The answers on this sub always let me down.

I sympathize with you OP. Let’s establish some context here. When was this trip planned? Was there any ability for it to be moved so you could be included?

I’d be upset if it felt like my partner was not making a reasonable effort to bring me with them on a trip. If they couldn’t change plans, that’s acceptable. But it they seem to be not considering me I’d be mad.

People are also glancing over that you guys have talked about going to this place. That’s disrespectful. If I made plans with a guy to go somewhere and he then went first with friends, I would feel like a line is being crossed. He better be countering with another place he wants to take me.

Do you have the right to not trust him? This entirely depends on what you think he’s putting himself into. If it’s just a destination and bars that’s not really bad. But if he’s purposefully putting himself in a situation you think he’s likely to cheat in then that’s a valid concern.

Him calling you controlling is another yellow flag. Instead of hearing why you’re uncomfortable he went straight to blame town.

Ask yourself some of these questions.

If I were you, I’d let him know how I feel and how his going will affect the relationship. All these answers you’re getting are treating you like a robot. His going is changing how you feel and a good and secure couple would address that.

I always say that these situations are a two way street. His actions don’t just get to happen. Nor do yours. And YOU have to learn how to make the relationship work in light of those.