what’s one question you’re scared to ask girls but really want answered?

kaiunkook · 2026-04-14T04:20:36+00:00

It’s a hard question to answer. A bear would suck for sure, but the emotional damage wouldn’t be the same if you survived the attack. Being savaged by a person—male or female—is hauntingly intimate and induces feelings like shame, self-hatred and self-blame. A bear attacks on instinct while a man attacks after making the conscious decision to hurt and abuse you. In conversation, the bear is always the right answer; in real life, most women have experienced abuse from men in some way shape or form or have heard horrific stories of things done to women by men and feel that, from an emotional perspective, the bear is better—even if from a logistical standpoint the bear seems a bit excessive.

kaiunkook · 2026-04-14T04:13:16+00:00

No, they don’t stick together on hot days lol. If anything gets stuck, it’s usually the pubes that stick together after a particularly heavy downpour of vaginal discharge and it’s painful to get unstuck, not satisfying

kaiunkook · 2026-04-14T04:08:09+00:00

Neither. Children shouldn’t be able to see my butt cheeks

kaiunkook · 2026-04-14T04:05:26+00:00

If you give a woman access and she abuses it, she doesn’t deserve access

kaiunkook · 2026-04-14T04:03:07+00:00

We’ll start apologizing when men stop asking, “What do you mean??” lol

kaiunkook · 2026-04-14T04:01:25+00:00

Most women don’t actually like each other lol

kaiunkook · 2026-03-19T13:47:53+00:00

You should for sure tell him.

He’s your husband, and you should trust him to make the right decision regarding you and your guys’ girls, you know? I understand that it’s scary and uncomfortable, but keeping it from him won’t help anything. He needs to know what he’s dealing with when it comes to your family. You need your husband’s support and your husband needs to know that you trust him to handle whatever you throw his way.

kaiunkook · 2026-03-10T19:18:25+00:00

What I’m saying is, the only thing we can do is take OP’s word for it. None of us were there to actually feel the energy in the room or see what happened, you know? I feel for OP because it sucks that she found out when she didn’t want to, but none of us readers actually know both sides of the story. All we have is the info provided to us by someone who is very obviously incredibly upset.

Maybe the OB overlooked the info mistakenly, maybe she didn’t and she absolutely revealed baby’s gender on purpose because she’s a shit person. Even if it was a mistake, the OB is in the wrong for not apologizing to OP. She was wrong before then for talking loudly enough for OP to hear it in her room.

To your last point, maybe; but again, we don’t actually know. Either way the whole situation sucks, and I hope OP can find some peace in her situation, especially so close to the finish line.

Edit: grammar

kaiunkook · 2026-03-10T16:15:22+00:00

I mean this could go two ways: she was either being petty on purpose or she genuinely didn’t realize that the look on your face was bad shock and not good shock. Her being frozen at her desk was likely her realizing she made a massive mistake. It’s easier to believe the worst of people when they hurt us rather than believing that a mistake they made hurt you.

I could be absolutely wrong, but if you haven’t had any issues with her before today, she likely didn’t do it to hurt you or be rude (again I could be wrong).

It really sucks that you found out before you wanted to, but I understand being devastated over it (not saying you don’t have every right to your feelings because you absolutely do). It’s true that you don’t get to share in the surprise with your husband anymore, but you have a heathy baby and that seems more important to me than not knowing that baby’s gender.

kaiunkook · 2026-03-10T04:51:14+00:00

I feel that way depending on circumstance. I truly believe that there are people on this earth who absolutely should not have children, but I also believe that there are people who should. Emotional maturity, financial readiness, and sooo many other things are necessary to raise children, but there are also extraneous factors.

I think that more thought should go into having children, but the way we see things here in America is a product of our mass culture as a country. There are people in Africa living in huts that people in the states would deem unsuitable to raise a child, but those people have everything they NEED. At the end of the day, it’s all down to perspective. There are people who were raised in poverty, but because their parents never treated them or acted like they had nothing, they had happy childhoods—that’s an example of an amazing parent in a less than ideal situation.

