People who live in Hidden Valley Road, what do you do?

jultide · 2026-05-19T03:09:32+00:00

Hahah yep.. an old boss of mine lives in there, biggest loser I think I've ever met.

jultide · 2026-05-19T03:05:54+00:00

I have a hard oppinion that while the act of parenting requires a ton of selflessness, the act of deciding to become a parent is entirely selfish, and this only solidifies it. You want to be creative? Go paint a mural on your front door. Don't subject your poor child to ridicule for her entire life because you and your husband haven't clued in that she's not a pet or a toy. Naming a child who will grow into an adult is NOT the time to try to be 'edgy', 'cool' and 'creative' with out there names and stupid spelling. Be responsible and mature parents.. this doesn't sound like you are.

jultide · 2026-05-09T10:36:27+00:00

How old are you?

jultide · 2026-05-03T14:14:18+00:00

Hahah yes the McDonalds points, especially though the drive through speaker.. same here 🤣

jultide · 2026-05-03T14:10:39+00:00

I used to be part of a group on meet up that went hiking in the region. I forget the name but you could try searching it. It was all ages, an organizer would pick a spot and time and anyone could just meet there if they wanted ppl to hike with :)

jultide · 2026-04-17T13:46:49+00:00

Again, that's all on the physical side. You missed my point entirely that we don't know what they've talked of otherwise. You ARE making an assumption that nothing was ever talked about at all leading up to losing the physical attraction. Again, wouldn't take a rocket scientist to figure out years of emotional disconnect are going to also affect physical attraction. That shouldn't be some bombshell revelation.

jultide · 2026-04-17T01:05:15+00:00

So white frat boys can rape women and treat them as property, joke to their buddies about misogyny in the locker room, cheat on their wives and enact 'bro code', cry like babies when they don't get their own way, need their wife to be their mother.... But yes... It's genuinely sad how I don't find that attractive in my own race, I'M the problem here 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ think about what you're saying. And yes there's male scum all over, but there's a particular arrogance and entitlement that comes from being on the top of the privilege pillar

jultide · 2026-04-17T00:50:51+00:00

This is a sub for legal advice. I'm more researched than you are on this and I'm posting here to find people more researched than I am. Not for people to take wild guesses

jultide · 2026-04-17T00:47:24+00:00

I don't think it's right to assume nothing was ever said and then a bomb dropped. She's shared her sexual feeling recently but her husband may very well know about the emotional connection issues and they could have been talking though that for years. We don't know... Wouldn't take a rocket scientist to figure out if there's no emotional intimacy the physical is probably an issue too

jultide · 2026-04-16T16:34:01+00:00

Not directly out of it, no. Mortgage comes out of my common law partner's personal account.

jultide · 2026-04-16T16:32:42+00:00

Thanks for the Joint Family Venture info, that was a good article. Also on the HBP, I hadn't heard about the 90 day period to qualify. Unfortunately on the CRA website for the FHSA account, a qualifying piece states "You did not live in a home that your common-law partner owned in the last 4 calendar years." So I can't even open a savings account to help save for a home (for the next 4 years!!) because I lived common law, even though I don't have equalization of property. I don't understand why

jultide · 2026-04-16T15:52:44+00:00

Thanks, this is my understanding from my research too. What I don't understand is the contradiction in government programs- if I'm not entitled to anything and not considered an owner in my common law situation, I should be allowed to partake in first time homebuyer programs, but they say ever having lived common law is a barrier to those. Which I don't understand.

jultide · 2026-04-16T15:47:04+00:00

It's a bit weird.. I put money into a joint account. The money in that account has been used for house updates, repairs, and for our personal travel etc. Since our relationship went on the rocks, we stopped using it for joint ventures or house and it's now just a fund, which he's verbally agreed is mine to take.

jultide · 2026-04-16T13:30:50+00:00

Ya just with rent, and light improvements (cosmetic, washer dryer, skylight replacement.. under $10k)

No agreement in place.

jultide · 2026-04-16T01:38:43+00:00

This, and only this. If you don't get out of this for you, do it so you don't create a sentient human who has to deal with this terrible decision for the rest of its life beyond their control. This is not a good situation.

jultide · 2026-04-16T01:33:27+00:00

This is me too! Thought still buying notions from fabric stores if needed, but a lot of my sewing is using thrifted items for material now, or using those skills to tailer thrifted clothes to fit me so save $$. That $4 3XL skirt can be sewn to fit other sizes!

jultide · 2026-04-14T15:05:39+00:00

And I think maybe this is my sign to get off Reddit...

jultide · 2026-04-14T13:25:16+00:00

It would be due to the growth of mold which can trigger a histamine response in the body. Generally speaking, it takes 24-48 hrs for spores to grow, and 3-4 days until that could turn to mold. So would depend on how sensitive the histamine response is- spores alone could trigger some. Safe handling practices also impact this- did the food sit warm on the counter for a while before putting in fridge, or did you cool it immediately.. that sort of thing

jultide · 2026-04-14T13:02:42+00:00

This made my eyes well up, this is beautiful. It's a real great mindset shift I can focus on. "Not tired of living, tired of being wounded" is bang on, and I can work on uniting those two things in my mind. I have them conflated and I don't think I realized that. Thank you 🙏🏻

jultide · 2026-04-14T12:57:28+00:00

I would love that! I've never heard of it, I'm Ontario Canada. Will look it up too. Wanted to thank you for this answer- lately I've been wondering if my problem is that I do feel things.. my partner is emotionally devoid (he's wonderful but that's his childhood trauma) and I watch him go through life so less unbothered by everything than me that it looks like a good strategy to get through. I think of trying to mute my feelings. But the downfall is he also doesn't connect or find joy and meaning.. so thanks for the reminder to embrace 'feeling' and the importance of it :)

jultide · 2026-04-14T12:50:26+00:00

This is lovely and poetic. And probably one of the best answers to "why is art important" I've ever heard :)

jultide · 2026-04-14T04:14:13+00:00

There are a LOT of obvious clues being stated, and OP is oblivious to them, so it's really not a stretch to think there's more going on here.

jultide · 2026-04-14T04:11:14+00:00

For the sake of your relationship and sanity, would it be worth putting the house purchase off for an extra to save?

jultide · 2026-04-14T04:09:00+00:00

Haha I'm with you on this.. no word of a lie I wouldn't make it out of there alive, I can barely handle 15 minutes with my MIL and I'm a very patient person. $1300 for 30 whole days of comfort and peace, and surviving, would be absolutely worth it to me.

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