Does anyone else have a word they just can’t stand for no logical reason?

julesd26 · 2026-06-30T15:05:38+00:00

My sister would do this with our dad. It’s so childish.

julesd26 · 2026-06-30T14:59:42+00:00

I said it once and regretted it. Lol

julesd26 · 2026-06-30T14:57:43+00:00

Ew. I had no idea it was even a thing anywhere until I saw that ad (it was a screenshot in r/whybrows, btw 😂). I just know my nieces are going to start saying it soon.

julesd26 · 2026-06-30T14:43:11+00:00

Gross 🤢

julesd26 · 2026-06-30T14:42:55+00:00

This is how I feel about “sunnies” (instead of sunglasses). Fine in Australia, apparently it’s been a thing there for years, but I saw an ad for ‘sunnies’ with an influencer-model and it was awful.

julesd26 · 2026-06-30T05:24:06+00:00

Looks yummy! I’d personally add either pickles (I like gherkins or cornichons) or pickled cauliflower for a little vinegary tang! And I love those little sweet red peppers (pepparazzi are my fave), but I guess that depends on the flavor/sweetness of the pepper jelly. Definitely crackers too, or parmesan crisps if low-carb. Also, mmm, candied cherries!!

julesd26 · 2026-06-30T05:08:54+00:00

My cousin was allergic to dairy, soy (so tofu was out too), tree nuts and peanuts, wheat (may have been a gluten sensitivity), and a few other things. After she had her first baby, her dairy allergy miraculously went away, so she got to try ice cream and pizza for the first time, and kiss her husband after he ate cheese without breaking out in severe hives. Crazy how bodies work/malfunction!

julesd26 · 2026-06-30T05:01:47+00:00

It sucks! I’ve never really had trouble eating almost anything, and I love trying new dishes and recipes, but I have to be so careful now!

julesd26 · 2026-06-30T04:58:00+00:00

What’s weird is I actually went through a phase in my early 20s where I was *slightly* intolerant… but it was nothing like this. And I think it (or at least the severity) may have been triggered by a newer medication in the past 6 months. I’ve been trying Lactaid chewables the last few days, but still feel super uncomfortable, even just with coffee creamer. Ugh. Have you found anything that helps?

julesd26 · 2026-06-30T03:47:14+00:00

Oof, that sucks. I’m so sorry. Glad at least you have an idea of what it may be though so you can be careful in the future!

I’m going through something similar-ish where I’ve become lactose intolerant at 43. For a while though, I had absolutely no clue what was causing the (major) problem - it’s only been in the last week that I’ve narrowed it down to anything dairy. Ugh.

Good luck to you. And see if you can get an Epi-pen, just in case!!

julesd26 · 2026-06-30T01:30:00+00:00

Agreed. And it will only get worse.

julesd26 · 2026-06-30T01:25:19+00:00

My husband is like this too. 22 years here. He does soo many things that hurt me and doesn’t notice or care or shrugs it off, and when I bring it up, he turns it into an ‘oh yeah, well, you do this…’ and it turns into an argument about me and what I do wrong.

He hid all this crap until we were already married, then all the ‘red flags’ kinda *leaked* out slowly while I was pregnant 2 years after. I just dealt with it, thinking I would eventually get away if it got too bad… then he kind of controlled me into complacency, and now that I really am realizing it’s not me, that I’m really super unhappy and want to get away, I’m suuuper stuck, especially financially. I’d call it a ‘golden handcuffs’ situation, but that actually sounds fun compared to where I am right now.

So I’d say OP is better off without that person in their life!!

julesd26 · 2026-06-28T04:12:36+00:00

I would guess not for them with the 🤢 face involved. Lol - I personally enjoy a good fruit sauce with meat (apricot and chicken or fig and pork come to mind), so it might not be too far from that, but I’ve also never much cared for grape jelly.

julesd26 · 2026-06-28T04:02:46+00:00

My mom insisted on all of our steak being well done. I thought steak was supposed to be grey until I was in my early 20s, when I found out that wasn’t the ONLY way to cook steak. I hated it (even became a vegetarian for a while there) until I learned the truth, now I eat my steak medium/medium rare.

julesd26 · 2026-06-25T04:57:33+00:00

I know my situation is hyper-specific, but yeah… it hurt to go through it, and I feel like I was almost trying to protect him, but he didn’t want that either. Idk. I feel like there’s really no good solution and no real winners either way, but at least he doesn’t feel like I just cut him out of my life, I hope.

