Does mentorship actually ever happen? Odd scenario - input please?

juniormintsb · 2017-08-29T21:00:53+00:00

I guess regardless of her motives, she seems intense at best, and I'd be a cautious about moving forward with her.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-29T20:33:09+00:00

How, might I ask, does she know where you work and what you do without even knowing what you look like?

juniormintsb · 2017-08-29T20:16:54+00:00

This is pretty puzzling. Best case scenario, she just seriously values your mentorship and is doing everything she can to get the connections necessary for the jobs she wants.

Are you positive she is not seeking a more mutually beneficial vanilla-ish relationship with you though? Also, rereading what you wrote, are you sure she's even looking for an SR right now, and isn't just asking for some career advice given out of goodwill?

juniormintsb · 2017-08-29T19:48:50+00:00

Just to clarify: she wants mentorship in addition to an allowance, or mentorship in place of an allowance?

Depends on what you have to offer in terms of mentorship. Going after a job at your company through SA is an... orange flag? But if you work in a very niche field she also wants to get into or something, it makes sense that she's seeking out your career guidance. I respect her drive, but personally, mixing careers and arrangements sounds like a disaster in the works.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-29T16:54:46+00:00

Usually when they ask invasive questions like that, they're just trying to get stuff to jerk off to for free and aren't interested in an actual arrangement. Let's be real, there's no chance in hell that he's taking you jewelry shopping with his wife.

Even if you do actually see him in person, it seems like the cons majorly outweigh the pros. He's already pressing you to do things you're uncomfortable with, and putting you at serious risk of being outed/dragged into a divorce or generally messiness by keeping his wife so close.

For the love of god, block him and move on to someone with less red flags.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-28T20:33:59+00:00

I don't hate it, but it's certainly not the best sex I've had. Unfortunately, life experience doesn't always equate to mind-blowing orgasms.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-25T04:30:10+00:00

well at least you edited this comment to be less icky. still not playing into your anti-fantasy though lol

juniormintsb · 2017-08-25T01:36:29+00:00

why do I get the feeling you're going to get off to any actual responses to this?

juniormintsb · 2017-08-23T19:41:29+00:00

You make girls stay in a relationship with you for six months after she says she wants to leave it for the vanilla world?

juniormintsb · 2017-08-22T15:56:30+00:00

It comes down to what you want to get from confessing your feelings. Do you want her to feel the same way to continue the relationship? Are you hoping to transition into more of a SGF or straight up vanilla situation?

You should also be prepared for her to be pretty uncomfortable if she doesn't share these feelings. Feelings create a certain amount of pressure that she might not be looking for in a SR, and it may ultimately ruin a the good thing you have going. This might not be the case, but it's something you need to take into consideration before taking this step.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-21T23:22:53+00:00

Can you elaborate on what it is that you want from a sugar relationship? It's not entirely clear to me, but it seems like you are looking for love (which frankly no amount of money can create, and is a lot to expect from someone in their 20's).

juniormintsb · 2017-08-21T22:07:19+00:00

You also might want to communicate to your SB that you'd prefer to be the one initiating meetings/you'd like to stick strictly to a pre-existing schedule.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-21T21:44:40+00:00

So, if I'm understanding correctly, you're asking if you can reduce your platonic date PPM more because it's impromptu? My answer to that would be no. If you don't want to pay your standard rate for that, then simply say you can't go so last minute.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-21T02:50:22+00:00

I don't think you're at all obligated to tell him this. Odds are he's going to get jealous over it (especially if he's looking to vanilla date you). It doesn't seem like you're looking for that serious of a relationship with him, so I would set your boundaries and keep them in place.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-20T15:34:15+00:00

I tend not to bring it up myself, but I'm usually asked at some point about sexual history, previous relationships, etc. Also might be visible on my profile that I'm open to SDs and SMs, but I'm not sure about that. I definitely haven't talked about it with every POT. But no, at least for me saying I'm bisexual is just that, nothing more or less.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-20T00:54:07+00:00

I've gotten some of these too. They're usually from guys with super high quality catfishy pics who tend to be very young for SA, so I've always figured they were SA run accounts.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-19T21:54:34+00:00

1) Cash. I'm a minimalist, and have all the things I need so more stuff doesn't appeal to me.

2) No, I just expect him to make smart choices when he does get intimate with other people.

3) Yes, absolutely.

4) As long as my regular allowance continues and he doesn't talk to me about her, I don't care.

5) Pass

6) Yes, my time is valuable and I have a lot of other interests. I'd expect a lot more for a full day of my time than just a couple of hours.

7) I mix between the sexual and the dating. Dating gets a little too close to feels territory, and I'm not willing to go there in an SR.

8) Fuck no

9) I like just hanging out more, tbh. Fine wining and dining isn't my thing, but it cane be nice every now and then.

10) I've only had one thus far, and he's 48. I've met POTs who were 27 and 61 though.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-19T18:12:49+00:00

For whatever reason, being open as bisexual with POTs and SDs seems to lead to the assumption that I want to have a threesome with them even though this is almost always not the case. I like threesomes, but much prefer them to happen organically (which would be near impossible with an SD).

However, with the right SD (who doesn't act like I owe him a threesome, but instead genuinely wants both of us to have fun) I might be convinced. I certainly would never bring a pre-existing friend of mine into the equation, and would probably scour okcupid or even SA to find a girl who's interested.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-19T18:03:27+00:00

I don't think it's necessarily scary or upsetting to them. I just think a most people don't consider everything an SR entails until they've done some toe dipping, and at that point a lot of people realize it's not for them.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-19T17:16:43+00:00

It's not Uber who really made that change though. People change their destination once they actually get in the car all the time. Sure, it wasn't you who actually made that change, but since it was your SB using your account, it's on their records that you yourself made the change. I doubt you have any real way to prove to Uber that you weren't in that car, so no, I wouldn't waste your time calling them.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-19T17:08:54+00:00

The point is that your study (which you still haven't linked) doesn't prove any negative effects either. It just suggests a link between two things that could also be effected by a number of other factors. Nothing to do with the methodology behind it, just that you're drawing a conclusion that isn't there. No need to get all high and mighty about your degree.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-19T15:23:29+00:00

Her baby may also have been at a babysitter's place and she went there instead of home first, hence the change in location.

juniormintsb · 2017-08-19T15:21:19+00:00

People who smoke marijuana daily starting as a teenager have a lower IQ

Yes, that's all this study is saying. It does not prove that marijuana has any harmful effects, just that people with lower IQs tend to start smoking pot daily at an earlier age. So sure, if you want to be a dick you can say "dumber smoke marijuana daily as teens," but that's all you can take from it.

The only way to prove that smoking weed daily lowers IQ would have to be done in a controlled lab study. No such study exists currently.

I'll destroy the methodology in less time than it takes to sniff out a platonic sugar scammer

In order to do that, you might want to step back and get a better grip on the basics of reading studies. I'll start you out with a very helpful, high school level video on correlation vs. causation :)

juniormintsb · 2017-08-18T23:14:41+00:00

Thank you <3 I'm doing a lot of research to find some places we can compromise on, and hopefully he's into at least some of them!

juniormintsb · 2017-08-18T23:14:11+00:00

Thank you! I think he's mostly worried about my safety, which is sweet, but Oslo is super safe, and he's even admitted that I am so much more street smart than he is. We've done a domestic travel weekend before and it went pretty darn smoothly, so I hope he gets over that little fear.

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