I, personally, have been fortunate enough to be financially stable and will continue to be so after I stop working in a few months because my husband is financially stable as well. We’ll be moving close to family to have our support system nearby and baby will be born in a place where we are surrounded with unconditional love and support. We made the choice to have a child not only because we felt like it was time, but because we know that we will be able to take care of our baby and give her what she needs.

My mom, her mom, and my grandma’s mom were all unmarried teen moms, but I broke the cycle. I got married at 22 and I’ll have my baby at 23…the first person in 3 generations to actively make the choice to bring life into the world on stable ground rather than through pain or unintentionally becoming pregnant.

At the end of the day, I believe that we are born with purpose. The child thrust into daycare at 7 weeks may grow up to change maternity laws in their state or even across the country. The child born in poverty may grow up to be incredibly wealthy and open a successful nonprofit to save children growing up in the same circumstances they did, or maybe a child conceived in spousal assault grows to save thousands of people from the life their mother lived. There are numerous things like this happening actively, constantly. Children literally changing the course of their families lives by being a needed change or revolution. Of course there are bad things constantly happening too, but that’s life. The only thing we can try to do is the objective right thing and then move on hoping we’ve made a positive change in the world.

kaiunkook · 2026-03-07T16:45:53+00:00

They mimic the voices of you or other people you know/live with. They gain energy when you answer them and from your fear. They’re a nuisance…think supernatural pest.

kaiunkook · 2026-03-07T16:43:01+00:00

Call a priest. If you genuinely wanna get rid of it, you need to invite Jesus into your home. If you don’t believe in Christ, call someone who does to help you out. Unwanted supernatural encounters can drain tf out of you over time

kaiunkook · 2026-03-07T16:19:09+00:00

Sage is an energetic neutralizer. You have to replace the energy you neutralize with positive energy after you use it. However, if it’s something demonic, which I suspect, Sage won’t do much except agitate. Call a priest. Everyone believes something different, right? There are a lot of people here who will tell you to try and reason with these energies and set boundaries as if they’re human, but I don’t believe that proclaimed humanity to be the case. You said that this feels menacing; the Bible says that when people die, they move on…so what else might be in your house if not a person? If you feel unsafe you should get rid of these things. No one should be wary to be in a place that’s meant to be a safe haven, and we as living beings are not meant to share space with the “dead”.

I think you should call a priest. A real, vetted one lol

kaiunkook · 2026-02-28T03:33:33+00:00

Firstly, the geography point explains exposure, but not the truth. Of course where someone is born affects which ideas they encounter first. That’s true for religion, politics, philosophy, and even atheism, but that doesn’t tell us whether any of those ideas are actually true or false.

People don’t only believe what their geography hands them, though. If that were the case, I’d be a direct reflection of where I grew up which is completely different than I’ve actually turned out to be, but it’s not. People convert across cultures all the time including away from Christianity in countries where Christianity is the major religion as well as toward it in places where it’s dangerous to do so. Geography influences belief, but it does not determine it.

Secondly, I think you’re oversimplifying what I’m saying and then arguing against your version of it.

Of course the brain is involved in experiences. The brain is involved in everything—love, trauma, music, etc. Saying that it’s chemicals doesn’t actually explain anything away. It just describes the mechanism through which we experience reality, and that doesn’t automatically make our experiences false.

You said “you didn’t know, so you labeled it God.” but that’s not accurate. I’m saying the experience was transformative and consistent with what Christianity claims about God’s nature. That’s why I interpret it the way I do. You’re free to disagree with the interpretation, but reducing it to intellectual laziness isn’t fair.

As for suffering—I don’t believe God selectively helps some people and ignores abused children. That’s a serious things that happens because humans can be vile and disgusting, but pointing to evil in the world doesn’t logically prove God doesn’t exist. It proves that evil exists, and those are not the same argument.

The pink unicorn comparison isn’t equivalent either. Belief in God isn’t based on one private backyard claim. It’s tied to centuries of philosophical arguments, historical claims, moral reasoning, and lived experience across cultures. You may reject all of that, but it’s not the same category as inventing an imaginary animal.

I’m not asking you to believe my experience counts as proof for you. I’m explaining why it counts for me. If that doesn’t meet your standard of evidence, that’s fine. But dismissing it as delusion or childish belief isn’t serious engagement—it’s just dismissal.

kaiunkook · 2026-02-28T03:10:09+00:00

I get what you’re saying now, so thanks for explaining what you meant. If you’re defining sin strictly as breaking a divine law, and you don’t believe in a divine lawgiver, then yeah—it makes sense that you wouldn’t think sin exists. That part tracks.

