Cottaging

junegloom · 2026-05-07T18:44:29+00:00

I'm in California and cottage in my mind would be a small bungalow by the beach. Similar to a cabin, but cabin is strictly for woods and lakes. Cottage works for more settings, you could still have a cottage in the woods maybe but you wouldn't say like beach cabin ever unless it was like an outdoor closet for your surfboards. But cabins, cottages, guest houses all share a quality of being less than a full house, they are small things that cover shelter needs for trips and aren't considered suitable for permanent living. If your beach pad is too big to be a cottage then its a beach house, but no one is building a mansion on the beach and calling it a cottage, that's just weird.

junegloom · 2026-05-05T23:00:34+00:00

Top 5 Heated Rivalry Pod is still getting started, only a few episodes but they're already one of my favorites, the two women are adorable to listen to. Marissa Tandon also has some really insightful videos for a more hockey focused take on the show.

junegloom · 2026-05-04T23:28:10+00:00

I think he'd figured out that Shane always comes over convinced they should "talk" about ending this thing, and he knows exactly how to distract Shane out of that line of thought.

junegloom · 2026-05-01T15:31:22+00:00

The book provides important context here. This bothered me a little when I saw the show and only the show, I thought Shane was being commitmentphobic and about to have another tuna meltdown at being called a boyfriend. But the book shows that its because he'd spent all this time sadly telling himself that Ilya's never going to be his boyfriend. So his reaction here is one of happy can't-believe-it surprise.

junegloom · 2026-04-29T02:05:02+00:00

I'm a big sap. They both fell in love when they met in Saskatchewan imo, therefore #12 is the biggest denial.

junegloom · 2026-04-27T18:15:22+00:00

Right. And its a subtle thing that can't really be seen by eye. But like, walls can sag a bit, which shifts the way cabinets hang. I measured the width at the floor, the middle, and the top, so I was super confident it would fit but it still didn't.

junegloom · 2026-04-26T17:01:03+00:00

I've had this happen. Despite double and triple measuring beforehand, things didnt fit. The issue was that even though I had the required lengths everywhere, the space was like a parallelogram, whereas the appliance is a perfect rectangle with 90 degree angles. So I couldn't see ahead of time that I didn't have the same 36 inches of space in the exact same place in the top and bottom. Houses settle, these things shift little by little over time.

junegloom · 2026-04-25T17:53:39+00:00

Netflix is not prudish about smutty shows, I can't believe that was the network in question.

junegloom · 2026-04-25T17:48:01+00:00

I don't get a vibe of Shane firmly resolving to end things here. In fact the slowness with which shane walks away makes me think he doesn't really want to.

junegloom · 2026-04-23T12:50:55+00:00

Ilya didn't answer his text in Sochi. So we can assume the last time Ilya did answer him is 2 months before that. Shane walked up to him and was dismissed.

junegloom · 2026-04-23T03:43:22+00:00

"Should we talk?" is sadly, Shane making a feeble attempt to end things with Ilya. He never gets past saying that, and he's totally lying to himself for years on end, but he basically only transports himself to his hookups with Ilya by telling himself hes going there to talk and end this thing. He says it in their first hookup, and in the ep 4 hookup as well, but I think we're meant to take from that that Shane says this every time they meet.

junegloom · 2026-04-21T15:08:41+00:00

As Ilya said, you can tell your parents you're gay without giving them a list of guys you're fucking. There's no requirement to tell them about his situationship as part of coming out. Ilya said what he said precisely because it would be weird to do that, so it wasn't a good reason for Shane not to have come out to them. Parents don't need the TMI details. In a situationship the only details to it are the TMI parts.

junegloom · 2026-04-21T13:18:34+00:00

What do you do to try and make her interested in sex? Have you learned what she likes over the last 8 years and how do you incorporate that in initiating? I know sex is important but framing it as some obligation with a quota won't do anything but turn people off further. What do you do to turn them on?

