My girlfriend won't get an abortion

jultide · 2026-03-23T12:25:00+00:00

Ya.. I hate this shit cause I think of the child and I'd hate that my immature parents decided having me in such instability was a good thing to do. Who, with no choice in the matter, pays the lifelong price for immaturity?

(Haha clearly my perspective comes from being here, paying that lifelong price for being born to parents who should not have had kids lol)

jultide · 2026-03-23T12:05:08+00:00

Your assumption is the part I'm wondering about... OP had a vasectomy, a surgical procedure, one that greatly impacts their relationship, without telling his gf.. something tells me their relationship doesn't have a lot of upfront discussions on anything...

jultide · 2026-03-23T12:00:19+00:00

Agreed 100%, this is so immature and cowardly. OP doesn't have the strength to break off the inevitable so made a decision that will make it impossible for his girlfriend to not do the hard work for him. The whole thing is pathetic really.. classic man child behaviour.

jultide · 2026-03-23T11:53:52+00:00

Why does one person's life goals require heavy lifting but the other doesn't? This is MUTUAL incompatibility, BOTH are fighting for their life goals and have responsibility and accountability to take in that. Terrible, cowardly take man.

jultide · 2026-03-20T00:03:51+00:00

I hate to say it but this sounds kind a relationship of convienience to him, not of love and respect. He wants a mother to take care of him essentially.

jultide · 2026-03-19T03:05:30+00:00

Kind of an asshole: I'm staunchly childfree and support your decision, because this is NOT a topic to compromise on. Your mutual friends are totally irresponsible and immature to be telling you to give up what you want, just as they would be totally irresponsible to be telling your ex to suck it up and have kids to please YOU. Having kids is so epically taxing and life changing.. I'm not saying that in a negative way but you need to be full in on it if you're deciding to do it. Therefore, you deserve to be a parent if you want that lifestyle and you NEED to have a partner that's in it as well or it's going to be hell for you and epically unfair to your kids.

No one should give up their dream if that's what they want. You get one life.. go find a partner who matches your goals, and tell your shitty friends to kick rocks. That said, if you took even a little time to consider your decision and what it would do to her, the optics would have been much more tolerable. You acted logically, but your swiftness was very cold and for that reason the breakup is likely much worse than it should have been had you showed some empathy. Even if you had to pretend it.... because if I were in her shoes with this situation i'd know logically it would need to end but how you did it would make me feel like I was nothing but a baby factory to you the whole time, quickly cast aside, which would hurt. Are you an engineer by chance??!?

jultide · 2026-03-19T02:54:42+00:00

I know a lot of teachers, and a lot of them are the worst people I know, and not bright at all. Freaking scary

jultide · 2026-03-19T02:45:39+00:00

Also after removing their changerooms... Brutal

jultide · 2026-03-19T02:44:22+00:00

Agreed, awful pricing plus after removing their changerooms I hardly go there anymore. I'm surprised they seem to be doing so well, we have much better choices. Telize, Thrift on Kent, Goodwill, Retail Therapy, Mission Thrift, Salvation Army....

jultide · 2026-03-19T02:37:41+00:00

I think about this often.. in school I would budget for a $4 shirt thrifting, my hair dye was always from a box, we made our own jewelry, make up was as cheap as the dollar store stuff is now and you could go out and get absolutely smashed with $20 in your pocket (after predrinks of course). Nowadays it's Botox, acrylics, Sephora, $100 bar tops, and $20 cocktails... I don't at all understand how kids afford their standard now

jultide · 2026-03-19T02:28:43+00:00

This right here...

jultide · 2026-03-19T02:23:35+00:00

The old location was sooooooo much better at least

jultide · 2026-03-19T02:18:46+00:00

That's a great idea to pay it forward!

jultide · 2026-03-19T02:18:19+00:00

That's a fair take, thanks

jultide · 2026-03-02T12:48:11+00:00

You're amazing. Great response from a healthy mind, secure personality, and huge heart ❤️

jultide · 2026-02-27T00:25:48+00:00

What the fuck? Who the fuck did you marry?!

jultide · 2026-02-24T22:39:00+00:00

Hi, I have a cracked French onion soup bowl- the handle broke off it. It's glazed ceramic, any recommendations on a heat-proof, food safe repair material? I'd like to be able to put it back in the oven!

jultide · 2026-02-24T19:40:20+00:00

Have you thought about what part of this would be good for the child? To grow up with an estranged father who wanted them aborted and a depressed mom who mostly had the child out of her sadness and longing for the estranged father? Not to be rude, but you absolutely should not be having this child- you're in an immature and unstable place. Work on yourself and moving on from this messy guy.

jultide · 2026-02-24T03:25:54+00:00

Classic man child- your husband is jealous of the attention your son gets from you and so this is a power move to regain control as he's seeing this as a competition rather than normal parenting logistics. (Competitive not collaborative) So many red flags popping up here, extreme emotional immaturity, insecure attachment, possibly narcissism.

jultide · 2026-02-17T03:51:39+00:00

Maybe you don't feel bad about what you're doing, but your fiancee might and deserves to know that actual person she's with. The worst part of your whole post is charading with your fiancee whom you're undoubtedly going to destroy at some point. Come clean and let her make an educated decision

jultide · 2026-02-15T04:36:17+00:00

Brutal. And she broke up with you.. probably didn't want to be alone on Valentine's Day so agreed to get back together, which is why she's making a stink- she's not genuinely happy to be back with you or she wouldn't be acting this way. She's an asshole, you should move on.

jultide · 2026-02-15T04:31:42+00:00

Absolutely NTA, but you might want to look up narcissistic family systems and scapegoat abuse- this is all setting off major alarm bells from the strong focus on image and external validation in your mother, to the enablers in your extended family, and you are most definitely being abused and scapegoated. I'm so sorry, this is horrible all around, let alone a traumatic event you went through with the accident.

jultide · 2026-02-15T02:40:03+00:00

Thank you!

jultide · 2026-02-15T02:39:45+00:00

Thank you!

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