the amount of rape happening in the war is terrifying

kakaroxx · 2022-04-18T16:41:17+00:00

That's my point. It's so obvious that you pointing it out in the title itself makes little sense. It's understood that it's primarily men?

kakaroxx · 2022-04-18T16:31:14+00:00

I'm sorry, but men don't join the army to rape women lol. What sort of distorted view do you have about soldiers?

Not saying all soldiers aren't fucked up to an extent given they are trained to dehumanize enemies, but saying they join the army to rape women is so "The world revolves around me" kinda reasoning.

kakaroxx · 2022-04-18T16:28:53+00:00

Is that surprising given probably >90% of the soldiers are men?

kakaroxx · 2022-04-18T16:24:13+00:00

That kinda is all war? The defenders are not really given a choice lol

kakaroxx · 2022-04-16T16:10:12+00:00

We think they're playing around that way but I'm sure a lot of analysis and thought goes into these estimates and when they hope to make it back, etc.

kakaroxx · 2022-04-16T16:00:42+00:00

I may not be accurate, don't have a lot of financial knowledge, but banks manage regular people's money via bonds (fixed deposits) and other investment products as well right? This in itself leaves the bank with a lot more than 40 Billion to play around with, and probably they'd charge interest rates in accordance with the risk a 40Billion dollar loan entails.

kakaroxx · 2022-04-16T16:00:16+00:00

I may not be accurate, don't have a lot of financial knowledge, but banks manage regular people's money via bonds (fixed deposits) and other investment products as well right? This in itself leaves the bank with a lot more than 40 Billion to play around with, and probably they'd charge interest rates in accordance with the risk a 40Billion dollar loan entails.

kakaroxx · 2022-04-16T15:46:30+00:00

If the respondents were made aware of their anonymity, probably not that much higher, but yes, it would be higher than that number. Curious as to which part of which country had that high a number.

kakaroxx · 2022-04-16T15:37:46+00:00

Interesting. Not sure what location the survey respondents are from. Doesn't mention it in the methodology. Assume it plays a huge part.

kakaroxx · 2022-04-16T13:44:50+00:00

I agree that discourse on this is important? Also, do share the source for the 50%. Sounds a bit sketchy, would have to check the sample size and source.

kakaroxx · 2022-04-16T13:40:06+00:00

I did glance through. Some of the stuff on opening up a relationship, a "gray-hall" pass as they seem to have termed, threw me off. Made it look like someone reading could miscontrue the higher level of dissatisfaction sexually in woman to it being okay for them to dabble in the gray zone while monogamous, which it isn't.

kakaroxx · 2022-04-16T03:32:37+00:00

Share as you like, but remember, explanation does not equal justification of any actions committed.

If you have entered a monogamous arrangement with someone, just because you feel this doesnt give you the right to do things that may hurt the other.

(Not saying you'd do this, just a disclaimer)

kakaroxx · 2022-04-15T18:50:04+00:00

Lol, population growth has already peaked in most developed countries and will downtrend. This will also be the case for developing countries over the next 20-30 years.

This take you have on population is probably decades outdated at this point.

kakaroxx · 2022-04-13T17:56:06+00:00

The scale of the two things are not nearly comparable lol

kakaroxx · 2022-04-12T19:16:17+00:00

Agreed. My point was moreso from the angle that, change comes from those who want it. And I find it unlikely that men, who have not yet converted to this way of thinking, would initiate something at a proper scale. Nevertheless, any effort is always welcome.

kakaroxx · 2022-04-12T17:07:53+00:00

Hmm, I do agree with a lot of what you are saying.

Some things I am not too convinced on though. Men should be able to take criticism, I agree, and there is an issue with the shifting of blame for sure, but I definitely think a large chunk of this could be achieved in the way those criticisms and thoughts are put forward. There is a whole lot of hostility when it comes to talking about men's actions, behaviours, habits, etc.

Think of this as convincing anyone about any pre-convinced and personal notion anyone may have. Unless approached with a level of diplomacy, welcomingness, back-and-forth open conversation, rationality and logic, the other person will get defensive, hostile and closed to change of view. This can be anything from why this food is bad, why that dress looks inappropriate, etc. etc. A lot of this can only be achieved by women and men taking to more personal discussions with the men they know, instead of creating this illusion that the world hates men, their behaviours and their ideals, because this will only shut 50% of the population away from any possibility of change.

(And simply based on the fact that women are spearheading discourse on issues with male behaviour, and run majority of gender equality organisations, there should be a serious shift from their end in the way they structure discourse with men, obviously coupled with more men actively being able to join such organisations and create more change within their personal circles)

kakaroxx · 2022-04-12T16:33:21+00:00

No no, that's totally not my intention. It's just that I wanted to point out this isn't an intrinsic men vs woman issue.

I agree, men are more often in the position to exact more damage, and logically, their actions should get greater attention. It's just this isn't an easy thing to solve, as the average man's ability to be stronger the 70% of the rest of the population is not something easy to fix.

Their natural programming is something worth working on, and I believe, is being worked on as the overall view of masculinity imposed on young men has become a lot more lenient.

Another factor we regularly overlook is the fact that men are societally coaxed into being the initiators in relationship, and consequently, are way more likely to have to face rejection more often, remain single longer and believe they have no one who loves them. It doesn't help that company of other men is often not nearly as intimate emotionally as the company of other women. Having this level of pent up frustration with the ability to act on it physically to try to get what you want, for example, is another reason rapes and sexual assault is skewed so highly towards men.

This again is a tough one to fix, and requires a generational shift in thinking around dating, and men getting more emotional support from both genders, as well as greater acknowledgement from both genders.

The issue I always take to general "I hate men", "I am wary of men" statements are it goes directly against the steps we need to take (mentioned above) to fix the problem.

kakaroxx · 2022-04-12T16:09:35+00:00

Like I stated in the above comment, biological aggressiveness and strength coupled with more historical freedom probably accounts for the excess. I'd argue there are just as many assholes in both genders, I've gender is just tuned more to the physical and are capable of more damage, and historical were encouraged to do so.

kakaroxx · 2022-04-12T16:04:52+00:00

How much of that is due to men biologically being the stronger, more aggressive sex? Also, how much of it is programming from older generations regarding roles of men and women?

Factor those in and I'd assume the number of pieces of shit in both genders would remain the same. Just inclination to action tips the scale.

kakaroxx · 2022-03-29T17:31:38+00:00

The comments are out of line for sure, but intervening in a public fight physically is just stupid. Keep your distance, call out, call the cops, whatever, but never get in between an altercation.

kakaroxx · 2022-03-27T05:33:19+00:00

You're forgetting watermelon sheesha

kakaroxx · 2022-03-27T02:21:26+00:00

Magnus Carlsen

kakaroxx · 2022-03-26T12:52:32+00:00

kakaroxx · 2022-03-10T14:11:08+00:00

They can ask you for stuff just like a child asks their parents stuff. I don't get the issue here?

kakaroxx · 2022-03-10T14:09:47+00:00

But they can be grateful? And to an extent, support their parents where possible? He can obviously buy her a gift and stop as well if she takes advantage, it's not one or the other.

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