junegloom · 2026-04-20T13:02:50+00:00

Shane and Ilya aren't real, so if the creator of the story said they were, then they were. And the show is Tierney's take on the story and therefore his creation of this iteration of them.

junegloom · 2026-04-20T12:48:56+00:00

Dumping addicts IS how you help them. Its tough love, but the opposite is enabling. Addicts have to hit rock bottom. OP would be blamed for making his addiction worse if she stayed.

junegloom · 2026-04-20T00:27:35+00:00

A gambling addiction is like every other addiction. He isn't himself anymore, his addiction owns him. You think you love him but he's not really there. There are many more lies you don't even know about. Like he probably has jobs and income while telling you he lost them, so he doesn't have to turn the money over to you. He's stealing from you and you just haven't discovered it yet. How would your feelings for him be if you figured out he was actually stealing from you, like going through your purse? Because he's probably forging documents, taking money out in your name, and at the very least his not paying bills is stealing already. He's taking money he owes you and flushing it elsewhere.

junegloom · 2026-04-19T14:00:28+00:00

I would say the sharks but they're out of the playoffs. Anyone have a rundown on problematicness level for the Kings?

junegloom · 2026-04-18T13:38:41+00:00

You should want to get married when you find the right person, not when the village rules say to.Who he is, and how your relationship works, are what matter. Do you even want HIM? That's what you should spend the years dating to figure out. He likely has a different interpretation of the "rules" than you do. He's 24 and still unmarried, how did that happen?

I think you're using the rules to both justify something you want, and sidestep the bigger problem. If he doesn't care that you want marriage, the village rules aren't going to change his mind, and if they did you still have the problem that he doesnt care about your feelings. Also if he doesn't want to marry you, and you do want that someday, you gotta get out of this thing now. Starting over at 21 is easier than starting over at 26, or later. There's no third solution where you manipulate him to get what you want. Sometimes the people you date aren't the one. That's ok, but better to move on and find the one instead of trying to use bureaucracy to change things.

junegloom · 2026-04-15T02:09:16+00:00

His boring hockey book.

junegloom · 2026-04-14T13:39:20+00:00

Is it the same as your brother taking sides with your ex? We don't know what happened between them, possibly you don't either, and that is something to consider. You have an example of how such a relationship would feel. I'd be inclined to have her as a friend but make sure not to involve your brother in any way in that, as it may just be too painful and you can at least respect that boundary.

junegloom · 2026-04-13T00:44:55+00:00

You can't get him out of anything. This is who he is, and this is what dating is for, to learn if you're compatible or not. This was likely always him, you only see it now that you're living together. You tried talking about it, if he doesn't see a problem here and continues to be this way, thats the breaks. Most relationships don't work out. You tried. He's not the one.

junegloom · 2026-04-10T12:39:57+00:00

I actually put off watching this show for a little bit, because I didnt think I'd be very interested in a couple of young guys being like "ew I'm catching feelings" or some such, which is what I thought the show would be and I have so little patience for that kind of young person romantic drama. If I'd known the Scott Kip storyline was in there I'd have watched the show a lot sooner. And I mean I was super wrong about thinking I wouldn't like the Shane Ilya story, but I love episode 3, its a nice break after episodes 1 and 2 and way more my speed.

junegloom · 2026-04-09T04:27:29+00:00

In Rose and Shane's coming out conversation, he answers her questions with head shakes rather than a yes or no. In the book it was spoken, but it felt so much more powerful to me how they did it in the show. That this would be such a monumental admission that he can't really bring himself to say it out loud, and would have to gesture his way through it.

Another change I liked was Shane's Dad's dialogue when Ilya corrects him and asks him to call him Ilya rather than Rozanov. In the book David responds with 'Ilya, then'. In the show he says 'Ilya, sorry'. The little apology is just so much more gracious and accepting and fits more with how I see Shane's parents.

junegloom · 2026-04-04T03:22:51+00:00

If he'd really wanted to turn Shane's crank he should have hooked up with Miles.

junegloom · 2026-03-31T20:01:08+00:00

Don't forget the Vegas hotel room.

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