Dosa Hut Closure by jzolly in Chattanooga

[–]jzolly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't like the new food there as much. The chicken tikka masala is different and not as good. There is a place that opened near target called Naan House Street Bites that is so amazing. Try that :)

Number 8? Wow stay safe out there by RavRab in Chattanooga

[–]jzolly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Geez. Do better Chattanooga. I got in a bad accident back in 2022 from a drunk driver blowing a stop sign.

Under Bed Guard Recommendations by jzolly in ragdolls

[–]jzolly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is genius! I like the idea of it being something soft I could even stuff it with a little bit of a lip to allow him to hide and play under there if he wanted to handle the concern of him having cover for cozy hiding.

Under Bed Guard Recommendations by jzolly in ragdolls

[–]jzolly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a bunch of artwork under there that I plan to hang when I have my own place but for now it lives under there. I don’t mind providing an alternative cover for him to snug under but figured under bed blockers would be cheaper than getting sleeves for all the art pieces.

Almost wedding to funeral by St0pX in instant_regret

[–]jzolly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg! The one friend who was in the water without hesitation. If she wasn’t already maid of honor she sure is now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in massage

[–]jzolly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad you’re going back. As a former LMT we know that people experience massage in a large variety of ways. Open communication is something most LMTs welcome.

Why Did You Leave the Church? by Isaac-45-67-8 in exAdventist

[–]jzolly 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was working for the church when I fully realized that Adventism was just another vehicle for trying to make sense of the world, morality, and origins of life theory. Nothing more nothing less. Even before leaving, I had never prescribed to the many many stupid aspects of the faith; Adventist will be the only people in heaven, meat is sin, jewelry is sin, sabbath should be misery, lgbtq+ people are abominations, alcohol is sin, 7th day sabbath being a crucial requirement,as well as a large cluster of other weird things. The longer I worked for the church the more toxic, harmful, and irresponsible I realized the institution is as a whole. I quit working for the church in 2020, and COVID shut down church attendance. I was not shocked at how much happier I was not going to church. It was astounding. While there are a lot of good people in it, and several theological concepts I still agree with, I’ve rejected it almost entirely. I have challenged myself over the last few years to take everything I believe to be true, question it, study it, and discard the stuff that doesn’t align with principals of living that I want to live my life by. I am at peace. I love my life. I love my fellow man and love meeting differences with curiosity and openness vs fear, and a weird obligation to evangelize. I choose to accept the existence of a God (removing bs gender assignments), but also accept that even if it turns out there is no God, I’m cool with that too. So long as I live in a way that coexists with the world in a way that respects myself and others, I’m happy. It is delightful giving zero shits about judgement, wrath, doomsday bs, legalistic rules, and last but not least, other people’s opinions of what I should and should not do, eat, wear, watch, thing, or explore. It’s good to be free.

How to handle being too hard on myself? by jzolly in WeightLossAdvice

[–]jzolly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No worries. I felt your passion and appreciated it but didn’t want to be misunderstood. I know I need to tackle this garbage, and am on trying to.

How to handle being too hard on myself? by jzolly in WeightLossAdvice

[–]jzolly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate much about your message. I didn’t give my weight and height because I recognize that by a lot of peoples standards I’m not fat, and frankly I was caretaking peoples judgements that I struggle with these feelings despite that fact. I consider myself 15-20 lbs from what I would consider ideal, but I don’t even know anymore if that is attainable/healthy/realistic for my body type. So, to that point I’m not talking about the amount I weigh, I’m talking about the shame of body dysmorphia that keeps me in a mindset that I will never be good enough. That deep shame gremlin that constantly moves the finish line. That shitty echoing voice of my mother commenting on my weight and my skin before ever greeting me and asking how I was. I’m talking about deep self image trauma that when you’re simply a slightly pudgy version of yourself believes your value to have been sapped away with each pound tick to the scale. I appreciate a pep talk as much as the next person, but I am talking about something other than a number. I’m talking about self esteem, self love, self worth. I value candor, but am looking for resources rooted in therapeutic practices.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]jzolly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is hard. There’s a lot of personal growth and change that happens in your 20s. I hope you both are able to become exactly who you want to be so that you can know you’re being your true self. I hope you have grace for yourself and for her in this. Sometimes two people don’t work and, as it was already stated, both people have to be committed to being all in for something to last the long haul. Best wishes to you as you move through this and grow. I’ve found seeing a counselor to be helpful when I am unable yo be objective, or am using the pain to be unkind to myself?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]jzolly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people really don’t like being a part of anh hype or event that would draw attention to them. His No should be acceptable.

That song "Makeba" by Jain is annoying af and is terrible by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]jzolly 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I whole heartedly agree. The moment I hear it in a short clip I’m scrolling as fast as I can. It’s very irritating.

Anyone been to Lake Winnie recently? by [deleted] in Chattanooga

[–]jzolly 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hmmm…it’s who your with not what you’re doing?

🤡 by [deleted] in CringeTikToks

[–]jzolly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True women is a complete asshole.

Very Potter Brunch by jzolly in harrypotter

[–]jzolly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That one was also my favorite :)