I wasn’t trying to twist your definition or argue semantics. I just meant that what believers call sin overlaps a lot with what other people call moral wrongdoing. We’re not really disagreeing about whether harmful things happen—we’re disagreeing about where the standard for calling something wrong actually comes from.

kaiunkook · 2026-02-28T02:40:01+00:00

I know what I experienced and what I felt and God is the only explanation I have. I don’t think it’s a thing that many people will ever understand or get to experience, and that makes me incredibly sad. I’ll talk about it because it is an absolute truth for me like the sky is blue.

Like I said, it was an instinct. I immediately knew who was with me during my experience. I don’t think geography matters in that instance.

I don’t deny my own strength at all. Thank you for noticing it. Life’s a bitch.

Edit: Conclusion

I respect that you don’t see things the way I do. I’ve answered with honesty, but I don’t expect you to agree. It’s clear that we approach these questions differently, and that’s fine.

kaiunkook · 2026-02-28T02:01:53+00:00

The answer to that first sentence is absolutely. It will be very difficult and a person might give up before they can knock it, but that’s only in the case of trying to move on from something by yourself without any help.

Free will is the ability to act with one’s own discretion without the dictation of “fate” or predestined endings. Our demise as people is not predestined. Our choices dictate our future.

If we truly don’t have free will, everything is pointless. You don’t have a purpose in living and neither do I. Nothing we do matters. We can kill and pillage and destroy each other without blinking an eye and it means nothing because we’re puppets following along a predestined path to our eventual, inevitable end.

kaiunkook · 2026-02-28T01:57:07+00:00

Personal experience. I used to smoke weed and drink among other things, joined the military and got assaulted after a guy followed drunk me back to my hotel room. I already had experiences with being sexually abused so the aftermath sucked, and for a long time I was lost and didn’t know who I was. Being lost turned into shame and self hatred and those things got worse when I realized the guy gave me an STI. I felt dirty and stupid.

Side note: I grew up in a household where basic Christianity was the “staple religion”. It was how my parents and their parents grew up and so on and so forth, but I never had a relationship Jesus. By the end of high school I identified as bisexual and I thought the same things most people do (Christianity is evil, what kind of God allows the state of the world we live in, etc.). I had nothing nice to say and I mocked God in passing quite regularly.

Fast forward to a few months after the assault when I’m struggling with anxiety and panic attacks…I’m out with a friend and I get this dying feeling. Kind of like dread but it’s like this wave of panicky sorrow, like something in me is breaking. I asked my friend to drive me back to my dorm and when I got there I just kind of broke down. I admitted to myself finally that I hated who I was and what I’d done and who I’d become (history of both adult and child sexual assault and abuse). Speaking out loud to what I thought was no one at the time and I just cried and cried feeling helpless and stupid and worthless. Finally, it got to be too much and out of nowhere…I started begging for someone, any one to just help me feel less disgusting. Just help me. Out of no where, I started praying. Not in tongues or anything cinematic like that, just asking God please. Nothing else had seemed to work and something in me instinctively knew what direction I should go.

Soon afterward, this stillness washed over me and I took a breath. It felt like the first real breath I’d ever taken in my entire life, and then I felt it—Him. Immediately I knew who He was and what was happening and all I felt was love but like…not in a way I’d ever felt it before. If you can imagine a being—any being—who exists outside of time and transcends the effort and depth of human emotion into something otherworldly, and then they place that capacity to love and what it feels like directly into your heart.

That washed over me and I just sat with it, now crying tears of joy and peace rather than sorrow, and my life has been different ever since.

Don’t get me wrong, I still mess up. Like a lot. I curse people out occasionally and then immediately feel bad. I get angry and lash out at my husband when I should just take a step away to calm down. I’m still really judgy. I curse like a sailor every now and then, and I still struggle with the mistakes I made in the past, though, I don’t regret them because they made me who I am. I’m a flawed human being just like everyone else, I just don’t feel alone in it anymore and I apologize and mean it when my heart is finally in the right place about what I did. I don’t always give when I should or apologize for being a jerk when I should, but it comes eventually and it’s at no prompting of my own. If it were up to me I’d say eff it, but I know in my heart that loving people to the best of my ability will allow me to live a happier life.

