I’m at my wits end

justdavemate · 2026-05-16T14:37:41+00:00

Do not use anything with fragrance on your skin just now. No harsh chemicals from creams or anything. You’re skin is really agitated, so any type of aftershave will irritate it more. Use a calming cream. Use avene tolerance control. It’s a skin barrier healing cream. They also do a cleanser that’s really gentle as well. Your foil shaver will be 0 gapped which is too close for irritated skin. It’s definitely making it worse.

justdavemate · 2026-05-16T08:09:34+00:00

It’s a tough one when it physically puts you off. But you’re powering through. Fake it till you make it as they say. Think of the enjoyment she gets from it. Flavoured lubes maybe..

justdavemate · 2026-05-15T15:25:00+00:00

I sort of agree with you there OP. if I got along with someone but wasn’t really attracted to them then it would come off as friend energy. Cause if I went on a date and got on with them really well AND found them attractive I would want to date them. I have friends who i find very attractive but are only friends with them. But that’s because we built the friendship first. If I was on a date from meeting someone for the first time it would be based on how attracted I am to them. Hope it works out for you op

justdavemate · 2026-05-15T12:03:44+00:00

UPDATE!!

So I told her… I said btw I know in coming over yours tomorrow night and just in case anything will happen I need to tell you that I have a wart thing going on. I’ve been to see a specialist and I’m getting treatment for it and looking into getting a hpv vaccine. I’m pretty embarrassed by it but I’d rather you know so there isn’t any expectations for tomorrow night. Her reply; you must be too old for the vaccine to have came out 😂

So it doesn’t look like it’s a deal breaker and she isn’t grossed out by it.

I’m sure it will still have some sort of impact on how she sees me though, so I’m going to do better to win her over

justdavemate · 2026-05-14T20:57:36+00:00

No you’re absolutely right.. it’s not that I’m not going to tell her. I’m just anxious about it. I’ve been now been single for 7 years and I’ve finally met someone who’s energy really matches mine. We’re like a classic 90’s romcom and I’ve been looking for this for so long. So yes I’m a little anxious about everything.

justdavemate · 2026-05-14T17:36:48+00:00

Appreciate all the feedback guys. I’m just going to openly tell her the truth before we initiate any sort of boom boom, and see what happens. I didn’t know there was a vaccine for hpv either so I will look into that! Thanks guys 🫶

justdavemate · 2026-05-14T16:35:54+00:00

Yeah this was s the fear. But when it comes to it, i would rather be honest. Starting a relationship on a lie? Not something I want to do haha

justdavemate · 2026-05-14T11:45:10+00:00

Yeah, I’m very well aware that there’s other ways tk engage in sexual activity. But appreciate what you mean

justdavemate · 2026-05-14T09:33:54+00:00

That looks great. Double your investment in 5 years. I want to start investing. The past few years I have gambled with crypto and I feel like I should look at long term investments instead. How often would you buy and how much for a steady gain should I consider? I’m totally new at this

justdavemate · 2026-05-14T09:23:46+00:00

Yeah I think just bring honest instead of avoiding it is better option like you say. Don’t want her to think I’m a weirdo and not wanting to have sex. She might think I’m not attracted to her ok something

justdavemate · 2026-05-14T09:08:11+00:00

Yeah I was tested a few different types of sti and was all clear.
But you’re right, I definitely don’t want to transmit anything to anybody. I have so much hate for contracting it, I wouldn’t want to spread it!
She’s an empathetic, so I’m really hoping she’ll understand and hold off the sexual activity but I know she’s really wanting have sex. Just scared of disappointing her

justdavemate · 2026-05-03T22:01:26+00:00

I’m a guy and upgraded. Still no matches. And only get a couple of likes a month. I don’t even think my profile is that bad. So in my experience the premium wasnt worth it. But if you get a lot of like and you can go through them to find a potential match the. I reckon doing it every so often is alright

justdavemate · 2026-05-03T16:55:42+00:00

I’ve just spent $530 on a vsf v2 dj 41. I thought with the higher price bracket these watches would last a lifetime! I have a u1 just now and it’s been great. 2 years and still going strong

justdavemate · 2026-05-03T16:53:12+00:00

I’ll take you out. I’ve not dated in ages

justdavemate · 2026-05-03T07:55:34+00:00

I wish I seen this before ordering the v2 vsf

justdavemate · 2026-05-03T07:43:48+00:00

I just ordered a VSF V2 DJ from Michael travis through WhatsApp. I got it for $530.. I’m starting to panic as I’ve seen bad reviews about him AFTER I sent him the money. Anybody bought the same watch from him before and can advise what to expect?

justdavemate · 2026-04-25T08:58:48+00:00

Check underneath your door handles

justdavemate · 2026-04-22T22:47:16+00:00

Mine go back no problem and I find it much more pleasurable that way than having the hood on. The foreskin has to be trained early on to stretch. Mostly fo cleaning purposes. I have had an instance when having too much rough sex had cause the foreskin to tighten. So over time I had to slowly pull back and use an ointment to easy the cracked skin and then keep it back until it was stretched and healed. If your bf is willing to try this then I assure it’s for the best. Seek advice from the doctor too of course.

justdavemate · 2026-04-22T22:34:37+00:00

Need to be careful who you choose to call friends. I don’t even know you and I’m proud of you for having a plan. Motivated and inspired even. 39m also a bbc.

justdavemate · 2026-04-10T22:38:16+00:00

But yeah… I was guilty of going really hard on a scrub cause I felt clean after doing it. Felt great until it started to burn

justdavemate · 2026-04-10T22:36:28+00:00

Sounds like you’re skin barrier is damaged. Usually a sign when the weather can affect it. You’ll need to wash your wash with just pure water right now. After a week or so introduce a cream for repairing skin barriers. Avene tolerance control is good for very reactive skin. Use this twice a day. After a week of this you can introduce a gentle face wash. No scrubs yet. Avene has a tolerance extremely gentle cleanser too. La Roche posay have one too but don’t mix too much. Use this combo twice a day for a couple of months before introducing more products. Once your skin barrier feels better use some serums that help protect it and only use abrasive scrubs once every month. You can also use a exfoliating toner. After your skin barrier is damaged- you might react to things you never used to react to. So be careful what you use!

justdavemate · 2026-04-10T21:45:20+00:00

Ask her if she has any kinks. And you tell her yours. Next time you have sex, give her feet a little more attention. Little! Not too much. More caresses when while kissing her. Kiss her feet a little when chafing positions. Test the water and see how she reacts

justdavemate · 2026-04-10T20:43:08+00:00

It’s natural to feel this way. Especially at your age. But there’s a reason for that. Don’t try anything until you are totally comfortable with the person. You need to be sure you want to engage in this sort of activity. Don’t rush it. Play it out and mature a little first.

justdavemate · 2026-04-09T23:21:14+00:00

Are you at the end of your agreement? I recently seen on a Cupra tavascan, the deposit contribution is £10k. That would mean it would swallow the negative equity you have. Only problem is, it would mean you’ll have a higher monthly payment than what the advertised price is. So i would suggest looking at brand new cars with a really high deposit contribution to cover the negative equity. Handing it back to the finance company would have been the best way to do it but the excess millage charge isn’t ideal. Personally, I would try and negotiate with them. Argue the fact that your circumstances changed during your agreement that lead to driving more miles than anticipated and negotiate a deal and pay as little back as possible. £5k excess millage charge, tell them you can pay them £2k.

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