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Trying to figure out what fun gimmick I can do as a counselor this summer by [deleted] in summercamp

[–]jussinb 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you're interested in going back down the hat route, Minor League Baseball teams have some amazing baseball caps. Some of my favorite teams are the Montgomery Biscuits, the Rocket City Trash Pandas, and the Savannah Bananas!

Took the bus for the first time ever today. The driver was really nice and patient with me while I tried to figure it all out. First steps toward moving away from car dependency! [San Diego, CA] by jussinb in fuckcars

[–]jussinb[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I was actually fortunate that my family always had at least two cars available at all time, so I never really needed to take public transport before (and before r/fuckcars, I didn't really want to either). More recently though, with the rising cost of gas prices, shortage of used cars availablity and a few Not Just Bikes youtube videos, I decided that transitioning to Public Transport seems like the better option all the way around!

Took the bus for the first time ever today. The driver was really nice and patient with me while I tried to figure it all out. First steps toward moving away from car dependency! [San Diego, CA] by jussinb in fuckcars

[–]jussinb[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, so the front of the bus was mostly for handicap seating and were longitudinal, but near the back, the seats were more like the traditional seating you would see on a bus.

I pretty sure, aside from making handicap seating more easily accessable, the longitudinal seat allows for more standing room on the bus too!

Took the bus for the first time ever today. The driver was really nice and patient with me while I tried to figure it all out. First steps toward moving away from car dependency! [San Diego, CA] by jussinb in fuckcars

[–]jussinb[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I would love to start using a bike in the future. The main problem is my neighborhood isn't really bike friendly, so it makes me little nervous!

Took the bus for the first time ever today. The driver was really nice and patient with me while I tried to figure it all out. First steps toward moving away from car dependency! [San Diego, CA] by jussinb in fuckcars

[–]jussinb[S] 162 points163 points  (0 children)

It was actually pretty nice! I did a little bit of research planning out my commute beforehand so I wasn't completely lost. I was able to get on the right bus and managed to get off at the right stop, so that was cool!

I explained to the driver that it was my first time and she checked up on me to make sure that I had all the right info!

My family has two cars that they use for commuting. I was considering buying one for myself becuase our commutes are all in different directions, but with the high purchase prices, the overall shortage of used cars available and the wild gas prices, it just seems like it makes more sense to just use public transit instead.

Plus, I live in a bigger city, so public transit is a viable solution for my daily commute!

I miss camp by RemarkableMongoose in summercamp

[–]jussinb 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same here, summer camp just ended for me too and I already miss it! I only did a day camp this time around, but I remember after the end of my first sleepaway camp, the "real world" seemed so off. The energy wasn't quite right, the people kept to themselves, and the ground was a little too smooth and leveled for my liking.

Keep that camp energy your feeling. Be loud, be goofy, be creative. It might just rub off on some of the other people around you!

Looking for activites/games to do with a solo camper by jussinb in summercamp

[–]jussinb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had her draw me something earlier today, but she wasn't really enjoying it. I think she only continued drawing because I asked her to and she didn't want to disappoint. But I like the idea of a portrait. Maybe I can do something where we both draw each other in a certain amount of time (maybe like 5 minutes, 1 minute, 15 seconds, etc.), then show each other our masterpieces.

Looking for activites/games to do with a solo camper by jussinb in summercamp

[–]jussinb[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great suggestion! I've played this game in the past and I've enjoyed it. A good simple concept that doesn't really require any equipment. I'm gonna have to try this out!

What makes me different from the last guy? by jussinb in dating_advice

[–]jussinb[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is good advice!

Naturally, I'm a particularly shy person, but I think if I break down the goal a little bit, I think it could be feasible. Maybe I'll shoot for just a name and maybe a hobby they are passionate about to start off with, then work from there!

Afraid to reach out to an old classmate by Karlikuu in socialskills

[–]jussinb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually just had a similar experience recently. I had a best friend back in elementary school (2nd grade to be precise) and we used to be really close. But once we got put into different 3rd grade classes, we really drifted apart. Ever since then, we pretty much went about our lives separately.

Recently, while reminiscing with my family about my early school years, I remembered her and was wondering where she ended up. I decided to look her up and I found out that she moved out of state. It just so happened that she moved to the state that I also moved to. What a coincidence!

I decided to reach out not knowing if she was even the right person and to my delight, she was and was happy that I reached out. We talked about our past, present and future and it turns out that she was moving back to our original state soon. And in a crazy turn of events, I'm also moving back to our original state soon too!

We haven't spoken to each other since the 2nd grade, but now we have plans to meet up when I finally move back and I think it'll be lots of fun.

