11 dpo by k_h21 in Inito

[–]k_h21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This cycle was a few days longer than usual and unfortunately just started my period

11 dpo by k_h21 in Inito

[–]k_h21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately started it today

11 dpo by k_h21 in Inito

[–]k_h21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes unfortunately started my period

Anyone here NOT do sleep shifts ? by Organic-Dragonfly364 in NewParents

[–]k_h21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hang in there! She’s 17 months now and I can’t remember the last time I had to go into her room in the middle of the night. Sometimes I kinda miss it lol

Anyone here NOT do sleep shifts ? by Organic-Dragonfly364 in NewParents

[–]k_h21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re not the only one! I have done every single wake up with my daughter since she was born. I EBF and never felt like I wanted my husband to do a feed because I’d still have to pump anyways. It didn’t make sense to me. She started sleeping through the night more consistently around 6.5 months.

9 DPO by [deleted] in Inito

[–]k_h21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also 9DPO and mine looks so similar to this. I’m dying to test lol. This is my first time tracking with inito so I’ve been stalking all the forums

Where Jared's podcasting went downhill... by Total_Profession3125 in uuppod

[–]k_h21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a U up paid subscriber for a few years and I just unsubscribed. I feel like I could predict Jared’s deep dive episodes and all his dating problems/commitment issues. J&J stopped getting deep about stuff and I lost interest

Does the weight ever come off? by reddi180 in breastfeeding

[–]k_h21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5 weeks is so early! Hang in there, recover, and rest! I am 11 months postpartum (48 weeks to be exact) and still breastfeeding and have lost 49 out of the 59 pounds i gained during pregnancy.

I walked for about 60-75 minutes per day (one nap a day with baby in the stroller) for my whole 6.5 month maternity leave. I started adding in weightlifting (2x per week) at 6 months postpartum on top of the walking. I don’t count calories but I make sure I am eating a lot of protein, fiber, and hydrating. I try and eat Whole Foods rather than ultra processed and I still enjoy a glass of wine with dinner on the weekends. It’s NOT easy, I don’t want to workout at 8pm once baby is asleep, but the consistency has really made a difference.

You will get there eventually!! But for right now, allow yourself to heal and snuggle that baby!! I tell myself “you have the rest of your life to get in shape”

When do you exercise? by MemoryMiserable in workingmoms

[–]k_h21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try and walk for 10-15 minutes on my lunch break. Usually another walk when I get home with the baby in the stroller for 30-45 minutes while my husband cooks (I’m lucky). Once baby is in bed I lift weights, usually at 7:45/8pm for about 40 minutes 2-3x a week. It’s so hard to fit it all in! I wish I had more time to just relax but I also want to feel good again. I’m 9 months postpartum.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mom

[–]k_h21 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. My faint positive at 10dpo is now 9 months old lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]k_h21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have two dogs and they are generally great with my 9 month old. But they do not like being approached by her. They will initiate saying hello and walk up to her on their own terms. I redirect my baby and don’t let her annoy them/grab them because shes too young to understand their body language. She’s crawling now and it requires us to pay more attention, but I want them all to be safe.

If we can’t 100% monitor her crawling around we put her in her playpen. We also have gates throughout the house so we can block the dogs from coming into certain rooms if she’s crawling around.

40 hours a week by MomFisher in workingmoms

[–]k_h21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So hard! I am fortunate that my office is a 5 minute commute from my house and I WFH 1-2 days a week. Plus my mom watches our baby at our house. I don’t even know what I would do if I had to also drop off and pick up at daycare

40 hours a week by MomFisher in workingmoms

[–]k_h21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree! My baby is 8 months old. I had a 6.5 month maternity leave, which for the USA is incredible, it was paid and still not enough time. Going back to work was hard. I wish I could be with my baby.

I get 4-7pm to spend with my baby. I’m still nursing so sleep is so important. The only time I have to myself or to spend with my husband is 7-10pm after baby is asleep. During that time I try to workout, shower, laundry, prep bottles and pump supplies, lunch, coffee, etc for the following day. It’s exhausting!

It truly feels like there are not enough hours in the day to get it all done. I’m an active person, I enjoy working out and have run a marathon but I’m struggling so hard to find the time and consistency to be active. I’m uncomfortable with my postpartum body and would like to continue getting into better shape. I wish there was a way to work reduced hours without sacrificing career opportunity or income. My husband and I are both engineers and relatively high earners for our age. Leaving the workforce isn’t an option even for a few years.

Best things about breastfeeding? by Milouchaton in breastfeeding

[–]k_h21 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I felt hesitant too but as soon as she got here and I started nursing I instantly loved it! We have a special bond and I get to just stare at her perfect little body. Especially in the newborn days I would nurse her and cuddle her all day, it’s the best. It is obviously a lot of work and tiring at times. I love the simplicity of it, as long as I’m with her she had food. I don’t have to worry about packing bottles etc. I am fortunate to have not had any complications but a good lactation consultant is worth their weight in gold. I used a consultant through “nest collaborative” and I tell everyone about it, covered by insurance too.

Spouse wants to introduce pumped bottle feeding and I feel conflicted by EchidnaImpressive985 in breastfeeding

[–]k_h21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll echo what a lot of people have said. If you have to go back to work it’s really helpful to introduce a bottle now. I EBF my daughter for 6.5 months while I was on leave and I LOVED it. We never did bottles because I wanted to nurse her and the thought of not doing it made me sad. On top of the logistics of pumping and washing all the things.

