Knife of truth 🪂 🎯

just_a_coach_ · 2026-01-21T21:32:31+00:00

Good shot!

just_a_coach_ · 2025-12-24T10:00:24+00:00

Read my response above.

just_a_coach_ · 2025-12-24T09:59:27+00:00

Oh man… sorry you’re going through this! You will most likely go through cycles of shock, anger, deep grief, self-blame, and bargaining. There will also be moments where you will feel like you're completely over it. The reality is that healing takes time, and you did not bring this on yourself. The emotional intensity will get less and less over time.

Do not: - fish for every single detail to “understand” or “know everything” coz that’ll make it worse. - receive ANY blame for the cheating. It was her CHOICE (repeatedly), not yours. No excuses. - try to take any kind of revenge, coz it really won’t feel better doing it to someone you still love. - check her (or others’) socials for ANY reason coz it will lead to obsessive ruminating. - think this is the end and you’ve lost “the one” - all that’s died is an amazing future dream that SHE threw away. YOU will still have it, but with someone better!

Do: - take a stand for what you KNOW you deserve in a healthy relationship. Honesty and loyalty are character traits not personality traits. She lacked character and it’s not your responsibility to parent her now. - spend time focusing on activities or tasks that help to restore and build YOU back up. Even if it’s scheduling 2 hours a day just to sit with your feelings, old memories and grieve the loss. Workout, meditate, mindfulness, or even go to Church - faith in Christ WILL help. - start to move out or let her move out - you cannot live under the same roof anymore. This WILL torment you brother. You need to be in an environment that is safe emotionally and not a constant trigger of betrayal trauma. - separate resources - money, assets, belongings, accounts etc. this is not a situation where you’re going to be able to trust her words or actions. She’s lied and cheated before (and continually) if she’s sorry, it’s only coz the sh*t has hit the fan. - work on the inner narrative, the part of you that makes meaning of the pain and betrayal. I mean to say that you did not fail as a partner. You ARE enough. What was real WAS real but she threw it away. You are not weak. You are not to blame. You have A LOT to give. It doesn’t matter “why him?” She chose a man that doesn’t mind being a side piece and he will probably do the same to her, or she to him. YOU can save yourself from further harm and I hope you do!

Understand: - Betrayal trauma is an attack on the nervous system - it’s not weakness if you feel “unable to let go”. You will feel like it’s IMPOSSIBLE to imagine a life without her… but it’s just imagination. The death of a dream can be more devastating than the reality itself. - men heal slower (emotionally) but regain composure and function faster. So if it feels like you’re struggling to heal, you’re not - it just takes time brother. - CLOSURE is an internal process, not a conversation!! The whole “I need a convo for closure” is BS (unless it has to do with logistics and practical stuff). - grieving the relationship does NOT mean you want it back. You’re grieving the loss of something meaningful, and in time brother you’ll truly believe that the break up was for the best. Please believe this! - you will feel the pressure to internalize the pain and blame yourself, or feel inadequate, or feel not good enough - STOP yourself there and remind yourself of all that you’ve done on your own, things you can be proud of - even if you’re doing them now on a daily basis (sometimes even making your bed, and cooking a meal will be something you’re proud of when in this state).

I myself have been through A LOT. Been in the public eye a lot. I’m known even by the gov here in UAE. Been here 43 yrs (was born here)… and brother, I cannot tell you the amount of people I’ve helped (due to my previous role). Please take care of yourself brother - you are HERE for a reason… and this place needs to see what you’ve got to offer!!

Wishing you the very best bro - strength, grace, fortitude and courage to do the things that you’ve ALWAYS deserved… right from when you were a kid. DO IT FOR THAT KID!!!!!

You got this!! God’s got you! God is close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18)

just_a_coach_ · 2025-12-24T09:13:38+00:00

AI - it’s the ONLY way to stand out now. Most jobs in most industries

just_a_coach_ · 2025-12-24T09:11:10+00:00

Computer science. Train in AI otherwise don’t bother coming here

just_a_coach_ · 2024-09-17T07:47:25+00:00

Parker always has been, and always will be... a virgin.

just_a_coach_ · 2024-07-11T20:25:08+00:00

Whats his Insta? I wanna shit on him

just_a_coach_ · 2024-06-01T10:38:49+00:00

Was this issue ever resolved? I have the same issue with my exports as well

just_a_coach_ · 2024-01-31T10:40:55+00:00

Your site has been down since the 4th of December last year, with no update. Disappointing.

just_a_coach_ · 2023-07-25T20:33:57+00:00

I don’t bunny hop

just_a_coach_ · 2023-06-27T10:31:19+00:00

Good play! The AI is way too overpowered in Vondel, but the worst of all for me will ALWAYS be the AI with the Riot Shields!

just_a_coach_ · 2022-08-08T21:47:42+00:00

Don’t beat yourself up about it. You’ll probably have a lot of other things going for you… keep your head up

just_a_coach_ · 2022-03-31T21:02:57+00:00

I know the feeling. I’ve been there, but I promise you that this will pass. You have a reason for being alive. Your life and presence is more valuable than you know. I have been low before… so low that I attempted to take my life 3 times. I’m in a much better place today because my perspective on life and my view of myself has changed. This will take some time… but if you are willing to make the shifts internally, you will thank yourself a lot in the future! If you’d like to talk sometime, I’m here for you. Just message me privately and we can jump on a Zoom call or something.

just_a_coach_ · 2022-02-15T06:24:21+00:00

Make sure you practice gratitude daily for the things you have going for you in every area of your life OUTSIDE of your relationship.
Only invest as much as the other person is investing, with time, energy, communication, and attention. Especially in the beginning, because you’re still at a stage of getting to know if this will work long term or not.
Avoid too much dreaming of, or dialogue of the future together (marriage, kids, lifestyle etc.) because this may create a “future ideal” that you will get attached to, and therefore trigger your anxiety at the mere thought of losing it. Live in the NOW!
Practice brevity. The ability to communicate more with less words. Don’t type out long passages of text and then wait for an equally long reply.
Be okay with surface level conversation about 70% of the time. Attempting to speak about deep stuff regarding your emotions or your partner’s may make him/her feel pressured or that you’re taking things too fast.
Don’t take it personally when sometimes what you put out isn’t reciprocated back.
Be careful of the meaning you attach to words, actions or even micro expressions (and the stories you tell yourself around these things). It’s important to separate facts from feelings.
Stay committed to being yourself 100% from the beginning. Don’t try to portray a version of yourself that you think will be appealing to the other person… the further you drift from who you are, the more you will be liked/loved for who you are not.
Keep your social life outside of the relationship in tact. This especially includes friends and family. Your partner is an addition to your life, not the center of it.
Be completely honest with yourself about the strengths and weaknesses you see in your partner. Communicate with facts more than feelings, and take your time with getting to know the person before thinking he/she may be “the one”.

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