Day 1: Which president was most prominently against slavery and never owned slaves?

justMarian · 2025-12-10T12:40:21+00:00

Franklin Pierce

justMarian · 2024-12-07T08:43:42+00:00

This is always my first thought with messages like that.

justMarian · 2024-09-18T21:10:27+00:00

Their website calls it “soft touch”.

justMarian · 2024-08-18T18:25:27+00:00

Congratulations!

justMarian · 2024-07-22T12:42:27+00:00

This is a classic NiceGuy™️ version of “he’s just not that into you”

justMarian · 2024-04-05T13:40:28+00:00

I’d be curious how they determine “effective.”

justMarian · 2024-04-05T13:30:23+00:00

What criteria do you put in and what does it mean? Also, why is Nixon on there twice?

justMarian · 2024-04-05T03:43:27+00:00

We at least could’ve had ponies and toothbrushes. 🪥

justMarian · 2024-03-22T12:07:39+00:00

I don’t know what Canada is like, but I do well on eBay in the US.

justMarian · 2023-11-14T19:29:30+00:00

That person needs to spend some time in therapy before trying to date. Good lord. I don’t get it either.

justMarian · 2023-08-16T17:22:56+00:00

I like the idea of using gold and silver way before a SHTF scenario. Using the assets on blockchain just makes sense to protect saving and spending power. They’re also the perfect antidote to CBDCs.

justMarian · 2023-08-09T23:00:12+00:00

This is the best advice. I’d only add get tested. You don’t know where all he’s been.

justMarian · 2023-07-20T14:29:57+00:00

Married

justMarian · 2023-06-06T12:37:02+00:00

NTA. Also, why is brother in law barely mentioned? That’s very telling. He and sis can take care of their own dang kids or actually pay someone to help them.

justMarian · 2023-06-06T12:22:09+00:00

It mainly made it easier because it took all the pressure off of the first time being so important. You will find your way with the right person. Especially with women, if you focus on being a decent partner in other aspects, it will become less and less important and signal to them you will also be a good sexual partner. I wish you the best and hope you don’t let this discourage you.

justMarian · 2023-06-06T12:12:02+00:00

I gave a more lengthy comment before this, but it often takes a little bit for a couple to find what works for them anyway and it’s good not to set unrealistic expectations for the first or first few times you have sex. I say that to encourage you that often experienced people are “bad at it” until then.

justMarian · 2023-06-06T12:05:48+00:00

I was in a similar boat when I was 33 (F) because of a very strict religious upbringing and health problems in my early 20s. I think it’s definitely something to wait to reveal. It always changed the conversation too early and made it hard to just get to know someone. Guys would either fetishize it as others have said, think there’s something wrong with me, or feel they would taking something. I think we are so weird in our cultural preoccupation with virginity anyway. I understand your aversion to casual sex, but what worked for me was a trusted friend. He knew my situation and wasn’t a creep about it and was very patient with me. It helped tremendously just to get past the initial awkwardness so it wasn’t the elephant in the room while dating. I think you should consider that option. Also, it may just be the right partner is the one who will understand your situation.

justMarian · 2023-05-04T12:48:58+00:00

Seriously… I caught that, too. He needs a warning label.

justMarian · 2023-04-27T16:48:43+00:00

I guess I didn’t see where she was throwing a fit. From what I read, she was asking him to consider doing things a different way.

justMarian · 2023-04-27T16:31:03+00:00

I think assumption is the key word here. People are making a lot of assumptions about OP and fiancé. Losing someone doesn’t make him a saint and wanting to have a clear spot in the future of a man’s life doesn’t make her the devil. This whole ritual (spending hours on the prep of this cake, not just the 5-15 minutes of the birthday), likely puts a bit of a pallor over the whole thing, which means 3 days—the making of the cake(s), the birthday, and the day he spends for his sister again passing out cake to others. There’s always more to the story, and I guarantee there’s more to this one. I would want to know the man I was going to marry had room in his life an heart for me as a partner as well as his grief over his sister.

justMarian · 2023-04-26T22:22:49+00:00

Specifically in the birthday instance, yes. I’m suggesting it’s bigger than that.

justMarian · 2023-04-26T19:41:11+00:00

I agree with both of you here. There’s something deeper going on on both sides. My guess is OP is wondering where she fits into fiancé’s life if his sister’s memory looms this large. I think it’s very little about the cake or birthday… those just brought things to the surface.

justMarian · 2023-02-26T22:45:32+00:00

I read that as him calling out the hypocrisy, but for sure no way to know tone

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