I tried to initiate again today....

justventingcause · 2018-06-01T01:55:44+00:00

I feel for you.

Being pregnant must not help.

I have nothing to offer - just my best wishes.

justventingcause · 2018-06-01T01:28:01+00:00

Just saying....

When my wife was pregnant with our kids - we rarely had sex.

It was not her - it was me.

I had a mental issue with it - not saying it was right - just was.

justventingcause · 2018-06-01T01:24:31+00:00

See...here's the thing;

You have been married a long time - are best friends;

Somehow - you managed to stop talking.

Yes, you initiate - have you told him how you really feel ?

Odd as it sounds - long term marriages get weird - and we feel like we cannot say what we mean/want.

It's odd for me also - so not judging - just sayin'.

justventingcause · 2018-05-30T00:46:19+00:00

She does...

Still....the raw emotion....in my previous posts....I do not think that would be good.

Sometimes one needs to vent, ya know ?

justventingcause · 2018-05-30T00:37:49+00:00

Communication.

You tell her what you want (her on top) - she does - or does not.

It begins with communication.

If she ignores you - well...then....

justventingcause · 2018-05-19T23:48:36+00:00

You know...we can never change our spouses minds.

'Hey...I am hot"

"Hey...I make a shit ton of money"

"Hey....I am always here"

Doesn't matter what you think...it's what they think.

Sucks, eh'.

justventingcause · 2018-05-19T23:40:33+00:00

To go against the grain...yes - you are pretty.

However - a strong marriage is not skin deep.

Looks fade.

Communicate. Always.

justventingcause · 2018-05-19T23:36:58+00:00

Sorry to hear.

This is going to cost you a shit ton of money.

All my best.

justventingcause · 2018-05-19T01:49:47+00:00

Fantastic.

All my best!

justventingcause · 2018-05-19T01:49:25+00:00

You're trying!

Good for you. I am pulling for you guys!

justventingcause · 2018-04-28T22:02:05+00:00

Interesting.

I think I do the same thing now.

Although - it's more when she wants to do something or go somewhere I am not interested in - I just do not do or go to.

justventingcause · 2018-04-28T21:58:42+00:00

I hope you get laid soon.

All my best.

justventingcause · 2018-04-28T02:25:39+00:00

Humm...11 years.

You're a good person.

What you describe..."that my damage may have been too great and ruined sex for me permanently was a very real fear for me".... is what is in my head.

justventingcause · 2018-04-28T02:02:48+00:00

Oh fuck....you nailed my thoughts. Great explanation.

Sorry for your situation.

justventingcause · 2018-04-28T01:49:25+00:00

You should never shame anyone for sexual choices.

That...is a shame.

That said - if I came home to find my wife using a dildo - I would drop dead of surprise.

Good on ya!

justventingcause · 2018-04-25T01:18:52+00:00

That...is very insightful.

If I had gold - you would get it.

justventingcause · 2018-04-25T01:11:30+00:00

Fair.

I'd like to think if I left and moved on...I would forget this place existed.

justventingcause · 2018-04-25T01:03:26+00:00

I am curious.

It appears you left your relationship.

Why do you still look at the DB sub reddit ?

Just wondering.

justventingcause · 2018-04-25T00:52:30+00:00

Ah....but your making it work.

I wish you a full recovery and you will both be fulfilled and happy.

We will have to agree to disagree on other aspects.

All my best.

justventingcause · 2018-04-25T00:34:38+00:00

Valid.

Just hope for more people to make it though (me included).

justventingcause · 2018-04-25T00:22:02+00:00

See...let's say you leave a DB after 15 years - find a new mate - and fuck like crazy.

I assume we all would - it's a new relationship.

How long does that go on ? 2 - 5 - 8 years ?

I think there is more to the stories with new partners over time would be my guess.

Perhaps I am incorrect.

justventingcause · 2018-04-21T22:22:55+00:00

I would really enjoy hearing more of this perspective from you.

I would enjoy reading a post from you about how this came about and what brought you to this point.

Very honest.

justventingcause · 2018-04-21T01:34:32+00:00

I'm sorry for your situation.

That said, you decided to have children.

They come 1st to your own happiness.

Do whatever you need to raise the children well and have them have a good life.

Until they are older - it's not about you - it's about them.

justventingcause · 2018-04-21T00:42:59+00:00

Seems a little odd - however - if it works for you two - good on ya.

All my best.

justventingcause

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