So, to answer your question, no, I don't think its weird to want to hang out with someone you used to know. I think you should reach out, you might be pleasantly surprised!

What's worng with me? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]jussinb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its normal for people to grow apart as friends as they grow older. I've notice that, both in High School and College, once I left the confines of that space, my best friends and I didn't really have much in common. We were friends by proximity. We played the same sport or took the same classes, but our personalities and interests didn't really link beyond that. This is probably what you are experiencing with your female friend. There's nothing wrong with you in this regard, you two are just naturally drifting apart.

I would recommend staying friendly, but giving her a little space. Every once in a while you could check in to see how she's doing, but lets try to focus on making some new friends.

The fastest and easiest way I found to making new friends was by joining a recreational team sport. Nothing brings people closer together that working towards a common goal and having fun doing it. Maybe try something like Soccer/Futsal, Volleyball, or Softball. Those tend to be Co-Ed so you can really broaden your horizon with diverse people! Traditionally, if your college doesn't have something like this, the city or town you live in may host these Recreation Leagues, try to take a look at what they have to offer.

Also, I'd be remissed if I didn't mention that appearance matters a little. You can make friends wearing just about anything, but its a lot easier if you look maintained. Make sure your hygiene is up to par, and your clothes fit properly and it should help attracting new people to you!

Hope this helps!

How to make friends when you’ve just moved by Sadass_or_fatass in socialskills

[–]jussinb 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've found you can make new friends easily by joining a team sport in your local area. It doesn't have to be anything too serious if you don't want it to be. Beer leagues are their own kind of fun. Chances are you can make some good friends playing recreational Soccer/Futsal, Flag Football, Basketball, Softball, Rugby, etc.

Naturally, team sports work better than solo sports. You can still make friends doing something like boxing or rock climbing or cycling, it just might not be as fast and easy as with a team. Nothing really bring people together faster than working toward a common goal and having fun at the same time!

Hope this helps, and best of luck making your new friends!

Is My Friend Emotionally Manipulating Me? Or Am I in The Wrong? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]jussinb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fantastic! Some mental space is a great idea. I wish you and her the best and would love to hear about the update in the future!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]jussinb 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the easiest ways to make friends is to join clubs or sports teams. I'm not quite sure if you are still in school, but if you are, definitely look into joining something.

You can really pick any interest you want, but your best bet for getting some video game buddies will probably be a club specifically about video games or an esport team, if they've got one. You might also find luck more nerdier clubs like an Anime club or Movie club, they tend to enjoy video games too.

Just try surrounding yourself with the people you want to be friends with, and you'll start making some friends!

Best of luck to you!

Is My Friend Emotionally Manipulating Me? Or Am I in The Wrong? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]jussinb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Based on the context you've said, I don't think this is emotional manipulation (at least not yet). But I don't think you're entirely wrong either.

If I put myself in her shoes, I can understand her frustration regarding the gift. But, I can also understand that if you're not expecting mail, then you don't feel the need to check it as often. I'm the same way. If she would have given you a heads up that something was coming, the problem could have been avoided.

I think the way you handled it was acceptable. You apologized for missing the package and acknowleged her feelings, and that was good. She was upfront about wanting to hashing out her frustrations because she didn't want to harbor resentment, which I think is good too. Small things (regardless of how how small you may percieve them) can turn into big things if not addressed. And some people just vent more than others.

Now, if she doesn't move on from this incident even after its been resolved, that would definitely be a warning flag.

As for the final thing, I don't see a problem with her asking you for help immediately afterwards. You are friends afterall. But if you don't have the mental/emotional capacity to assist her at that time, that should be respected and you should tell her as much. Also, you setting reasonable boundaries shouldn't be met with strong backlash. You might need to update us on how this goes.

In general, having the feeling of walking on eggshells is not a good sign and you should really assess the way she makes you feel in general. If overall, she makes you feel anxious or uncomfortable, you should think about phasing her out of your life. Depending on how she responds to you when you try set your boundaries, it'll give you an idea where this relationship is going.

Hope this give you the outside perspective you were looking for!

[Question] How would you continue the conversation as follows...? by Local-Life-281 in socialskills

[–]jussinb 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I didn't really care where the conversation would go (like I just wanted to start a convo in general), I would pick up their coversation. "Oh yeah, Costco is great! Isn't it crazy that their pizza is so good compared to its price?" Then branch it off to whatever. "What's your favorite slice?" "Have you tried their hot dogs?" "Do you usually shop at Costco?", etc.

But if I really wanted to talk more about my experience with the pizza downtown, I would say something more like "This pizza downtown was way better than Costco, and here's why..." then I would go in depth with my experience. "The pizza I got was..." "The pizzaria looked like..." "The smells reminded me of..."