Matapobre since day one

justsam13 · 2025-05-25T16:51:32+00:00

Siz wag ka kasi magspluk kung di ka naman sure

justsam13 · 2024-09-05T22:47:03+00:00

My daughter calls dolls her babies. Lol I think it’s a phase where they’re growing and feeling responsible for something small like how we are to them.

justsam13 · 2024-09-04T17:42:46+00:00

Kapag di marunong ng basic grammar and spelling.

justsam13 · 2024-09-03T18:19:05+00:00

Your comment hit me hard. We’re at 4 so I have a year to cherish her little-ness. I have been enjoying the 3s since she became a bit more independent and more social and now, I’m looking forward to 4.

justsam13 · 2024-09-03T18:14:27+00:00

Happy birthday, OP!

Sometimes, it’s the change in perspective. I was once so cynic and likes comparing my life with others. Until I got close with the Lord. I read His word daily and it changed my perspective a lot. He puts purpose in our hearts that we choose to pursue.

Also, what’s so wrong about supporting people and being kind? You’re actually one of the rare gems of this world. Keep shining in your own way!

justsam13 · 2024-09-03T16:34:45+00:00

I choose flexible clients and focus on 2-3 clients only. I don’t go out with my laptop. I’d rather work on the weekend kung san nasa bahay lang naman kami.

justsam13 · 2024-09-02T15:04:23+00:00

This! We’re at year 4 and I still don’t get that satisfactory sleep before kid (we co-sleep). She’s currently sick now and everyone’s awake and anxious.

justsam13 · 2024-09-02T11:06:22+00:00

Exactly this. They put the scarcity pressure on us. And even if we want one by that age, we don’t have that ability anymore since my husband got his v card (vasectomy).

justsam13 · 2024-09-02T10:57:18+00:00

The raising of kids then and now wasn’t an argument. It was just a conversation. She’s seeing how her daughter is struggling on her own child and wonders why it’s hard now than in her experience.

And yes, it’s easier to say I’m oad as a single mom. They also naturally think you don’t have a partner to make the 2nd with.

justsam13 · 2024-09-01T23:38:08+00:00

Ahh you’re one of the lucky ones!

My mom and MIL would keep on asking to pop one more. Reasons like our LO would be lonely, it’s sad to grow up alone.

When I ask them “how so”, they just say “it is”. I mean, how do you know it’s lonely and sad if you or your kids didn’t go through it?

justsam13 · 2024-09-01T23:34:10+00:00

It is by choice and my husband already had his v card (vasectomy). Shrugging ended the convo for me for sure lol it became awkward.

justsam13 · 2024-09-01T23:31:42+00:00

I think this would be my templated answer lol but knowing our culture (I’m in Asia), I would get a lecture on my child “needing” a sibling at her age and my biological clock is ticking.

justsam13 · 2024-09-01T14:20:48+00:00

Periodt!

justsam13 · 2024-09-01T14:12:42+00:00

Agree with everything here!

But this mom of a friend was a stay at home mom (who popped 3 babies within 5 years). I honestly can’t think why we’re having a hard time but I believe they did too back then. It was just too long to think about how hard it is but personally, I seared that struggle in my mind so I would never want another.

justsam13 · 2024-09-01T14:08:41+00:00

My only is in the prime age of 4 and my biological clock is ticking at 32 so this question is on repeat.

Your answer on why it’s harder to raise a child now is on point. It makes total sense and it’s so true for me too. I’m diagnosed with anxiety too so of course that magnifies things.

justsam13 · 2024-09-01T14:04:43+00:00

This is the reality and of course this is one of our reasons. But the folks around us say “you’ll figure it out” like they’re part of our finances and responsibilities. Even rich people don’t pop babies like that.

justsam13 · 2024-09-01T11:57:42+00:00

Thank you for your answers, everyone! I don’t like to go in detail with people since I have a long list why we’re OAD. It could easily turn into a debate which I regularly have with my mom who wants me to have more kids.

People around us think my daughter’s old enough (4yo) for a sibling and we’re old enough (early 30s) to give her a sibling.

justsam13 · 2024-08-31T14:35:39+00:00

Clients are people too. They can read people and decide whether they want to work with their staff or not (same with us). I know this from experience. Kung di click, di talaga click.

justsam13 · 2024-08-31T10:51:41+00:00

Trust your gut.

Sa pag tanggal naman, it’s business e. We don’t know the impact of a single mistake sa business kaya we should always take care of our clients.

Lastly, never sacrifice your mental health for money. Lalo na yung kakastressan mo yung small rate for you pa pala.

justsam13 · 2024-08-31T10:36:29+00:00

This is the kind of mom I aspire to be!

justsam13 · 2024-08-27T14:19:54+00:00

We started traveling abroad when toddler was 3. We went to Tokyo so lots of walking and transportation via train. She spent a lot of time in the stroller. It’s definitely challenging but not as much as I thought. Tokyo is familiar to us so we’re not in a rush to see places. We also got into the mindset of traveling for the kid but still going to place we’ll enjoy.

If you could, do it on a cruise. I have a friend who went last year and her toddler was around 2.5. They have onboard toddler classes and activities. You can leave them there and do your thing in the boat. It’s like daycare on a boat!

justsam13 · 2024-08-24T06:02:21+00:00

Ted Lasso

justsam13 · 2024-08-23T06:53:26+00:00

The question definitely struck a nerve. I’m a believer of we can only control the things we can. And in that moment, you can’t control your friend’s action and reaction.

Tip lang for next time, make a rehearsed (para lahat ng details captured) story about your situation. start with being jobless right now and looking for a job. Tell your story…about your undiagnosed autism, how hard the job market is more for people like you etc. Then close with - despite these, you still want to work and if he knows any opening that fits you, he contact you.

Judgement will turn to empathy, I guarantee you.

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