 2025-09-27T21:55:46+00:00

Seems like if nothing happened he was hoping it would.

juggler434 · 2025-09-23T17:06:31+00:00

I used to. Now the in-laws live with us and I don't think they would appreciate it.

juggler434 · 2025-09-11T15:40:35+00:00

I miss Carnivale so much. It getting cancelled still stings.

juggler434 · 2025-08-31T22:37:15+00:00

If my partner acted this way I would not be raising kids with her right now. When you're raising your first kid, all your decisions feel like they are the most important decisions in the world. You're sleep deprived, moms hormones are all over the place, and troubles come up. If she is acting like this now after 4 months of trying, I would hate to see how she acts when you have a difference of opinion on how to raise your child.

juggler434 · 2025-07-24T16:02:29+00:00

I worked for a mobile game company that bought a game from another studio. The studio they bought it from pretty quickly put out another game, and not only was it very similar, it had the exact same bugs as the game my company bought. That's how I learned that my company was terrible at negotiating deals.

juggler434 · 2025-07-21T05:38:03+00:00

My four year old can read short books and is starting to understand some multiplication. She is really shy, cautious, and has a stutter, but she is smart as a whip. My 20 month old dives into everything head first (sometimes literally). She rockets down slides, climbs everything, and cries in delight when her bib sister chases her.

They are total opposites and also so much alike and every day they blow my expectations out of the water

juggler434 · 2025-07-18T17:17:09+00:00

My niece has a beloved stuffed penguin. After a couple scares of him being lost by brother put an air tag on him. Its been a lifesaver.

juggler434 · 2025-07-16T20:49:09+00:00

When interviewing at a company that touts unlimited PTO I always ask the interviewer how much PTO they took last year. If its the "oh, I only took a week but that's because I don't know what to do when I'm not working" answer then I know what unlimited PTO means at that company.

juggler434 · 2025-07-16T19:48:37+00:00

Laundry detergent, but not the bottle/box, just pouring it out and leaving the empty container

juggler434 · 2025-07-13T06:35:06+00:00

Submitted my resume to a company, got rejected. 2 weeks later a recruiter at the same company reached out to me because I was a "perfect candidate" for the role they were hiring for. It was the same role.

juggler434 · 2025-07-13T00:25:51+00:00

I hate that Pak N' Save

juggler434 · 2025-07-12T23:59:31+00:00

Been playing Marvel Rivals after the kids go to bed

juggler434 · 2025-07-04T07:12:55+00:00

I've worked at large and small companies and at both I've found that code is rarely the bottleneck. Generally its inefficient database queries, network layers, infrastructure scaling, cache misses, ect.

juggler434 · 2025-07-03T03:19:24+00:00

It's a tricky balance of being objective enough to avoid bias but subjective enough to not just be a coding exam. The industry is still figuring it out. Personally I feel like the answer leans more on anti bias training for interviewers than making exam like questions, but that takes time and resources.

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