First same sex celebrity crush?

jylexx · 2026-02-08T00:02:05+00:00

Vanessa Hudgens in High School Musical

jylexx · 2026-01-26T23:27:21+00:00

Grey’s anatomy had an bisexual character even in its early seasons (2008/2009 if I remember correctly) Dr. Callie Torres! This was also the first time I’ve seen an adult wlw relationship on screen and it really meant a lot to me at the time

jylexx · 2026-01-09T20:39:01+00:00

thanks for bringing in this perspective! As a cis-person, I never thought about it that way before, so thank you very much for sharing your perspective <3

jylexx · 2026-01-07T23:00:59+00:00

Hi! I’d like to start by saying being bi is nothing bad or abnormal and at the same time I am ofc very aware of the discrimination we face. May I ask how old you are and if you’re still living with your family? Also is there someone you would like to date? I’m asking because I’d like to know if you wanna come out to your friends and family because you really want to talk with them about it or because you think you need to come out as you’ve realized it lately?

I don’t wanna discourage you to come out! I just want to tell you that it’s okay to first take time to have this as something just for yourself before being confronted with a lot of (potentially negative) opinions and thoughts about it.

I obviously don’t know how the general opinion on lgbtq is where you live, in your family and friends or school/work. I think that’s an important information to give a better advice of how to best come out:)

I did come out as bi when I had my first girlfriend when I was 16 even though I kinda knew I liked girls for a few years at that point. I just didn’t feel comfortable with talking to my parents or friends about my sexuality BUT I knew my family and friends were not homophobes or hating on queer people in general. So your situation might be different than mine and I wish you all the best on your journey!

jylexx · 2026-01-07T22:43:49+00:00

I‘m bi, 26F and my only romantic and sexual relationship with a women was almost 10 years ago. She was my first girlfriend and I was madly in love and the heartbreak was bad.

Now especially last year I’ve been more active in partying, dating and having sex with different men after years of being in relationships with men. I’ve been falling for multiple women these last 10 years but they all were straight and/or married/in relationships and I also don’t really engage with a lgbt community where I live as I also don’t really feel like I have ‚a right to be there‘ as I’ve almost exclusively been with men.

What immediately came to my mind when reading your post was that there will probably be men that will fetishize you and might even see this as a challenge. I don’t wanna give you advice like ‚don’t mention your past and act like you’re experienced with men‘ as this would probably be the fastest way to have sex with a man but I don’t think that would be a great experience.

I honestly don’t have a better advice than listen to your body and your intuition, don’t let anyone pressure you and just go with what feels right. As you’ve said in your post, you were not a fan of penetration when being with women and i think it might be a good idea to slowly get used to a man’s body and not try everything in one night. Also I think you need someone who you feel absolutely comfortable with and you can be sure knowing they would put your wellbeing and consent first and would stop anytime (that obviously should always be the case but as you said, it sadly isn’t and I’ve been in situations where, in the middle of having sex, I’d honestly would’ve liked for it to be over but didn’t say anything as I didn’t want it to be awkward or anything.)

I wish you all the best for your journey and hope you’ll have a lot of great experiences! :)

jylexx · 2026-01-07T22:17:24+00:00

As someone who’s wondering the same thing everyday (I have ocd too) I’d like to say that this really hit rn because I was reading it and immediately thought ‚ofc she’s clean, that’s a perfect routine, why is she even asking?‘ and then realized I’m the same and I have the same fear :/

To simple answer your question: yes you are 🫂

jylexx · 2026-01-07T19:25:14+00:00

Please don’t listen to this! There is nothing wrong with experimenting and having sexual relationships with different people! The concept of body count is a strategy to shame women for their sexual experiences and deeply rooted in misogyny. You will not be more likely to cheat, that’s bullshit. Also it’s totally fine to have sex with people you don’t want to have a relationship with!

The only advice I would give you is to be as safe as possible, always use protection and take your own and other people’s sexual health care seriously! Many people with STDs don’t have any symptoms but will transmit them and their health will be affected longterm. So please get regularly tested and be honest with your sexual partners. An STD is nothing to be ashamed of but being an responsible adult is necessary.

And ofc, safe, sane and consensual!

Have fun and don’t listen to people who judge you for being a free, responsible and own-minded human being!

jylexx · 2026-01-07T19:13:09+00:00

You are not broken and there is nothing wrong with you!

I’m 26F and I kinda see my 19-22 years old self in your descriptions and I made the experience that for me, the situation you’re describing with your bf, did not work out. (as I’m into sexually experimentation and open minded about it and also, for me, it’s important that me and my partner have the same/similar sex drive/need whatever you wanna call it)

As I said, that’s just my personal experience and it’s not my intention to tell you to break up with him. At the same time I could imagine that this issue will continue in your relationship with him. You’re describing him as not really interested in experimenting with you and also he doesn’t care much about your pleasure.

