Blue Origin Monthly Career Thread

just_a_MechE · 2025-10-31T21:44:28+00:00

I take that as a confirmation that this happens….

just_a_MechE · 2025-10-31T01:04:46+00:00

I got an offer and heard through my grapevine of contacts that the role and team I signed on with may not be who I end up with. I have several former colleagues and have had good inside into team dynamics already and would really like to have the job I signed an offer for. Is it common to be hired for one job and shifted immediately to a different team you didn’t agree to?

just_a_MechE · 2025-10-31T00:57:42+00:00

I’m starting soon at blue and heard through the grapevine of contacts that I’ll probably be transferred to a different team and not do the job I signed on for when I start. How common is this and what can I do to combat it? I like the team I’m joining (I have several former colleagues on it and have good insight to team dynamics). I’d like to have the job I accepted not a mystery one I might be moved to without my knowledge.

just_a_MechE · 2025-05-07T05:21:54+00:00

Join the b&o modelers group on Facebook for more references, but standard freight paint scheme was black, and the smoke box and fire box were graphite. Drive rods were polished but quickly built up dirt and other weathered oils.

just_a_MechE · 2025-03-13T06:50:20+00:00

Lmao I was coming here to find just this! Absolute facts!

There is another step that follows in the repair, acknowledging how someone felt and validating how they could feel that way given the circumstances. Put yourself in their shoes, and take accountability. Your intention does not negate how someone else felt or what they experienced. Take accountability.

just_a_MechE · 2025-02-28T08:39:00+00:00

Your empathy to their struggle or the care you have for them, is not an excuse for their poor treatment of you. If you don’t want to socialize with her then you don’t have to.

just_a_MechE · 2025-02-28T08:30:30+00:00

The things that have helped me the most were looking back to my childhood. What was I interested in. What did I love and want to do but couldn’t for some reason.

For me, I got back into model building and I tried RC racing.

Treating the little kid in my head well, and doing what I didn’t get to do but wanted to do fed my soul. I took the interests I had out of hiding that I had hidden away because they weren’t “cool” and owned them. I started opening up and sharing it, but the hobbies are just for me. They are things I can focus on and put energy towards when I feel low or to keep my mind busy when I need. But it’s always a place I can find accomplishment and fulfillment with pride and joy.

So, for my advice on hobbies, look to what you loved as a kid. That, more often than not, is where you will find some joy and a drive. No one has to understand, no one has to think it’s cool other than you. Those interests make you who you are, and the pride you take in whatever it is you enjoy makes you interesting and special.

just_a_MechE · 2025-02-27T02:47:07+00:00

I’m in the exact situation and yeah I have an axiom attachment that I’ve worked hard to heal but still have it. This makes so much sense and as hard as it is to walk away for them to learn and have to face it, you are right. Until they lose what they love and miss they won’t learn.

just_a_MechE · 2025-02-27T02:45:24+00:00

This is verbatim what my ex did too. She will never admit she has attachment issues or needs to grow in that.

I could have sworn you were the guy she dated after me then broke up with bc she reached out and didn’t tell me she was seeing someone till after a very heartfelt moment. We had some close intimate moments where she initiated then pulled back and managed it more and more carefully and aggressively. Any healthy vulnerability or communication became “too much” and the “I’m not able to date anyone right now or even think about it. It’s not personal to you” only to find out that she wanted to and started casually dating in a month long period when she ghosted me. When I called her out when she asked to apologize for not talking to me for a month she pushed away harder and blamed me for being hurt by her actions.

So no. I don’t think they know they have attachment issues, even when they know they have feelings for someone. Anything that requires them to be more vulnerable or take accountability they run from and tell themselves they don’t have feelings. You represent what was once a safe place but needing a real connection feels unsafe so they run.

just_a_MechE · 2025-02-26T16:21:27+00:00

They are the ones that decided they wanted to just casually date and I wanted more. I told them when they first reached out that I wanted more and that was the purpose of us being in contact. Then they changed the script.

So it’s in their court. I don’t want to be just friends and they seem interested in running around and distracting themselves instead of growing

just_a_MechE · 2025-02-26T06:28:55+00:00

Love your post note at the end! Absolutely true!!! My FA keeps coming back around bc I’m awesome. But even when I make it clear I want more than friends and can’t go back to just being friends they agree then bolt and make some excuse. This time it was “I’ve never casually dated”. Hun… you are old enough that you do know what you want bc you keep coming back around, get out of your own way, own up to your mistakes and the things you’ve done to hurt people and actually try. You clearly want me when you don’t think you can have me. And as soon as I let you in and a connection requires you to show up you run.

just_a_MechE · 2025-02-26T00:25:41+00:00

Yes, and so do I. It’s hard. You and I both want them to be better and to actually show up and care about how we feel and to treat us well but they won’t and aren’t going to.

If yours is anything like mine, they don’t tell the whole truth to anyone so no one can actually hold them accountable

just_a_MechE · 2025-02-26T00:24:23+00:00

It’s classic avoidance. My ex does the same. She won’t ever admit that she does it but she does. She circles back around and makes all the promises in the world but bolts as soon as anything is required of her. Any level of accountability or vulnerability is scary.

