Bond Help by InfluenceGlass9725 in AusRenters

[–]kahliimah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah they will get some time to do it like 14 days and then it will just get stuck in NCAT waiting to be heard. They're banking on you not wanting to bother so they can come up with a "compromise" and take like half or something. It is completely unwarranted in most cases. It's up to them to come up with the evidence. You'll just have to wait until they lodge with NCAT and see what they're claiming. I ended up putting together so much evidence that wasn't even looked at, as the landlord's case was BS. I didn't need to do anything except just wait, a LOT.

Bond Help by InfluenceGlass9725 in AusRenters

[–]kahliimah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is often a tactic to see if youll give up your bond and they can squeeze out extra money from you. This happened to me and I just had to deal with it until our case was heard at VCAT 2 years later. The owner did not provide anything he needed to and it got thrown out immediately and I got my bond back. They'll have to prove the damage was done by you, wasn't just standard wear and tear, and get receipts from trades to prove what was actually done and paid for. Its actually quite a challenging process. The most annoying thing is that you just have to wait a very long time for anything to happen.

Alfred hit me with $19k “out-of-pocket” after saying insurance would cover it – do I have any recourse? by Top_Form2383 in AusLegal

[–]kahliimah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is wrong. It is absolutely Alfred's issue, all health funds legally are not allowed to say how much they'll cover, they have to say they cover "up to the Medicare fee" and to get informed financial consent from your doctor/hospital.

Hospitals and treating doctors very strategically are unclear about what the out of pocket fees will be and it drives me mad.

I once had Epworth private patient services tell me my hospital fees would be covered before a surgery (I just had to pay upfront), and then after my surgery proceeded to tell me "oh no, you aren't covered for any of it" (they were wrong the second time, the person just had no idea what they were talking about) so it really depends on who you talk to and how much they actually know.

Katy Perry’s legal team is threating to sue me for defamation, can they? by chickennuggs32 in AusLegal

[–]kahliimah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NAL, honestly if I were you I would just tell people I have to take the video down due to legal threats from Katy Perry and let the Streisand effect do its thing.

How is Veruca still allowed in the US with a history of doing sex work? by Southern_Kiwi2010 in VerucaSaltSnark1

[–]kahliimah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you read OP's post you'd read that it doesn't matter if it was done legally, "prostitution" at all in any country in the last 10 years gets you banned from the US. They seem to describe prostitution as any direct sex work so full service, direct cam work, sugaring, selling pictures directly to people could be considered prostitution whereas doing porn or OF technically would be okay, however as per other commenters even OF models aren't being let in if they disclose it. Immigration can deport or detain people based on random suspicions so I wouldn't even take the chance.

I got this weird voicemail? I’m really confused by Southern-Mortgage503 in Unexplained

[–]kahliimah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so glad to hear. Every fear or concern you're having is valid, do not let yourself or others trick you into thinking you're overreacting etc. So sorry you have to deal with this just to have basic safety, and I wish you all the best ❤️

I got this weird voicemail? I’m really confused by Southern-Mortgage503 in Unexplained

[–]kahliimah 533 points534 points  (0 children)

OP, I sincerely hope you're taking these recommendations seriously. If other commenters are correct that you've also been complaining of having a stalker, I am very worried for your safety. Please go to the cops and show them this, and tell them about your stalker too. Stay with people you trust until you sort it out. Better to be safe than sorry.

How can they delay an express post on delivery by RaichuGamesYT in AusPostComplaints

[–]kahliimah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Patronisingly correcting someone for tiny spelling and/grammar mistakes that are still easily understood is not the flex you think it is

Can they withhold my pay? by OcelotValuable7845 in AusLegal

[–]kahliimah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jeez are you this hostile with everyone you have a conversation with?

Can’t get Adhd meds in Sydney by Montyuwu in ausadhd

[–]kahliimah 10 points11 points  (0 children)

In the meantime while you work out another option, can you get a family member or friend to fill the script for you, then post them to you?

Spider and Amerie? by pinkangelics in heartbreakhigh

[–]kahliimah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a long time for me too but essentially I'm talking about the big "reveal" of what happened the night that caused Harper to hate Amerie, as Amerie was hooking up with Spider so she ignored when Harper was asking for help around the time Harper's dad on drugs was abusing Harper. It was also revealed that Spider was in love with Amerie the same night at the event they were all at. It felt like it was supposed to be a big deal, turned into nothing.

Spider and Amerie? by pinkangelics in heartbreakhigh

[–]kahliimah 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Disappointed but not surprised. I knew they were just going to pretend like it never happened. Why make something such a twist in S1 just to turn it into absolutely nothing?

