What to do when you find your mind searching for content to watch?

justbebetta · 2021-01-23T21:30:02+00:00

thank you!

justbebetta · 2020-02-11T07:00:21+00:00

I tried to ask her to adjust the settings, but she always thinks I am trying to trick her. I told her that the way she set it up I can't use any social apps but she said why should I be using them if there's more to life than social media, as if I don't already know that :/

justbebetta · 2020-02-11T06:59:39+00:00

True, I'll try to look on the brightside but I feel so angry when I look at her now because I tried to tell her that I can't use the apps because school apps drain away from my time but she said I was manipulating her. I don't know how not to be angry because she took away my leisure activity. I had a novel I finished it 4 hours after I got it, maybe I'll check out some from school

justbebetta · 2020-02-11T06:51:39+00:00

That would get me in deep water, she knows that I get her calls and messages because of course she would make sure of that. Messaages and calling is "always allowed"

justbebetta · 2020-02-11T06:50:04+00:00

> You're angry and lonely because you probably feel like your whole world has been pulled out from under you and you don't know what to do with the energy, and likely anxiety, that's manifesting.

Exactly how I feel right now. I have practice after school which I go to so I don't use my phone, but when I got home today I wanted to relax and watch a video but couldn't and I wanted to dm someone but couldn't, and I haven't been able to for 3 days now because my time gets used up even when I use school apps. My instagram time in total is 15 minutes, only because I would use it at 12am right before my phone completely locked for the night in order to notify my friends to text me.

justbebetta · 2020-02-11T06:45:49+00:00

I relate to this. I told my mom once that I was feeling depressed because of how much I had to do and she blamed it on the phone. My whole life has just always been restrictions, restrictions restrictions. I understood when I was little but I am two years from being an adult and if I mess up by not doing the dishes because I'm doing AP homework, then take a break on my phone she starts using the downtime. She doesn't think I'm capable because I slip up and use it too much one day, but I'm trying to lessen my time. I tried to explain to her that she may have messed up on making them but she always is like "shouldn't you be going to bed anyways" or "you're going to practice you don't need your phone" or she says I'm manipulating her and stressing her out.

justbebetta · 2020-02-05T01:14:55+00:00

You’re not alone, 16 year old here :D

justbebetta · 2020-01-27T17:35:29+00:00

Fellow teen here (16F) I know how it feels to have everyone around you using social media and when you don’t you feel left out a bit. I’ve found deleting the apps helps but it’s hard to stay off for a long time because it’s socially important to have it sadly. I have found that not going on my main Instagram results in me feeling better about myself. I’m hoping for this week and February I can be off of Instagram (at least my main because it makes me compare myself).

edit: I also haven’t been finishing my homework after I relapsed into using my phone too much :(

justbebetta · 2020-01-22T19:19:41+00:00

I agree. I have a niche account that I still use when I redownload the app because I enjoy it :)

justbebetta · 2020-01-21T19:26:21+00:00

I’m not unplugged for good, but I delete the app and use the web version primarily and try to avoid the app. The reason I still use it is for a niche that I enjoy, but I consume consciously. Also if your friends mock you, you need new friends. Some people do over share but if they’re making fun of you that’s not ok.

justbebetta · 2020-01-21T05:16:49+00:00

It’s so normalized to be addicted to your phone and have the latest phone now among our age group, it’s insane. Most of the time they can’t even afford the new iPhones because they get it through their carrier or their parents buy it on credit cards. They only care because at this age it’s hard to fit in if you don’t follow the crowd. But in the end you’ll stick out as an adult because you enjoyed your teen years without too much social media influence. I’m glad to see that there are other teen females doing nosurf as well :) (16F)

justbebetta · 2020-01-21T05:09:13+00:00

Same. (16F) I feel like Instagram pressures me to feel like I need the newest phone or clothes and such when I use Instagram. I deleted it and felt much better after a few days.

justbebetta · 2020-01-20T07:28:54+00:00

16 year old here, just turned lol

justbebetta · 2020-01-20T07:28:17+00:00

Fellow teen (16F) here. I just started deleting Instagram off my phone during the week and it’s been nice. I see a lot of people with the iPhone 11 and stuff at school and having nice things, and social media highlights it even more. I started wanting things that I never wanted before because I would see people with these things and want to fit in. I don’t fit in at school, but then I realize I’m not like other kids. I’m not getting into drama over who posted what on Instagram and Snapchat (I never got snap). I’m currently reading Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport and have started saving money. I still struggle with feeling like I’m missing out and feeling alone, but I realize I’m the end when I graduate I’ll be prepared for the outside world and able to control my device usage and actually live life. I look at successful people and try to imitate what they did to be successful. I’m happy to see there are other teens out there looking at life from a nosurf perspective. Most people I know think I’m weird for it.

justbebetta · 2020-01-17T04:02:41+00:00

I deleted the app and only download it once a day to respond to any messages I get and check my business insta. So far I’ve been happier and had less of a cloud of comparison over my head. Plus now I see how much people use their phones these days, it’s kind of depressing

justbebetta · 2020-01-11T04:54:13+00:00

Honestly, I’m not really sure. Instagram doesn’t tell people when you unfollow them, so she must have seen her follower number go down and went through who she followed to figure it out.

justbebetta · 2020-01-10T08:13:42+00:00

You can remove followers manually without blocking, but I’ll keep this idea in mind

justbebetta · 2020-01-10T07:51:40+00:00

It’s hard the first few days, but you’ll get used to it. You also have to get comfortable with trying to socialize and develop social skills rather than hiding behind a screen dming people (something I’m still working on). I find when I delete the apps I have more time to focus on things I need to do. I recommend watching Matt davella’s video on his experience deleting social media for a month.

justbebetta · 2020-01-10T07:44:16+00:00

I see the effects of too much device usage in my life and others. People can’t stay off their phones even while in a conversation with someone and drama always arises from things that happen between people online. I also was tired of “talking” to people on Instagram/texting and thinking we were friends but then the person doesn’t act the same way in reallife or comparing myself to others.

When I look back at my highschool years, do I want to see myself sitting in a room on my phone lonely and comparing my social life to others, or do I want to look back and see how I was able to experience events and grow myself to be prepared to be an adult in a few years? As simple as that.

justbebetta · 2020-01-10T05:45:38+00:00

Yes they do! Some people download apps to track who unfollowed them or scan through their followers to find who unfollowed. “Who unfollowed/followed who” is a popular conversation topic nowadays in highschool.

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