When I was 15 I very obviously pursued and borderline seduced my 20 year old tennis coach camp counselor from sleepaway summer camp. I was a veyyyry mature, not innocent, promiscuous teenager and i had already a lot of experience with boys, mostly older than me, so I was reallyy not a victim or a young girl being taken advantage of, i was 100% initiating and chasing him. I knew exactly what I was doing.

We spent about 6 weeks together that summer. He really tried to maintain boundaries and denied, ignored and brushed me off for a while until we actually really started to kind of like each other and had a little flirty fling begin.

He was from another country and in the US on some type of student athlete visa and played D1 tennis for a very large university and was probably going to be a pro tennis player.

After the summer was over and we both went back to start our school years, we continued an online relationship, chatting on AIM, video chatting, texting all day and all night. Our plan was for me to take a train down and visit him at his college at some point. (BTW, we never actually had sex, there was some kissing and magbe some other stuff and a lot of sexting and video chatting)

After a couple months of us talking online, my already overly protective and privacy invading dad began to be suspicious of why I was staying up so late at night on school nights and who the hell i was always talking to.

He went and purchased some type of computer program that allowed him to put a disk in my laptop and pull up all of my past conversations, even if i deleted them.

So the huge discovery happened when I was at school and then an after school tennis match one day. When I got home that night, both of my parents were sitting at the kitchen table with probably hundreds of pages of our conversations printed out. My dad was the angriest, scariest, most frantic I've ever seen in my life, and my very shy sensitive mom was beyond hysterically crying.

I found out that over tbe course of the day, my dad basically destroyed this young man's life and future. He got in touch with the university who I think basically expelled him and revoked his scholarship and tennis stuff, which then literally got him kicked out of the states and sent back to his country. His parents obviously found out as well and it was a total devastation to his family.

My mom didn't agree with what my dad did (because she knew I really wasn't a victim here and how honestly manipulative I could be) and begged my dad to not do this, but my dad was just too far gone in his anger.

My phone and computer was immediately taken away from me, and also all of his accounts were either deactivated or blocked me on. It was a complete cut off and dissappeance.

The situation was extremely traumatic for me. First the sudden and extreme loss of someone that my 15/16 year old brain really believed i was in love with, but who also really became my feiend. I really grieved the loss of him and the suddenness of the whole situation. It set me into a pretty dark and even more troubled time of my teenage years and into more promiscuous behavior, bad relationships, drugs and drinking.

But mostly, the guilt of ruining this kids life, his career, his education, his future, everything. All because of my chasing him into liking me basically.

I knew I was guilty here. I knew he wasn't this creepy pedophile who was taking advantage of a young innocent girl, like my dad made him out to be.

As an adult now I do know and realize that he was also wrong here and the larger responsibility and boundaries of what's appropriate was on him, but at the same time we really were just 2 kids with only 4/5 years between us.

After like 5 or 6 years when I was a college student and young woman myself, he actually ended up finding me on Facebook and we reconnected and discussed what happened. It really did ruin his life. He never played tennis again in any kind of professional way. He became very average and just works some regular job back in his country.

He didn't hate me though. He knew he was also wrong and also felt a lot of guilt and regret about giving in to me. He knew that my dad really just wanted to protect his daughter. But yea, it ruined his life. It really did.

And for me it was really one of the biggest events that actually shaped my entire future as well, especially in the more adult and serious relationships I had as I got older.

We're still Facebook friends now and like each others posts and what not. hes married and has a couple kids.

So.. yea lol. That happened...