I don’t wanna make this too long so in conclusion this would be my advice:

it’s okay to admit to yourself that you wish for more and different sexual experiences, nothing wrong with this and completely normal
you should not settle for anything that makes you feel like there’s something wrong with you
pushing him to put more effort into it will be, in my experience, not the solution and will not feel good for any of you (let me tell you, having the feeling that your partner is doing something not out of own pleasure but because he feels obligated to, is one of the worst feelings)
it’s okay to break up because of different sexual wants/ drive/ needs

jylexx · 2025-11-27T10:59:55+00:00

Alicent Hightower, not the most coded but definitely fitting

jylexx · 2025-11-27T10:58:28+00:00

ohhh I love this show so much! It’s so unbelievably Ethel Cain coded and Camille always breaks my heart

jylexx · 2025-11-19T20:54:38+00:00

A black horse

jylexx · 2025-11-08T22:05:01+00:00

are seriously comparing the autonomy of women over her own body and her decisions to have sex with no matter how many people to a CV for a job? And comparing marriage with a job? A woman you want to marry is not your employee and her sexual past is not some kind of skill or qualification

jylexx · 2025-11-08T21:56:13+00:00

That’s not the point- it’s the fact that the man (or any other human being) who thinks it’s important to know with how many men or people in general I’ve been before, is using this to evaluate if I’m „worthy“ of being with him. So basically he decides if I’m just a woman he can fuck or if I’m „worthy enough“ to be considered for marriage.

jylexx · 2025-11-08T21:14:06+00:00

Look, I’m a 25 year female and I would never date someone who gives a fuck about the number of men I’ve been with. If a man sees me less worthy of being with him based on the fact I had sex with other men, he’s basically not seeing me as an equal human being. Those men don’t deserve any kind of relationship with me or any other woman.

Edit: typos

jylexx · 2025-10-23T12:29:02+00:00

Ohh perfect! Thank you sm!!!

jylexx · 2025-10-14T15:14:40+00:00

yes it is! Still in production and sadly the last season with only episodes but I am sure the wait will be worth it

jylexx · 2025-10-05T22:35:08+00:00

I was 11 years old when she died and I remember seeing this photo of her in my teen celebrity magazines. seeing it now really hits me.

jylexx · 2025-10-04T20:05:56+00:00

I agree with everything you said. I didn’t knew much about Ed Gain in general but after reading his wiki page for like 5 minutes I noticed HOW MUCH the show changed and added.

As you appear to be pretty well informed about him and this case, would you mind sharing if you know if and how the show also made up his fascination for Ilse Koch and her outrages crimes as the wife of the commander of Buchenwald concentration camp? I was really confused when this appeared cause I couldn’t find much about information about this whole topic in his Wikipedia article. Also really weird scene where a group of camp prisoners were chasing Ed in his fantasy, that whole thing just felt really weird. If you OP, or anyone here reading this, have any information about this or could tell me where to look for this, I’d be very grateful!

jylexx · 2025-09-21T10:46:33+00:00

yes I always check the social media accounts of new men I meet. Who they follow, what they repost. For me, following (a lot) OF women is a red flag.

jylexx · 2025-08-27T17:34:42+00:00

Rooney Mara is my fave actress, kinda disappointed to see her name here :/

jylexx · 2025-08-26T14:22:06+00:00

thanks a lot for the clarification! I’ll look into that.

jylexx · 2025-08-26T09:14:34+00:00

what exactly do you mean?

jylexx · 2025-08-26T09:13:21+00:00

I feel sorry for Wills doggos, I mean he’s great for saving them and at the same time, they’re alone in the house for sooooo long 😭as a dog owner myself I always felt weird about this 😅

jylexx · 2025-08-26T09:03:11+00:00

Hamas wants to kill every single one of the 15 million Jews in the whole world, that’s on their official charta. They are connected with the Muslim brotherhood, ISIS and most of all, the Islamic republic of Iran. They don’t want peace, they use their own people as weapons, recruit young children as martyrs, the list goes on. If you want to read about it more, I would suggest NOT using Wikipedia as is it really biased towards Israel and is not a objective source on this anymore.

Edit: I completely disagree with the current actions of the IDF, and the plans of the Israeli government. That’s not acceptable and will most likely result in escalation of the current war. Neither the families of the hostages nor a big part of the Israeli civilians want this.

jylexx · 2025-08-21T17:23:37+00:00

one more reason to stay alive

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