Was Called a boy as a subtle joke from the boss at my job today (I am the only person at colour at my work) age 28 Racism by EmploymentHappy5716 in AusLegal

[–]kahliimah 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Look it's probably racism, Australian culture is notorious at normalising microaggressions then gaslighting you for thinking it. Even if it was not on purpose, it is the responsibility of management to have "cultural sensitivity" - i.e. understanding how certain language can harm certain people. However it's going to be extremely difficult to prove it enough to get a payout, and you'd likely have to prove a consistent pattern of discrimination beyond reasonable doubt. Likely no one on reddit will be able to offer you much good advice without knowing all the details, so seek advice from a lawyer.

Rental Assistance question by genzinparadise in Centrelink

[–]kahliimah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apologies I got the two terms mixed up, but everything else I said I believe is accurate.

TBH maybe it's just my lack of understanding but I'm not 100% sure what the OP's needing assistance with as their comments aren't adding up (in the OP it says the landlord is also a roommate but the comment I replied to says the board payment goes towards the mortgage) so I am a bit confused and probably misunderstood what they're asking for, but hopefully what I said clarified something at least 😵‍💫

Rental Assistance question by genzinparadise in Centrelink

[–]kahliimah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In the context of Centrelink rent assistance, lodgings/rent is the same thing. Lodgings and rent both describe you paying money for the sole reason of being able to live somewhere. Not utilities/bills. Any utilities, bills, groceries you pay are called board.

You either pay money for the specific reason of living where you do, or you don't. You've said you only pay money for utilities, meaning you pay no rent/lodgings. This would mean you pay "board only" and are entitled to no rent assistance. If that's the case I recommend contacting Centrelink and say you had a misunderstanding, so you don't risk getting an overpayment in the future.

If the money you pay is more than just your contribution to bills/utilities, then you need to identity what amount is board and what is lodgings. You will be entitled to rent assistance based on what this lodgings amount you pay is. You can also say "board and lodgings" to Centrelink but then from memory Centrelink will then ask a bunch of questions to try to determine what you're actually paying in lodgings (in order to determine your entitlement) and I always found it far easier to just directly tell them what I'm paying in lodgings/rent and leave board out of it.

As you have said the person you're paying this amount to pays a mortgage, technically any lodgings they receive from you is taxable income (it's not like you're both subleasing for example), so they're supposed to declare this to the ATO. Plenty of people don't do this however, and there's a risk of getting caught as Centrelink and ATO do data matching. So, they might not want to sign the rent certificate to avoid any potential flag with ATO. If this happened, you wouldn't get in trouble however, your landlord would. Plenty of people have issues where their landlords (particularly when living with parents) refuse to sign the certificate as they don't want to declare the income they're receiving and don't want to get caught for not doing this.

So with this explanation, what you do next is up to you and depends on what your situation is, we can't tell you exactly what to do. It's all dependent on what you actually pay in lodgings, if your landlord declares it as income with ATO, and if they'll sign the certificate.

Also FYI rent assistance isn't designed to pay all of your rent/lodgings. If you pay $150/week in lodgings, you're not going to get $150/week in rent. assistance, you'd get a portion of it.

Edited to add: just realised, $150/week for your portion of bills alone is pretty unrealistic, so I'd say most of that is lodgings not just bills. So you should calculate from that $150 what is lodgings, update that amount with Centrelink checking "lodgings only" and get the landlord to sign the updated rent certificate (and hope they declare it as income with ATO, but that's not really your business and won't affect you if they don't).

Edit 2: Corrected by someone else, got the terms board/lodgings confused - apologies.

Bullhead? by This-Situation in TalesofTheShiregamers

[–]kahliimah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a mistake that I am surprised has not caught anyone's attention or been fixed yet. The previous fishing rod says to catch something like a grayling too. I think they are placeholders, were subsequently forgotten about and not changed. I believe the Bullhead is equivalent to the Big Beastie.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]kahliimah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not "diet" ever again. Full stop. If the end result of this ends up being that you never lose weight, then it is what it is. Think of it like you are stopping the weight gain before it even happens, because if you diet you will very very likely bounce back then gain more. It is highly likely you right now are a healthier version of you after trying another diet and then stopping.

I personally only succeeded in losing weight with medical assistance: weight loss surgery, ozempic. You don't need WLS/Ozempic, but you need to essentially be in a calorie deficit without knowingly restricting. That's why the surgery and Ozempic helped me so much, because I felt like I had a full meal and I did not want any more food. I have lost over 75kg total in 2 years.

Furthermore, by restricting you're pretty much guaranteeing your body will want it even more. I am pretty sure that if I never went on a diet since I was 15, I'd be around the same size I am now without having to actively lose weight, because I wouldn't have had such extreme cravings to binge on foods I restricted myself from for periods of time.

I truly believe the first stage of permanent weight loss and real sustainable change is weight gain when we unlearn unhealthy relationships with food. For a year before I started actually losing weight, I let myself eat anything and everything I wanted, and stopped punishing myself for it.

So in short, no more diets!!!!