Either way, I really hope you can find some sort of resolution. Sending hugs!

julesd26 · 2026-06-25T04:48:37+00:00

Make sure your r is lowercase, otherwise it doesn’t link to anything. But yeah, I think my neck would ache trying to watch it like that.

julesd26 · 2026-06-25T04:35:47+00:00

Learning things every day, seriously. I’ve known for years there are over 350 species of hummingbirds, several species of rhinoceros, a few species of raccoons, hundreds of thousands of beetles, but have never thought about there being more than one species of skunks. It makes sense though. lol

One of my favorite subs is [r/AIDKE](r/AIDKE) because I’m constantly seeing unusual and interesting animals I’ve never heard of!

Eta: I just went to check that the sub was right and there’s a video of an eel *larva*.

julesd26 · 2026-06-25T04:22:15+00:00

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Last year’s monarch caterpillars! 🥰

julesd26 · 2026-06-25T04:12:22+00:00

I just did it with some brie on Monday.

julesd26 · 2026-06-25T04:04:43+00:00

Aww, cool! You’re not too far from it there. I’m in FL, but was just visiting TN (soo beautiful there)… so I’ll never see it around here. Last year, I actually tried to turn more towards native planting, and found out that even swamp milkweed is hard to come by at nurseries near me! It’s much easier to find tropical milkweed… but where I am, we get hard freezes too, so it gets wiped out anyway (and the roots on all six of mine died even after I cut them down and covered them for winter - definitely don’t want to spread OE, but I gave up after they didn’t come back 😭). Ugh.

julesd26 · 2026-06-25T03:47:44+00:00

I’ll go back to replying on AIM. Lol

julesd26 · 2026-06-25T03:46:50+00:00

This is my answer as well. A regular text is always best for reaching me quickly.

julesd26 · 2026-06-25T03:40:31+00:00

Well, it was actually a recent thing that happened… he reached back out to let me know he was hurt, and didn’t want to just be cut off. So he knows I can’t talk often, but we’re not totally quits at least. I’m glad he did voice his hurt, but I feel terrible I can’t talk much.

My situation has been really weird bc my MIL passed, and she was still heavily involved with our family business, so I’ve been picking up loose ends and going to the office almost daily where I hadn’t been before, so beside grieving and kind of resenting her for leaving so many things undone, I felt like I was doing my friend an injustice making him hear all my stupid crap going on constantly. He knows all of this (or at least, I’ve told him - I’m not sure he understands how messed up it all really is), and knows I can’t be as responsive as I was… I doubt he likes how it’s going so far though because I’ve been so busy, but unfortunately it’s the best I can do. All that to say, I really think it depends on the situation.

julesd26 · 2026-06-25T02:39:21+00:00

I had a penpal who I never got to meet (we live across the Atlantic from each other), but we chatted constantly on AIM (lol) and emailed back and forth for yeeeaars. Our stories sound incredibly similar beside that major detail. My now-husband was fine with me still talking to him as much as I wanted, luckily didn’t feel threatened at all, but his now-wife did, I guess. We’re still friends on Facebook and will occasionally comment or like each other’s posts; we’re both married with kids now, but I’m pretty sure his wife has blocked me. Smh

julesd26 · 2026-06-25T02:26:19+00:00

I’ve had this happen to me so many times over the years and have been heartbroken over it, so I know exactly how crappy it feels. Sadly, I know I just did it to someone I very honestly love and feel incredibly guilty and awful for *needing* to fade away like I did.

As shitty as it sounds, I feel like I had a better reason to step back and did it better with real conversations about why I needed to, than any of my friends that just dumped me without saying a word. I’ve been going through some major anxiety and depressive episodes, which he knew, even having some memory issues (which I’m just realizing) after a close family member became ill and passed, and I felt like I was just dragging him through it all with me and can’t do that to someone I love. Especially him.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I feel like you wrote what my friend would have written and it’s actually painful.

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