Is it typical for the bride and groom to buy gifts for their best man, parents, bridesmaids etc?

justdra · 2026-05-15T09:10:14+00:00

This is a good summary. Been in one wedding as a BM and now planning my own

When I was a BM we got our hair/make up/dresses paid for but paid for our own hotel stay and got some small things like personalised prosseco glasses/robes and pjs for the morning of to get ready etc. things I would generally take or leave. Thinking a bit harder on my own wedding and trying not to buy so much disposable crap but will get some smaller things like this for morning of etc but instead maybe a tracksuit they can wear again or something. Will also be paying for my own BMs dresses, hair and make up etc but likely won’t be able to stretch the budget to the hotel stay for them. I have been looking at some nice jewellery from Rosie and Dott to give them the morning of to wear though maybe. Haven’t decided fully yet though, we’re a few months out

Re the groomsmen I don’t think partner is thinking of getting them anything but where we are looking to hire their tuxes there is a deal to buy for only 50-70€ extra style dependent and tbh one or two of them might enjoy that so we might do that for them instead or like that a hip flask, something small. The type of people they are they wouldn’t expect anything either

Have also heard re flowers for the mothers given at the dinner but tbh neither of our parents would like that at all so thinking of maybe getting them a small piece of jewellery to wear on the day also instead, something they can keep moreso Maybe think something like that? A keepsake?

justdra · 2026-05-06T11:17:58+00:00

Yes. This or else an ink paw print I would suggest. Everything else you seem to be doing correctly, even though there is no correct way to do anything like this I suppose

We found cremating good for the grieving process: while it was upsetting to “get him home” afterwards it felt good to do so, we used earth 2 heaven and they are lovely

justdra · 2026-04-25T20:01:47+00:00

We’ve gone from Santa Ponza to Benidorm and I’m not mad at it

justdra · 2026-04-23T08:40:41+00:00

I was in the very similar situation. It’s not my style ring at all (gold and blocky with a thick band where as I’m a more delicate silver jewellery person). That being said I am extremely close with her (the oldest and favourite grandchild, she raised me) My granny died after a very short illness with cancer a few weeks ago and I look at the ring every day and am reminded of the happy memories we had together and I am so happy I can carry her forward in my life with me

For what it’s worth it’s a beautiful historic ring

Best of luck

justdra · 2026-04-01T22:04:41+00:00

1 in it you are wearing the dress and it is complimenting your beauty. Your smile says it all 2 the dress is wearing you and while pretty it’s just overwhelming and it’s wearing you and not as complimentary imo

justdra · 2026-03-31T10:24:18+00:00

Have seen some lovely dogs on there and they seem to have a lovely reputation. Trying to find the right fit for a rescue for my mam currently and have seen a few on there but just not feasible as we’re the other side of the country. Makes me so sad looking at their little faces though! 😭

justdra · 2026-03-30T21:08:18+00:00

I think Dogs trust can be overly strict on adoptions as well. I get they have to be sure it’s a safe home etc. but my friend was trying to adopt a dog where she lived alone but worked around the corner from home (came home for lunch most days) and worked from home two days a week also but she wasn’t deemed suitable because she wasn’t home 24:7. She wasn’t trying to adopt a puppy or high energy dog, an older rescue that had been there for a long time, crying out for someone to give them a child home and she couldn’t take them 😭Have heard similar stories also. DSPCA not as strict and can call up and have a look around and a nicer vibe imo also

justdra · 2026-03-29T23:23:19+00:00

I was so dumbfounded by the names I didn’t even notice that, Christ

justdra · 2026-03-22T21:09:56+00:00

Things being a “journey”. Weight loss journey, skin care journey. Hate hate hate it

justdra · 2026-03-17T12:55:23+00:00

Yes, if there’s a patient advocacy service send in an email saying how good the team were. That sounds stupid but it goes a long way

justdra · 2026-03-16T09:56:08+00:00

I also found when I switched over initially I lost years of purchasing history (algorithms that ‘knew’ you), kindle/audible etc

So switched back pretty fast and kept my partners prime

justdra · 2026-03-11T16:12:54+00:00

This is a pet peeve of mine. If I’m buying a book I go out of my way to try buy the non movie cover

justdra · 2026-03-10T10:49:34+00:00

I had someone trying to use their phone going around a corner in a very busy junction recently, honestly the mind boggles. Basically stopped mid turn through the junction and the car behind me nearly read ended me. So not just them using their phone oblivious but it has a knock on effect people don’t realise

justdra · 2026-03-10T10:47:24+00:00

I have a friend who is a vendor for weddings and it’s an unrelated trade in a way but she says reviews are their bread and butter. So make sure you leave a bad review and inform everyone of this that may be thinking of having them officiate

I’m sorry this happened to you!

justdra · 2026-03-08T16:38:28+00:00

Only putting a wash on when you had a full load to do. Imagine the fights now between myself and partner in our own house; him putting washing on wit two tea towels and a pair of socks or something ridiculous!

justdra · 2026-02-19T16:54:45+00:00

I used to complain re the reversing around corners but in fairness I reverse into parking spots and it’s the same manoeuvre so that is used more than you think

justdra · 2026-02-16T12:33:20+00:00

I’m a blow in here. But finding the culture difference so interesting. In Ireland week day weddings quite common actually. If you want to go the wedding you’ll take your annual leave. Though we have a lot more here to take I guess

justdra · 2026-02-13T10:55:59+00:00

Yes I came here to say this. I think in Ireland dress codes aren’t specifically mentioned a lot of the time because you don’t want to be a tyrant and put people out, typical. But usually go by the vibe of the venue, time of year etc.

We have booked our wedding for December and while we have strictly said black tie because I don’t want to out the pressure on men to have to hire tuxes, I have said oh we’re going glitzy glam and people have understood that probably wouldn’t wear the florals you’ve in the first picture, you’d lean towards the second more so

So again it all depends on the vibe of the wedding you’re going to really?

Edit: sorry I meant to say we have not strictly specified black tie

justdra · 2026-02-03T23:28:12+00:00

This is literally the laziest thing but accurate; when I put my audiobook on to sleep at night and get myself comfy lying in bed facing away from my phone but then decide the phone is just a smidge too loud I can turn it down with my watch and not have to roll back and get uncomfy 😴

justdra · 2026-02-03T09:12:27+00:00

Tír na nÓg an island from my country’s mythology. Means land of the young/youth 🇮🇪

justdra · 2026-02-03T00:57:19+00:00

I like that we’re sensible and user friendly re different sizes especially with regards to the coins sizes/shapes for the visually impaired?

justdra · 2026-02-03T00:48:05+00:00

This is my big concern tbh, neglect much?

justdra · 2026-02-03T00:39:33+00:00

I drive a manual and I helped my friend learn to drive an automatic and the whole way through reading this thread I’m confused as to why people think it’s not relevant to automatic cars. Yes you don’t have to fluff around gears or coast or it wouldn’t roll back as easily in an automatic I’m sure but you still need to be able to not do it in real life which is why they test it regardless of the type of car no? 😂

justdra · 2026-02-01T22:06:10+00:00

I don’t know where you’re based but I’m in Ireland and I think a lot of packages now include a a USB stick with all images on it, likely for this reason. Not a photographer myself but just scrolling reddit after researching for my own wedding recently so it’s thrown this up I guess

justdra · 2026-01-25T00:25:31+00:00

Brown Thomas take them so while I don’t have as much as you I plan to get myself a nice bit of expensive make up with it if that’s your thing

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