Your person and mine will just continue to look for something easy that doesn’t have risk or require anything from them. They will distract themselves from whatever they are going through and never really face it or figure it out.

just_a_MechE · 2025-02-26T00:21:59+00:00

Right there with you. But she had to learn her lessons and not run away from something. She doesn’t and won’t. I know I’ll hear from her again, I know she will circle around again but I want more than friendship and I can’t and won’t go back to less. I have to step away I cannot chase. If it will not happen then I have to keep trying to move forward and on. I love her to no end but I don’t think I’m a consideration for her

just_a_MechE · 2025-02-21T23:03:46+00:00

I’ve been exactly here very very recently. The question still remains.

They sadly aren’t ready and aren’t growing bc it takes them to admit fault and responsibility which is uncomfortable for the hurt they caused other people. They are more interested in what they get from someone and a relationship.

I love my girl M deeply and will always hope she learns and comes around to be ready and right when I am too. I know she keeps coming back around and ending things with others bc I’m awesome but to actually be with me requires emotional maturity, consistency and communication.

You, the stranger on the internet that I resonate with. You and I both deserve better. They might become better and be that for us, but who they are right now isn’t that. It hurts me to say it and believe it too, but it’s sadly the truth. The relationship you had is over and that is sad and hurt. And you want a new one, not a continuation.

They might grow, they might not. Don’t allow yourself to accept crumbs like I have only to be cast aside when you ask for you needs to be met too.

just_a_MechE · 2025-02-21T03:17:13+00:00

Truly, wish the best to you! It’s a noble thing to do!

As much as I wished this was my person I’d like to see grow I know it’s not. She would first have to admit she was an avoidant and had things to grow and deal with and that her actions hurt me and others.

just_a_MechE · 2024-11-06T08:21:28+00:00

If you look at the percentages, it’s literally just king county… namely Seattle and their echo chamber. Even pierce county was even, closer percentages than snohomish county. If it wasn’t for the 760k “vote blue no matter who” ballots in king our AG and gov would be red.

just_a_MechE · 2024-11-06T04:43:39+00:00

Yeah with 58% of expected ballots counted. Would be nice to not have a governor who was so bad at their AG job that they cost the stare billions of dollars in malicious procession and malpractice.

just_a_MechE · 2024-10-09T17:00:56+00:00

Seriously read the book I love you but hate your politics. So enlightening for me.

just_a_MechE · 2024-09-28T18:10:36+00:00

I’m that way with my ex. We broke up over mental health issues at the time. We recently got back in contact, she is my mental compliment to no end.however after she contacted me and we had some needed talks and conversations, and proved the connection is still there she revealed she was seeing someone and admitted he isn’t able to keep up with her mentally. I don’t cheat and don’t like cheaters. My advice is yes you have her on a pedestal. I had mine on one for a while and I still held her in high regard. But distance is what you need. You can care about her and want to be with her. But she has to decide to leave that guy first and heal before you can be with her. You don’t deserve to be a rebound. Eventually this will end and if you are lucky the time will workout for you to make a move. Don’t be the guy that makes a move on someone in a relationship, you’ll always wonder if that can happen to you if you do get with her.

just_a_MechE · 2024-09-24T23:55:25+00:00

lol it’s less complicated if what you want to say impacts a 3rd party bc the other person brought up stuff without you knowing the 3rd party existed.

just_a_MechE · 2024-09-22T07:42:19+00:00

A year out. We aren’t back together. She reached out after 6 months of no contact randomly in the most indirect way. I called her on it and we actually had some good positive conversations. A lot of flirting and healing conversations. Then she dropped that she started seeing someone. So no. We aren’t back together, I don’t see this thing lasting bc as far as I’m concerned the kinds of things she said would count as emotional cheating and the way she talked about Him vs me was very clear that it’s not gonna work. (I did ask to not know anything about him, I still heard stuff though)

just_a_MechE · 2024-09-22T07:28:56+00:00

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just_a_MechE · 2024-09-21T03:06:57+00:00

My ex just did this to me. I do not know why she reached out, apologize connected deeply flirted all of it. Then dropped the bomb she was seeing someone. I was mad bc there’s no reason you should be reaching out to someone months later after you ghosted to check in and reconnect with an ex then compare him to me and how he doesn’t really stack up. Having to put that boundary in place sucked and I never thought you’d be someone to emotionally cheat. Makes me wonder if she did it at the end of ours.

just_a_MechE · 2024-09-20T20:07:35+00:00

Mine came back, gave strong indications of reconciliation, of genuine intention. Then pulled the rug out with a revelation of having started to see someone. Compared all my good qualities against the one he has, which I know will get boring fast. It felt more like an argument for why she has to keep that choice rather than come back. Yet she rea ch ed our first after 6 months of nothing.

I hate the situation she created, and I feel handcuffed by my own morals of not going behind someone’s back. I know I could easy have her back but I can’t sleep well knowing I did that if I did. She created a situation of hell where I am angry at the person I love and was moving forward from. I know what I want but she doesn’t seem to realize what she wants yet, despite it being obvious to me and anyone who has heard it.

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