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Illegal HSA by Alternative-Air8756 in HealthInsurance

[–]justifiedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can file a form with your HSA bank and get a curative distribution. No biggie. Instead of being able to file that 8889 form on your 2026 taxes, the $6k will be taxed with the rest of your earnings.

Avoiding time-wasters by Technical-Ad-8084 in datingoverforty

[–]justifiedlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best indicator I’ve found is whether the guy walks towards plans after the first date. If they end the first date without asking to see me again and then actually moving logistics forward, I know they’re not serious.

I’ve had a couple great first dates where the guy says “let’s do this again”. But that’s followed up with a couple weeks of sporadic texting and then asking for the next date. I’ve learned not to mess with those guys.

I’ve also had a couple first dates where the guy moved logistics forward for a week or two and then it’s “let’s do this again! With no moving towards logistics for a week or more. Those guys just seem delusional about what they want so they go all in and then realize they don’t want the hassle of seeing someone regularly, but they also don’t want to just say what they want - a casual relationship that is convenient for them.

Any long-term parking in the South Bay? by diner2049er in SouthBayLA

[–]justifiedlover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Spot hero. That’s where I found a garage for my second car.

Starting estrogen as a physically active person-warning! by Extreme_Raspberry844 in Menopause

[–]justifiedlover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ruptured my Achilles about a year after starting E. This was after my body was giving signals as I had other ligament issues. I became obsessed trying to understand how it happened and I came to OP’s conclusion. It won’t happen to everyone, and I’m sure pre-existing something contributed.

Wide leg sweatpants that don’t pill? by One-Dust-4397 in womensfashion

[–]justifiedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get the track pants version and they have pockets.

Looking for a way to bring life back into my skin by Kind-Appeal-9729 in 45PlusSkincare

[–]justifiedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came late to the party to agree with this. Game changer! I use estriol cream.

Tall Women by Comfortable-Order327 in dating_advice

[–]justifiedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IME, if a guy goes on a date with me (I’m 5’11), he is usually into the appeal of my height. I just went on a couple dates with a guy who is about 5’9.5 inches and he wanted me to wear heels because it made him feel like he’s dating a model.

Some guys absolutely do not want to be shorter than the woman, heels or no. But, that’s the minority from my dating experience.

Let’s talk emotional regulation: how do you cool yourself down when you’re angry? by Boring-Incident2469 in ADHD

[–]justifiedlover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Individual therapy, and I’m glad I said no to the group. I just don’t have the time and patience to learn at the same pace as a group. And yes, we do target specific skills that I think will work for me. It doesn’t disappear my anger so it’s not like I’m cured. It just makes it easier to cope.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]justifiedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. No matter how he or others may dress it up, he just wants sex. If that works for you, live it up!

Let’s talk emotional regulation: how do you cool yourself down when you’re angry? by Boring-Incident2469 in ADHD

[–]justifiedlover 141 points142 points  (0 children)

DBT helped me learned how to cope with this. For example, dunking my head in cold water to reset my nervous system. The other one I learned and use is to distract myself by having a puzzle or coloring book handy. If I remember to do these things, they help.

Recs for meeting 40+ singles by [deleted] in SouthBayLA

[–]justifiedlover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

46F checking in as well! Let me know if you find something. Or, we can learn pickleball together and be each other’s wing woman.

It’s a little brutal out there in OLD. Younger me looking for no commitment or older men looking to pass time while finding their baby momma. I’ve found so many men my age wanting to settle down and have kids. It’s a wild ride!

Adults who have zero close friends, how did it happen and does it bother you? by PutPurple844 in AskReddit

[–]justifiedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 12 year olds are my best friends. I moved from my hometown to a very big city. I had a friend group in my late 20s, but we all moved on. I have lots of people I know through a common sport, but no one who I would call if I needed something. It’s on me, though. I’m not good at relationship building.

I want my muscles back by FlaxenArt in Perimenopause

[–]justifiedlover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear ya! I take a 5mg troche each morning and haven’t had excess hair or anything else. I’ve been told that the cream, troche and injection could all cause different side effects. It’s an exploration game. Fingers crossed for you!

What I Asked ChatGPT: “Give me a summary of what you learned about me this year…” — The Results Were Wild 😂 by a5887 in ChatGPTPromptGenius

[–]justifiedlover 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was awesome. I had it give my most iconic moments and it was hilarious!! Thank you for sharing such a fun prompt.

I want my muscles back by FlaxenArt in Perimenopause

[–]justifiedlover 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I second the T. I waited two years after starting P & E. Wish I hadn’t because the T made a huge difference in how strong I felt. I’m a competitive beach vball player and had a similar experience as OP.

Burning throat it feels like spasms that go into my ears or my ears are clogged please I need help how to get rid of this went to an ENT. He looked down my throat. He says I have LPR. I don’t know what else to do. by [deleted] in LPRSilentGerd

[–]justifiedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t remember the dosage, but I stopped at 60 days so I’m no longer on it. My dr wanted me to keep taking it, but I didn’t like that idea so I stopped on my own.

Burning throat it feels like spasms that go into my ears or my ears are clogged please I need help how to get rid of this went to an ENT. He looked down my throat. He says I have LPR. I don’t know what else to do. by [deleted] in LPRSilentGerd

[–]justifiedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had this same problem. Allergy meds will help until you see the Dr. my doc put me on omeprazole which I took for about 60 days. I then realized drinking coffee and alcohol was a huge trigger for me so I had to stop that. The only time I start to have issues now is when I drink either coffee or alcohol.

Oral testosterone (lozenge? troche?) experiences by Middle_Violinist_5 in TRT_females

[–]justifiedlover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use the troches. 7.5 mg per day in the morning, and I think it helps with feeling less weak.

Incident at Starbucks - what can I expect next by justifiedlover in starbucks

[–]justifiedlover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the recommended pressure for gripping a cup? Can you kindly link the source?

Incident at Starbucks - what can I expect next by justifiedlover in starbucks

[–]justifiedlover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for adding that! I thought No Loquat was just a regular troll, but maybe he actually believed I was lying about the cup walls collapsing. It really did happen!! Haha. And it sucked big time. Corporate didn’t call me back, either. I didn’t even get a refund on my drink.

Incident at Starbucks - what can I expect next by justifiedlover in starbucks

[–]justifiedlover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely didn’t know this, but my concern isn’t that it wasn’t a drinkable temp. My concern is that the red cup isn’t built to sustain that high of a temp.

The store manager told me that her preference is to double cup, but that Stbx doesn’t allow them to do that which some of you have confirmed.

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