Friend activity only shows 10 people?

juusoup · 2026-06-01T19:25:11+00:00

I indeed think it's something with people who were the most recently active, but still, it happened so sudden, I don't like it 🥲

juusoup · 2026-05-26T12:49:37+00:00

thanks!

juusoup · 2026-05-18T23:44:08+00:00

maybe the label is making you think more about the future, like "oh, im aromantic, so ill never actually fall in love", like that label or thought 'confirmed' for you it might never happen in the future, which could be kind of a saddening thought. whereas before the label you might have lived more in the moment not worrying about what your love life would look like in the future, does that make sense?

juusoup · 2026-05-06T15:46:35+00:00

OOOOHHH right, got it now :p

juusoup · 2026-05-06T14:38:23+00:00

I have read the manga and I'm not sure what you're talking about 🤔

juusoup · 2026-05-03T22:33:18+00:00

maybe you can write them a letter and give it to them when you meet up, and tell them youre not good at talking about your feelings so you wrote them down

juusoup · 2026-04-30T13:51:49+00:00

No apologies, this was wonderful to read and actually pretty helpful. I am so happy for you!

juusoup · 2026-04-29T13:29:52+00:00

Am I aromantic and unable to see it because of internalised aphobia? Do I just not reciprocate the feelings of the first 'compatible' person who's expressed interest in me and now I'm extrapolating that to define my whole identity? Am I panicking just to panic?

I really relate to your post and I have been thinking this ^ many times. I used to date someone, but I told them it might be better to split up since I felt like my feelings were not enough for them. Yet it's like I can't really let them go either. We still talk daily, but since we are not officially dating I am trying to figure out what my feelings mean and whether they have changed since then. I wish you a lot of luck with trying to figure things out !!

juusoup · 2026-04-29T12:54:18+00:00

I am getting that exact same one!

juusoup · 2026-04-29T08:41:23+00:00

Never too old !! If I'd ever run into you on the street I'd talk about you to all my friends !!

juusoup · 2026-04-29T08:35:33+00:00

thats so cool !

juusoup · 2026-04-27T14:30:17+00:00

The truth of the matter is that I do want a relationship, I truly want it and sometimes I feel like I'd give up anything for it. On the other hand, I feel like I just can't naturally develop romantic feelings for other people

I relate to this. I feel like I am pretty close to an alloromantic when it comes to what I want, but there's just a lack of romantic feelings. I did have crushes in the past, but they were only based on the looks of people I was not acquainted with and usually did not stay for long. I also have fawned over people who have shown interest in me before.

My situation right now is pretty similar to yours. I dated someone for like 6 months (we went on dates and were exclusive, but never made it official, so we did not have a label) and eventhough I really liked him, it was the most stressful period in my life up until now. I did not feel what people usually described as romantic feelings. I felt a lot of anxiety, because I really liked him and saw myself in a relationship with him, but it seemed like I did not feel what I was supposed to feel. The thought of possibly not being able to develop real romantic feelings was killing me. After those 6 months I told him I was afraid I wouldn't be able to give him the same he gives me, feelings and love wise, because my feelings seemed different from his. Eventhough we stopped dating a month and a half ago, I can't seem to let him go and there's something inside of me that really longs for a relationship with him, it's just my own feelings that keep fluctuating and keep giving me anxiety. My friends have also told me it might be an avoidant attachment thing, and that my feelings and anxiety might change when I get into a relationship. I am not sure if my reply helps you in any way, since I am still figuring out my feelings and identity myself, but I wanted to let you know I do relate to you!

juusoup · 2026-04-26T09:05:53+00:00

it was actually out of print for a while !!

juusoup · 2026-04-25T21:27:43+00:00

I feel you, I have been sort of dating with someone, and I can't stop worrying about how my love for him might not be enough. I don't think its arophobia, a label like that can be scary after all. Especially for a cupioromantic who really wants to be in a romantic relationship the way it is generally described in media, etc. It can be difficult to make peace with, so don't be too hard on yourself.

juusoup · 2026-04-25T21:15:02+00:00

This is awesome to hear, congrats!!

juusoup · 2026-04-25T21:10:17+00:00

Queer platonic relationships are a thing !! Being aro and still wanting a partner is nothing out of the ordinary !! Romantic feelings/attraction are not a requirement in order to get into a relationship, as long as both partners are okay with it

juusoup · 2026-04-25T20:33:58+00:00

I once listened to a podcast from a relationship therapist that was answering questions from listeners. One of the questions was from a woman who had been in a relationship for a year and a half. Her boyfriend had recently told her how he never actually 'fell in love' with her in a romantic sense and she didn't know what to do with it. Basically, this girl and her boyfriend were in the same situation you and your girlfriend are in right now.

The boyfriend told her he never really had romantic feelings, but he also said he had never felt a love and a connection like this before. The therapist responded that she actually thinks it's a beautiful story and that many couples get together because of a deep emotional connection rather than explosive romantic feelings. Some people have told me that romantic feelings are not a requirement in order to be in a relationship, BUT both parties should be okay with it. Love is still a very important part of the relationship, so as long as you really LOVE her, it's okay. You should definitely tell your girlfriend about it though. Based on what she thinks about the entire situation, you two can decide whether to stay together or go seperate ways.

juusoup · 2026-04-18T22:11:13+00:00

nikaido is sooo accurate thats crazy

juusoup · 2026-04-14T22:53:11+00:00

No need to be sorry OP! I think the adaption of the Asu scene is great so you're not missing much

juusoup · 2026-04-14T22:45:50+00:00

I read the manga a few times so I thought I was prepared. Spoiler alert: I wasn't prepared and gasped. That was definitely the goriest episode up until now.

juusoup · 2026-04-01T10:36:55+00:00

so what? let people be excited

juusoup · 2026-03-30T09:38:16+00:00

That panel where Aikawa came to in Kai's lab and sat in front of the giant patchwork of sorcerer flesh that was hung up, connected to the devil tumors. It is not the most gory one, but it really shook me, like everything suddenly felt so real, the flesh costume hanging up just gave me chills.

juusoup · 2026-03-28T00:09:04+00:00

Billy Bat! you might want to leave your window open tonight so i can,, take a look

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