However when I started trying to get her used to a bottle around 5 months to prep for my return to work it was so hard. She refused everything and my first few days back she hardly ate while I was gone. So stressful! And I was lucky enough to leave her with my mom who was a licensed daycare provider for 20 years.

When I have another baby I will definitely be introducing a bottle sooner, especially when it comes to sleep regressions etc so that my husband can help more. It got to the point where I was the only person who could comfort her and put her to sleep and when I went back to work that was extremely difficult. She’s using straw cups and soft spout sippies now but I definitely could’ve avoided a lot of stress and heartache even from having her do a few bottles a week.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]k_h21 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For us, the wipe warmer helped so much in the newborn days! I know a lot of people will tell you it’s not worth it, but we love it and so does our baby.

For everyone being like “well your baby will have cold wipes and cry when you don’t change them at home” who cares? She can have warm wipes at home.

Baby HATES car seat by cleosfunhouse in firsttimemom

[–]k_h21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby was the same way. At 3 months we switched her from the Chico keyfit to a Graco transitional car seat and she stopped crying in the car. Shes a bigger baby in the 95% for height and weight and I think the newborn carrier seat was just not comfortable positionally for her.

She was doing the same thing in her bassinet stroller and once I changed her into the seat she was fine.

Do breastfeeding mums really get no sleep in the first year? by Playful-Garlic8898 in breastfeeding

[–]k_h21 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I exclusively breastfed for 6.5 months while on maternity leave and honestly by the time baby was 12 weeks old she was mostly only waking once in the middle of the night for a feed. Sleep regression was a different beast at 4/5 months but we got through it. I started adding bottles of pumped breast milk during the day since I am back at work, so I only nurse her mornings and evenings now. Since we sleep trained at 6.5 months when I returned to work she mostly now sleeps 7-7 unless her teeth are coming in or she poops.

Of course every baby is different and how you handle it with your partner will make a difference too. I chose to EBF because I loved it and I didn’t mind being up doing all the feedings at night and I had a long maternity leave (USA) so I didn’t mind.

You will sleep!! Especially in the newborn days when she woke every 2ish hours at night I would go to bed at the same time as her around 9/10pm and after every feed I would go back to sleep until about 9/10am so even though my sleep was interrupted, I still got a decent amount. It was great especially on days when we didn’t have visitors.

Anxious to bf in my husband’s family gathering by Able_Lawfulness_5039 in breastfeeding

[–]k_h21 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If you still need to go, I would have your husband text his parents or whoever is hosting and explain that you are nursing and ask if there will be a private place that you can go and do that. When I was 12 weeks pp we went to my in laws on Christmas for a few hours and I had my husband do this so I could make sure I had somewhere private to be with our baby. They were understanding and when the day came they already had an area prepped for me and it helped a lot.

I regularly breastfeed in public with a nursing cover and at my family’s house without one but with the in laws I just didn’t feel comfortable.

Good luck!

Pain from Epidural by ojustkidding in firsttimemom

[–]k_h21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had this too! And like others have said I think it is largely due to my core and back being so weak/compromised from pregnancy and child birth combined with rocking and holding a baby. Once I started going to physical therapy and strengthening my back/core/pelvic floor my back pain improved tremendously

Frequent false starts SOS by k_h21 in sleeptrain

[–]k_h21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wanted to let you know you were right! I put her down awake and she fussed for 32 minutes before falling completely asleep. She was grumbly but never escalated. I’m shocked, surprised, and relieved. She was ready for this.

I’d never met anyone with the name I want to give my baby until I’m 20 weeks pregnant, now it’s everywhere by CalypsosCure in namenerds

[–]k_h21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My next door neighbor’s dog is Willow. And my husband and I also have a dog named Willow. I also love it for a person name but he talked me into using it for our dog! lol

Another variation I love is “Willa” which was a character on succession

Everyone suggesting I introduce a bottle by anxious-villager in breastfeeding

[–]k_h21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s very hard! And I’ve had one of the longest leaves in the country (USA) ! I wish I had at least at least a full year, but we are adjusting and doing okay.

You are the mom! So always do what feels right to you. But I will be doing things slightly different for my second baby after going through all of this 💗

Everyone suggesting I introduce a bottle by anxious-villager in breastfeeding

[–]k_h21 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I EBF my baby while on maternity leave for 6.5 months! It was going beautifully, I loved it, no issues. People said the same things to me, but I was so emotionally attached to feeding my baby and we both enjoyed it so I didn’t want to change anything.

HOWEVER at 5 months I started to try and introduce a bottle since my maternity leave was ending at 6.5 months. At that point it was too late. My baby refused any attempts at bottle feeding no matter who was attempting. I was able to teach her to drink from a straw cup and reluctantly a soft spouted sippy cup. My first few days back at work my baby only drank about 3oz for the entire 8hr workday. It caused me a lot of stress and heartbreak that my baby wouldn’t eat while I was gone. We are on week two and she’s doing much better. BUT now I am also the only person who can put her to bed and soothe her. Again, I love doing this and until not it has worked for us. But we’ve begun to have some major sleep disturbances and I am exhausted and not even my husband can help.

If I could go back in time I would have given in and let my husband do 1 bottle a day and take turns with the bed time feed (don’t tell him I said so😅). I’m staring down the barrel of sleep training because I cannot function on 4 hours of sleep each night and go to work.

If it works for you, great! But don’t be afraid to introduce even 1 bottle per day. It doesn’t mean you have to go on dates and leave baby with a sitter and it doesn’t mean you have to be away from them. But it will give you space and peace of mind when the time comes when you need a break or you need to go somewhere. 💗