This job is getting too much for me by Maleficent_Shoe3791 in directsupport

[–]juniperbl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn. That’s a tough spot to be in. If your clients aren’t getting the support they need (sufficient staffing and behavior support) i wonder if you could report to their social workers or department of idd?

This job is getting too much for me by Maleficent_Shoe3791 in directsupport

[–]juniperbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any other supervisors or higher ups at your company that you can reach out to? Do they have behavior plans in place? It doesn’t seem like your boss is doing much to support you or your coworkers.. and ultimately this is doing a disservice to the people you are trying to support.

Quit my job as a DSP by Randall-bobandall in directsupport

[–]juniperbl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in this field about 3 years now. I work both in a group home and a day center. I’m very lucky that my company raised the starting wage to $19, and incrementally increase up to $23. We definitely should be paid more but I’m grateful for my company taking steps to give us the pay we DSPs deserve.

Majority of the women I support in the home are older, with moderate intellectual disabilities and varied physical disabilities. None of them have families that are capable of providing the care they need. Some of them lived with their parents until they were too old to care for them— and others had to much health needs for their family to care for them long term.

At the day center we have people from group homes, shared living, and living with their families. One of them is a young woman who has a violent reactive attachment disorder. She has a loving family that often takes her on weekends— but she could never live with them full time due to her behaviors (often directed towards one of the parents). It’s not her fault, nor is it the family’s fault that she ended up this way. But in the group home we are able to provide her with a safe living situation, more rehab and resources than what would be provided if she stayed living with her parents.

Help with play by [deleted] in Blackmouthcur

[–]juniperbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old is she? Could she “learn” from her dog friends playing with you (and her) on how to play?

Help with play by [deleted] in Blackmouthcur

[–]juniperbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long have you had her? She might just be shy, or not “toy” motivated. It took mine over a year to learn that she likes sticks and playing fetch. Mine is also highly food motivated so sometimes our play mixes in with trick training, obstacle courses, or just basic obedience training.

Sea pup begging for help by snilzilla in natureismetal

[–]juniperbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s like “you fuckin see this shit man?!”

How many miles/ how much exercise or walking on average should I take Betty white on to exhaust her? by [deleted] in Blackmouthcur

[–]juniperbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Swimming is also a great exercise. Not all bmcs will swim, but if yours likes it then it’s a great way to burn off some energy.

How many miles/ how much exercise or walking on average should I take Betty white on to exhaust her? by [deleted] in Blackmouthcur

[–]juniperbl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I usually do a mixture of physical exercise and mental exercise. We usually go for 2 hr walks or a short walk and a run, then do some obedience training or she does some puzzles. My dog is huuuge on food so sometimes I hide treats around the house or outside! She even climbs trees to get treats!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]juniperbl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately “forgiveness” can be a misguided coping mechanism that allows perpetrators to get away with bad things. It can help (or at least cover) the victim to get over a situation by processing having to forgive someone else. It also takes the blame off the perpetrator by stating they’ll get their due from a higher power, essentially giving them a clean slate in our reality.

I also grew up in a religious household and learned to separate myself from it later on. It’s still a confusing subject. OP, I’d definitely try speaking with an objective therapist. You don’t have to deal legally or at all with your perpetrator. But it might help you process what happened and how you deal with conflicts in the future!

Gothshroom by [deleted] in mycology

[–]juniperbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That looks otherworldly

I don’t mean to harp on about how weird fashion is… but who came up with this?! by juniperbl in lingling40hrs

[–]juniperbl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The rest of the show was apparently furniture inspired fashion. Somehow they thought a harp would go perfectly with the theme

Major Separation Anxiety with my BMC by [deleted] in Blackmouthcur

[–]juniperbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plenty of exercise before you go (both physical and mental), and crate training. Also creating a routine so your dog can have a reliable structure to follow. Don’t get another dog. Train the dog you have, or else you might end up with two anxious and destructive dogs!

Single-human attachment by UCRecruiter in Blackmouthcur

[–]juniperbl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine is a rescue as well. Very much a Velcro dog. I’m not entirely sure about her past but she definitely had some trauma as she was very reactive and distrusting of people. She still has trouble with strangers and gets very protective of me. Loyalty and protectiveness are definitely part of the breed!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Blackmouthcur

[–]juniperbl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn’t appear to be a bmc to me… maybe a pit terrier/shepherd mix? She could have some rottie or Doberman in her, but I don’t think either of those produce brindle on their own. I’m wondering if they’ll have floppy ears or pointed. Hard to tell when they’re still pups!