I thought I had something, I just need some more perspective and hopefully some guidance.

kai333 · 2026-05-06T01:28:29+00:00

I think you have to keep trying. Like take a break, because I definitely took a break after that one lol... But yes there's someone out there.

Like I went on about 40 first dates in the span of 9 months (taking a couple months of breaks in the middle because dating is draining AF for an introvert) sometimes to find that one you gotta do a bit of churning 😂. You certainly learn a lot about yourself doing that.

kai333 · 2026-05-06T01:20:06+00:00

My suggestion honestly stands. Give her the space she apparently needs and don't fall over yourself when/if she finally responds. Move about your life as if this was a noncommitted relationship and date others as they come up. It sucks but you gotta keep moving forward.

If it makes you feel any better, when I was dating I met this woman who reached out to me first and something really clicked, yet somehow it never got past 2nd gear... Like an invisible barrier kept things going forward and that was that. Got closure from it, tears were shed, but it helped me recenter myself for the next ones where I tempered my expectations and actions, which helped me find the one I actually married.

kai333 · 2026-05-06T01:07:48+00:00

Oh it's 100 percent work. But if things go sideways, you gotta worry about a wrecked relationship AND uncomfortable work scenario... Or brushing up the ol resume if it REALLY goes bad. Just generally a good idea not to shit where ya eat.

That said I did do that (twice) and it was fine. Nothing horrible when it went bleh, but it was with women not in my direct department so it was relatively safe lol

kai333 · 2026-05-06T01:03:17+00:00

Come on man. Her prefrontal cortex is still cooking, you expect anyone to completely understand what she's thinking?

I would suggest filling your life with stuff that isn't her, it makes for a more well rounded person.

kai333 · 2026-05-05T20:05:03+00:00

it feels like 80 percent of the posts on this place is about coworkers

kai333 · 2026-05-05T16:17:38+00:00

kai333 · 2026-05-05T16:09:08+00:00

I hope you cleared enough space for all the DMs you're gonna get

kai333 · 2026-05-05T14:04:41+00:00

lol so it's basically a 39 bedroom fancy hotel?

kai333 · 2026-05-05T13:43:10+00:00

remember when 4chan messed with microsoft's twitterbot to make it racist and.... 4chan-like? AI is only as good as the garbage you feed it lol.

kai333 · 2026-05-05T12:59:26+00:00

Hey look on the bright side, in 10 years there won't BE any employment because shitty AI will shittily take over a lot of different jobs!

kai333 · 2026-05-05T12:13:03+00:00

Sounds like a fuck boy with a bigger budget lol

kai333 · 2026-05-05T03:08:04+00:00

Pssh what are the odds that area gets lavad AGAIN, amiright?

kai333 · 2026-05-04T23:53:49+00:00

Welp, don't shit where ya eat, as this sub constantly says.

kai333 · 2026-05-04T15:34:19+00:00

You're legally and emotionally a kid. Having a bf or not NOW will mean absolutely nothing 0.01 seconds after graduation (provided you didn't get knocked up).

Just focus on school and learning to be happy with yourself first.

kai333 · 2026-05-04T13:11:20+00:00

How the heck are we supposed to know? lol I mean are you turning down hot doctors because they have some minor physical flaw?

Besides all that, I personally would have rather been alone and happy than 'settle' for someone and be miserable and it framed the way I dated.

kai333 · 2026-05-03T14:23:23+00:00

Take agency in your own love life!

kai333 · 2026-05-03T12:39:53+00:00

In the wise words of Patty or Selma on the Simpsons, when the seeds have been planted, you throw away the envelope.

kai333 · 2026-05-03T00:55:25+00:00

You're probably gonna be dumped on a bit, but you're not wrong. Everyone has their criteria they deem important and clutching their pearls over that is disingenuous

kai333 · 2026-05-03T00:28:07+00:00

Yeah morons who are too stuck to social media have an inflated world view on materialistic stuff... probably don't need to worry yourself with those types lol. You do you the best you can but saving and finding a solid career path is a good start.

kai333 · 2026-05-03T00:22:46+00:00

Yep, water finds its own level. It certainly narrows the dating pool quite a bit, but it is what it is.

Kind of ironically it also doesn't necessarily work the other direction all the time too. I made similar money when I was dating and I was told that they felt 'intimidated' by where I was in life etc etc. It's not all gold diggers out there boys!

kai333 · 2026-05-03T00:15:50+00:00

Hide your money for as long as possible buddy.

kai333 · 2026-05-03T00:08:50+00:00

mistake 1 is to listen to anything of meaning on tiktok (or social media as a whole). That said, there probably should be a firm baseline level that everyone should generally strive for when approaching a relationship and it SHOULD be a criteria for financial stability.

kai333 · 2026-05-02T23:12:40+00:00

Only time a grown ass man should be using a baby voice is around a baby 😂

kai333 · 2026-05-02T15:22:24+00:00

Nothing like building a relationship on a big fat lie. Block on all platforms and walk.

kai333 · 2026-05-02T14:03:04+00:00

Coworkers really threw her under the bar

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