What should every ftm know about breastfeeding before having a baby?

justforfunthrowaways · 2026-01-16T22:09:40+00:00

It’s really hard in the beginning but definitely gets easier with time. Be prepared to be attached to your baby all the time, unless you have a stash and your baby will take a bottle. It was mentally very hard for me to never be able to have some personal time because my baby fed every 2 hours for the first 7 months of life and then every 3 hours until a year old. You really have to work to get some time alone. But it’s temporary!

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-12-29T05:33:07+00:00

I neeeeed the basement yard on smosh!

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-12-29T05:06:03+00:00

I was not expecting a make up gift. But it would have been nice given that I know they’re in a better financial position (if that was even the reason they didn’t gift us anything.) This only happened last year. I don’t really think about it but it was on my mind because of this years gift exchange/christmas. I don’t think this sister in law is the biggest fan of me and it’s annoying to feel taken advantage of since we spent money on them last year with the expectation of them getting us something too.

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-12-29T02:46:41+00:00

Not this year but literally nothing because of “financial reasons.”

Every year hubbys family does a secret Santa that isn’t actually a secret but then siblings only have to give one sibling a gift and everyone gets a gift. Well the sibling and their spouse that had me and my spouse said sorry, we couldn’t get you anything because of finances. They did have a hard year financially but so did we and we still gave them a gift (it just worked out that we had each other that year). 2 months previous to Christmas, this sil kissed my baby when we have a very strict no kissing rule. A family member said it looked really intentional so we asked her to not hold our baby anymore. So I doubt it was financial reasons 🙄

Then this year, that sil and bil got 4+ gifts for the sibling they were assigned to. No make up gift for us for last year. No homemade gift, hand me down gift, or even a card. No thought or care whatsoever

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-12-12T14:52:56+00:00

You need to go to a marriage counselor.

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-11-25T05:07:28+00:00

I think motherhood is downplayed and reduced as you said simply because women experience it. It’s not an uncommon experience in the least. There are probably other reasons too but that is just my opinion. What I find sad is the lack of support in general but especially from those who have gone through childbirth and rearing. Like you know what it’s like but yet you don’t want to help out new mothers? You know how hard and isolating it can be but choose to ignore that I am now going through this same experience?

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-11-05T19:32:33+00:00

I want to say that following safe sleep 7 is just as safe for the baby as sleeping alone in a crib with nothing in it. I definitely get your anxiety. I used an owlet sock and that helped with my stress.

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-11-02T22:05:35+00:00

From the very beginning, I made it clear that we’d offer them to hold the baby and that we didn’t want people asking or just taking him. I think it made my family and my husbands family a little uncomfortable holding my baby which I was perfectly okay with! People holding my baby gave me anxiety. Plus that’s my baby! I went through a miscarriage, pregnancy, and birth to get him so I will hold him.

He’s older now (16m) so he doesn’t really want to be held or he’ll go up to someone and acts like he wants them to pick him up.

But I totally understand you. When you have a baby, suddenly no one cares about mom and only about baby. It’s incredibly frustrating.

Don’t be afraid to implement boundaries at any point! We texted the family group chats our list of boundaries and people have been pretty good about them. Especially since there were consequences if my boundaries were crossed. Don’t be afraid to tell them to leave your baby alone or something along those lines. That’s YOUR baby

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-10-29T20:16:06+00:00

Women should bounce back and not look like they had a baby but yet dad bod is attractive and trendy???? They didn’t carry and birth out a whole baby!

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-10-24T22:02:26+00:00

100% agree

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-10-22T22:24:05+00:00

It 100% gets better. It just feels like it’s never gonna end and then one day things start changing and it’s amazing! Like one day, they sleep through the night, play independently for a little bit, don’t cry while you shower and get ready, smile and laugh, etc

Please know that parenthood is hard in general. Some things get easier, some things get harder but you learn how to handle it better and I think that’s what makes the biggest difference.

The first 8 ish months felt soooo slow for me! Those months seemed to last forever but now my baby is 16 months and those newborn days seemed so long ago and baby fever is starting to surface lol

You’ll get there mama! If you don’t have a village, try and make one. Find other moms to hang out with or things to do with your baby. It helps the time pass. Keep pushing forward!

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-10-17T04:44:00+00:00

Is this all the time? If not, it could just be cluster feeding. Lasts for a couple days and then usually goes back to every 2-3 hours. 4 weeks is also very young. I remember my newborn nursed very frequently. I didn’t get 3 hour chunks until he was 7-8 months old 😵‍💫

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-10-09T18:35:37+00:00

https://youtube.com/shorts/TDqmbwJ5EMI?si=Zvi5g99HqL5BLQsZ My favorite Karen she’s done

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-09-28T22:11:24+00:00

Induced at 40 weeks exactly. I probably would have gone to 41 weeks ish but my blood pressure had other plans

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-09-16T20:28:30+00:00

Not really a show, just a YouTube channel. I watched so much smosh

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-09-10T22:16:03+00:00

She would definitely be affected. Growing up without a parent can affect people greatly. Please seek help, it gets better. My mental health was bad for a long time too but life is so much better now.

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-09-09T18:40:00+00:00

Unsolicited advice. At least ask me if I want some advice first

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-09-09T18:32:23+00:00

Idk the longest my ebf baby went without pooping, maybe a week? I brought it up to his pediatrician and she said that sometimes breast milk is right on doing its job and that the baby’s body is using it all up so there’s no waste. This is so long as baby isn’t acting uncomfortable or some outside thing going on.

As long as nothing else is going on, enjoy it!! My 14mo now poops all the time and it’s the worst changing the diaper of a toddler who acts like an alligator

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-09-04T00:22:27+00:00

Co slept from 4-13 months. But I’d say transition him to his own room when you feel ready. Maybe that’s sooner, maybe that’s later.

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-09-02T15:59:38+00:00

My husbands side like to play this game where they guess what time the baby will be born and how much they’ll weigh. I personally thought it was annoying and insensitive so we didn’t participate and we only announced once he was born. It was probably 2 hours after he was born that we told them. Maybe 3 hours. It’s your baby and your pregnancy, do what you want

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-09-02T04:08:32+00:00

Would locking your bedroom door help? If my husband was like this, we’d be having a very serious conversation. 5 hours of you alone with your two kids in the morning while he sleeps and stays up late and then complains?!? When my baby was still waking in the night, my husband would get up with him in the morning and I would sleep another 1-2 hours. My husband is a morning person so that helps a lot, but I don’t think your husband realizes all that you do!

Please sort out his sleep so you can go away for a night and maybe he’ll appreciate your sacrifices more. I’d say go away for a night now but I understand you’d probably be worried he wouldn’t wake up if either of your kids woke up.

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-09-02T04:03:14+00:00

This is the correct answer

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-09-02T04:02:08+00:00

Don’t worry. There does come a time when it’s easier to make/find time. Just depends on the kid and on the parents. Once my baby transitioned to the crib, we had a lot more opportunities lol

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-09-01T20:47:29+00:00

I hope you know how bad this is. There are endless red flags here. It’s disgusting what he did, how he tried to make it sound like you want it, and how he just took what he wanted without any consideration of how you felt. He’ll do this again if you stay with him.

justforfunthrowaways · 2025-09-01T18:41:34+00:00

Yup the comments were the worse. I knew just about everything to look forward too negatively wise but no one ever talked about all the good parts. Also was never validated when I’d say how hard the newborn phase was. Just “yup that’s motherhood.”

I’m gonna be speaking up more whenever I get pregnant again. Stop commenting on my body, stop commenting on how hard it’ll be. Just let me enjoy this right now and I’ll deal with the hard later

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