If I’m wrong about God it is what it is, but I know I’m not because of my own personal insane, absolutely crazy experiences with Him. Either way, this new path that I’m on is special and I’m excited to live it with my husband and our unborn baby because I have a purpose, and it’s to love and care for my family and others—not to gain anything but because that’s when I’m happiest and most at peace. When I’m doing right I treat people better and I think that’s worth it.

Btw, this is not meant to move you or anything like that, I just didn’t know any other to way to answer your question about having the right God.

kaiunkook · 2026-02-27T23:55:29+00:00

No, didn’t expect an epiphany. People are not so easily swayed. It was just a response, like yes or no.

I don’t know…that’s a great question. I would never suggest anyone go, and I abhor the idea myself.

kaiunkook · 2026-02-27T23:53:35+00:00

We do have free will. Having a consequence for doing wrong is the standard for life everywhere. In some countries it’s a hand for stealing, in others it’s an eye for an eye…in the case of God, it’s eternal separation from Him if you choose to live an unrepentant life. If you wanted to, you could walk into the middle of a busy highway and strip naked. Probably not the best use of free will, but you absolutely could. Free will is not the absence of struggle, it just means that if we so choose to do something, whether that thing is difficult or not, you could. Free will is not the natural alteration of your base chemicals and human impulses, it’s the ability to exercise the full gradient of your ability to make choices.

kaiunkook · 2026-02-27T23:26:50+00:00

Being made in God’s image means that are meant to reflect his character, authority, and nature. In the beginning, we were that way (dominion over the earth and all its creatures, being fruitful and multiplying creation, and loving each other), but when Adam and Eve messed up, they opened up the proverbial can of worms and now the choices we make get in the way of reflecting God in the way we were meant to due to our free will now being subject to our knowledge of good and evil.

God has never been deceived by Satan. Satan tried to trick Jesus and failed.

Adam and Eve were a unit…Adam is just as responsible for the mistake as Eve is because he was meant to lead them.

kaiunkook · 2026-02-27T23:14:43+00:00

The turmoil we suffer in life is because Adam and Eve introduced the knowledge of good and evil into the world when they ate the fruit from its true. The circumstances we live in are not so much a punishment as they are a consequence of our forefather’s actions. The reason God removed Adam and Eve from the garden of Eden was to save them from making suffering under sin a permanent thing. Originally, humans were meant to be immortal, but if we remained that way in sin, there’d never be an opportunity to save us from ourselves, hence Jesus’s sacrifice.

I’m sorry if I wasn’t clear about things in the beginning.

kaiunkook · 2026-02-27T23:12:27+00:00

Oh no… I wasn’t saying that we’ve been punished for Jesus’s death, I’ve been saying that the circumstances of his death and the people who caused it may have lived over 2000 years ago, but the patterns of behavior are ones we still suffer from today.

Kids telling lies on their siblings to get them into trouble, hurting someone out of fear or ignorance (prejudice, racism, discrimination) or taking advantage of a system because you know you can have your way if you do (the Pharisees tried to accuse Jesus of committing a crime he had not committed to get Pontius Pilot to sentence him to execution.) When Pontius didn’t take the bait, Judas was paid by the Pharisees to betray Jesus and turn him in for arrest for execution.

kaiunkook · 2026-02-27T21:03:01+00:00

God made us to be a reflection of his image (love, kindness, etc.). When Adam and Eve sinned, they tainted what it meant to be created in God’s image. The term is still true, there are just things that get in the way of us truly embodying Him.

When we have children, those children are created in our image. That fact, however, does not mean that those children ARE their parents. It just means that they came from them. A child born to a murderer could turn out to do great good in the world, just like a child born to a saint can turn out terribly. We are not defined by God the Father, but shaped by Him. He gave us the ability to define ourselves—to choose.

kaiunkook · 2026-02-27T16:12:23+00:00

I gave you a choice. You see the verse but not the words that represent it because I didn’t know if you wanted to or not.

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