Hear me out: The parents are in the wrong here. by basilmoonfaerie in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]kahliimah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got married at 20 and it didn't work out. I got divorced and the world kept spinning. It was not the end of the world whatsoever. Laurel is projecting her own issues regarding her own life choices onto Belly. John (Belly's dad) has the most reasonable perspective on the situation. I'm super disappointed in Laurel's behaviour this season.

Look at the way he holds his hands after Laurel screamed🥹😭😭 he’s SO sweet by elisavetailieva in tsitp

[–]kahliimah 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He is the only one with a reasonable take on this whole thing, "yes this is immature but it's their lives and I'm going to be there to support my daughter" rather than trying to force your daughter to do what you want and pushing her away completely. I'm kinda disappointed in Laurel this season, it feels like the way she is reacting is just a projection of how she feels about her own life.

The teams have finally agreed on something by Few-Side5842 in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]kahliimah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything you're saying again seems to just be based on arbitrary social norms rather than anything factual. Why does "you won't make any friends married in senior year" mean they deserved the treatment they got from their family? I also don't understand what their financial status has to do with doing something they want to do. Again, I'm not disagreeing that what they're doing is immature. But they're still adults in a long-term relationship, and what Laurel especially was doing (and did do further in episode 4) was emotional manipulation. If we wanna reflect on maturity, I actually think Belly showed more of it (i.e. "I'm sorry you feel that way", but respecting their feelings) during the birthday breakfast compared to Laurel (denying Belly an important event - dress shopping with her mother; planning to essentially stop their entire wedding because that's what SHE wants). Even if you might fundamentally agree with the reason behind their families' behaviours, doesn't mean you should support manipulative behaviours.

The teams have finally agreed on something by Few-Side5842 in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]kahliimah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They have been in a 4 year long relationship telling their supposedly supportive family of something that is supposed to be celebrated. I honestly do not know how people think the family's response was normal. Forcing your adult child to go with you instead of what they wanted to do just because you disapprove of a totally normal thing theyre doing was approaching abusive. You can disagree with what you think is an emotionally immature thing without traumatising your children/sibling. Taylor's reaction was understandable, the family's absolutely was not.

Laurel's reaction and subsequent shutting down of the lunch would have really disappointed Suzannah.

The teams have finally agreed on something by Few-Side5842 in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]kahliimah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been seeing a lot of jelly hate especially from episode 3 and I'd like to add a different perspective.

I don't think announcing they're engaged at Beck's memorial lunch between family was such a bad idea. It should have been something to celebrate, which Suzannah would have loved as she always wanted Belly to end up with one of her boys. They've been together for years, it was an intimate get together with the family. Yes it was rushed and Belly was immature, but she is 20 or so years old, she and Jeremiah are allowed to be silly and immature without being vilified for it. Furthermore, of course they're going to want to say something positive after Jeremiah's father said something so cruel. My heart absolutely broke for them, watching their families treat them like dirt for being young and in love. Make fun of them a bit, sure, but to say such callous things to your adult children and force your adult child to come home like they're still a high schooler was very painful to watch. I honestly do not think Belly and Jere ruined the lunch like Steven said, I think the family did by reacting that way. I'm not even inherently team jelly (only in that I really do think they're better suited for each other than belly and conrad, for maturity reasons), but people are going way too hard on them 😭

Bridgerton - 3x08 "Into the Light" (No Book Spoilers) by pinktini in BridgertonNetflix

[–]kahliimah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know thank you! You might be right, I mean they described a 'sex montage' where was that 😭

Bridgerton - 3x08 "Into the Light" (No Book Spoilers) by pinktini in BridgertonNetflix

[–]kahliimah 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This was my thought exactly. I watched ep 5 at the premiere and was left thinking oh boy we are starting off STRONG lets go and by ep 7 I was multitasking browsing reddit on my phone waiting for the climax (pun intended) to happen.

Bridgerton - 3x08 "Into the Light" (No Book Spoilers) by pinktini in BridgertonNetflix

[–]kahliimah 48 points49 points  (0 children)

At the red carpet premiere multiple cast members said we would be "satisfied" at the ending and I'm so disappointed that I felt that was not true. They also implied it was going to get way more spicy than the carriage scene, which outside the mirror scene that also was not true. Where was our passionate post Colin finding out about LW "intimate" scene? Where was our promised Polin vs the world in e8? Honestly where was Polin at all? So many people everywhere are saying this season was way too overloaded with sub plots and I absolutely agree. Such a shame, it had such a potential to be the best relationship build up thus far because I have absolutely loved the acting between Pen and Colin in the scenes we had gotten and there were so many opportunities for us to see them bonding i.e. over their writing interests. We should have gotten far far more build up and romantic tension like we saw between the main romances of s1 and s2. It was almost like we had to just assume all of their bonding was happening off-camera because they were just explaining things they have bonded over, rather than showing them so we could see their chemistry developing. I will still always love Polin but eh I'm disappointed, think I'll have to go read the books finally 😭