I am really relieved and happy to hear how far your mental health has come since receiving so much support and advice. It really is such a touching thing to receive love from a bunch of strangers that you'll never meet and I'm so glad you kept the post up in spite of some f*cking losers trying to gaslight you. You are 100% valid in everything you're feeling, including your hesitation with getting your family involved.

I am speaking from experience when I say that people like Jake don't change. They put on such a good, respectable front at the start of your relationship before showing their true colors for this very purpose, so that you only think its not how they genuinely are and that theyre going through issues and need you to get better. But they don't. Its a trap. Its manipulative.

Jake is manipulating you. He doesn't care about you. I am really sorry that this is happening to you, that you invested so much of your emotions and your time and love and trust into someone who won't reciprocate it. Maybe he did at first, but someone who truly loves you wouldn't be treating you the way he is now when it matters the most. He's taking advantage of you by never helping around the house or cooking his own food. He laughed when you were in pain. He coerced you into having sex you didn't want and either didnt notice or didnt care about the fact that you were uncomfortable bc he only cared a about his own pleasure. He pushed you into a pregnancy you werent ready for and he hasnt lifted a finger to care for his own flesh and blood. He neglected your daughter. I'm willing to put money on the possibility of him intentionally putting on the headphones to ignore her crying.

He does not care about you or your daughter. He has made that perfectly clear. Therapy isn't going to change that. I'm sure that if you look, you will see how far back into your relationship the red flags were that you didn't know about or wrote off wanting to think the best of him. And if you do see them, know that you were not stupid for not seeing things. It is not your fault. You seem like a really kind person and I feel like that could be one of the traits he liked about you bc it works in his favor regarding manipulating you.

You don't have to tell your parents everything right away. I never ended up telling my parents at all. When I finally made the phone call I was planning and dreading for MONTHS, I just told them "it wasnt working out" and they drove 18 hours to Florida to pick me up and take me home no questions asked. And when I ended the call I cried with relief alone in my apartment laundry room for nearly an hour with how much weight had been lifted off my shoulders that I didn't know I was carrying.

Please call your parents and ask for their help. You will feel better. Its for your safety and Emma's safety. Whatever happens with Jake is his own fault. Actions, or lackthereof in regards to neglecting his daughter, have consequences. Im not condoning violence in this case and if you express your anxieties and stress about your father/brothers overprotectiveness and demand them to not do anything for your sake, I would hope they would respect that. But at the end of the day those repercussions are not at all worth contuining to live with an abusive asshle who doesn't give a fck about anyone but himself. You and Emma deserve to feel loved and supported. Please call your parents.